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Sure everyone likes to think thier kid is smart, nice, etc. etc. but lets face it not everyone is smart, naturally or otherwise....what do you do when you realize that your kid is just plan stupid and probably never will "get it"

2006-08-05 12:44:27 · 16 answers · asked by dyno_bot 2 in Family & Relationships Family

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As long as the child is living up to their potential, then just deal with it. Not everyone was born to be an Einstein.

2006-08-05 12:48:06 · answer #1 · answered by WenckeBrat 5 · 0 0

Intelligence isnt binary, and love doesnt allow such things to be cut and dried.

Everybody has strengths and weaknesses. Nearly nothing is impossible if a person is willing to press on long enough, strong enough, and with great coaching/teamwork.

There are times that a kid is radically disabled, but for 99.9% of life, and 99.9% of kids this isnt the issue.

If its important, and both the child and parent agree about the importance, and they both work hard together on it, then nearly nothing is impossible.

I guess Im just disagreeing with your premise that stupid exists, or that anyone is it. There are things they are better and worse at, but nearly everything yields to time, passion, and hard work.

2006-08-05 19:51:11 · answer #2 · answered by Curly 6 · 0 0

Yes it is wrong because kids are NOT stupid. They may do or say stupid things, hell we all do or say stupid things but being and doing are two different things. Everyone has different abilities. Some learn quickly, some don't but that doesn't mean they're stupid. If your kid doesn't "get it" then have some patience and keep trying to help him learn it.

2006-08-05 22:35:05 · answer #3 · answered by Mollywobbles 4 · 0 0

You always try to keep them working and thinking at the top of their capacity - always challenging them to do better within what they are able.

The hard part is figuring out what their capacity and ability is, and make sure not to frustrate them by asking or expecting of them what they're not capable of.

This goes for more than mere mental ability - it also has to do with character, maturity and the whole enchilada.

As I observe other parents, the real difficulty is that this presupposes you actually spend enough time getting to know your children in all their different phases of life to be able to ascertain what their abilities, capacities and limits actually are.

2006-08-05 19:50:11 · answer #4 · answered by Timothy W 5 · 0 0

Work with their strenghths. There are many different learning styles. Some people learn best by doing something, others learn by reading a book. Some people are good with people, others are good working alone. Maybe they just aren't old enough to comprehend something and they'll understand when their brain had matured. Even so, you're right, some kids will never "get it." Enjoy them anyway.

2006-08-05 19:55:02 · answer #5 · answered by Your Mom 2 · 0 0

You know I could really be nasty here with you but I'm not going to lower myself down to your level. I read some of your other questions, and the one about the Stepford Wives....what can I say about that.......no I'm not going to....I will say this much though...I do feel sorry for your kids, you really don't deserve them. Not the way you talk about them. You keep talking about them they way you are, their self esteem is going to be so low!! How would you like it if some one was always telling you how stupid you were.

2006-08-05 20:41:11 · answer #6 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0 0

That comment doesn't make you sound as if you got it.
What hasn't he/she got. If you are referring to everyday common sense, that comes with time. Just because you tell a child something, doesn't mean he/she has it, you have to show him/her, sometimes more than a few times.
I hope you aren't referring to a mental disorder, as stupid. The child's Pediatrician would be a good place to start if that is the case.
Your child will live up to your expectations, and if you criticize him/her and tell them they are stupid, you may just get proved right.

2006-08-05 19:58:00 · answer #7 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0 0

omg
what kind of parent are you. i dont think my kid is stupid at all she might be a little behind but thats not her fault we were sold a house that had lead in it and she had lead poisoning. so she is just a little behind like in talking she will get it though. YOU have to be patient with the kid and teach them. over and over and over again until they do get it. if they now you think they are stupid then that will hurt them really bad!!!!! Im sorry but maybe you need lessons too!!! parenting lessons!!!

2006-08-05 19:50:41 · answer #8 · answered by Crimson_Skies 3 · 0 0

First, I hope this is just a random question. No one should think their child is STUPID. Second, hopefully if you love your child and know their limitations, then you should also know what their talents and abilities are so that you can guide them to an occupation they will find rewarding and can support them when necessary.

2006-08-05 20:02:11 · answer #9 · answered by butrcupps 6 · 0 0

Give your child tools for knowledge. Books and tutors do help, but the most important thing is encouragement. He/she won't accomplish anything if you don't have faith that they can do it.

Plus, if a child doesn't THINK they can do something, then they can't. It's true of all people, regardless of age.

2006-08-05 21:05:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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