why is it so hard to date when you really want to but people flock to you when you're not looking?

Answer 1

When you are not looking, you don't appear to be desperate. When you are looking, you're not such a hot commodity. No one wants to be with someone who will go through all sorts of changes just to be with anybody.

It's funny that way. We are most appealing when we show confidence, that we are self fulfilled, and complete within ourselves.

Answer 2

They FLOCK to you? Somehow I doubt it.