How can I get my aunt and my mom to stop fighting?

Question

My aunt is very hard-headed and she's held a grudge on my mom for 6 years now, just because my mom and dad got divorced, she was mad. She just won't let it go. And since my aunt doesn't like my mom, my mom goes along w/ her and is mean just as much.
my aunt pretty much hates the world, she talks about everyone. I just don't know what to do. She flips my mom off when she's driving down the highway & she talks about my mom to me & I just don't know what to do.

I'm so confused..please help me.

Answer 1

You won't be able to change them.

If you love them both, you're going to have to find a way to ignore it. If they do this in front of you, ask them to stop because it hurts you. Also tell them how much you love them both.

That's all you can do. You can't heal what's wrong. They have to accept some responsibility.

Answer 2

I would suggest talking to your aunt, your mom, and your dad all separately. Find out all their feelings regarding the matter. If your father isn't holding a grudge on the divorce, you can talk to him about the matter and how much your aunt's behavior is troubling you. If you're not able to do this for whatever reason, I would suggest then trying to talk to each of them about their problems with each other. Try to get the whole story, then try to explain it to both of them. Let them know how their fighting is hurting you and how uncomfortable it makes you feel. It's probably rooted in a misconception or in old hurt feelings that have since been exacerbated rather than healed by time. It won't be easy at all, but if you want to make the effort, remember that they probably won't welcome this attempt on your part.

Answer 3

First of all, tell your aunt that it hurts you when shes talking bad about your mother. Second that life is to short for them to be acting this way. They need to make up. Tell your aunt that waiting and hold on to her anger is hurting everybody. And between you and me if your aunt does not stop talking bad about your Mon don't hang around her no more maybe she will get the hint. And sure she will ask you why and tell her the truth how you feel. Your moms feelings come first not your aunts. Please let us know how its going. Take care.

Answer 4

Ooo, this sounds like the problem I am having with my mother and her sister. My mother has financial troubles and my aunt seems to always have to bail my mom out. My aunt for the record is also depressed and was diagnosed three years ago. They seem to always get into a fight on the phone whenever money or their parents are brought up. Here is what you do, leave yourself out of it. Give everyone the silent treatment. Silence is golden.

Answer 5

Ask your Aunt and Mom To stop, either at the same time, in the same room, even if you have to do it at the top opf your lungs. It also sounds like a Dr. Phil Show, see if he can get into it and help out.

Answer 6

Nothing much you can do other than let your aunt know that she can't say ill things about your mom to you....

Answer 7

First of all stand up for your mother. Second, realize that she's
too hard headed too change but if you make it clear that you are
not going to put up with it, then it may cool down some.

Answer 8

Tell your aunt she's going to die a lonely miserable ***** if she keeps acting that way.

Answer 9

Let them fight amongst them selves. you will only be interfering and they may resent you for it. They are adults acting like teenagers it is their problem so let it be.

Answer 10

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