I often hear that you guys think women are easy if they give it up to soon. But if they don't give it up soon enough you go looking elsewhere. What's the deal? When do you not think she's a sl*t or a prude? Just curious.
2006-08-05 12:09:33 · 16 answers · asked by ? 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be honest please. LOL
2006-08-05 12:11:24 · update #1
I dont think you can put a certain time on it.
I think it depends on feelings.
If i know that a girl is doing it to "keep me around" or doesnt want me to look else where like you said but really doesnt do it because she loves me...thats kinda a sl*t to me.
Now I am not saying I want someone to wait until she loves me because that well takes a really long time.
I think the right time is whenever you have strong feelings for them that you feel could lead to love.
2006-08-05 12:13:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The older you get the more you will understand that what is right for you is all that counts. If you are attracted to him and you want sex then have it. It you do not then don't.
If a guy leaves because you won't have sex then you are far better off. You avoided a man who only wants you for one thing. Sex.
There will come a man one day that will not pressure you for sex, he will make it clear that he respects you, and you will know that if you choose to have sex it will be on your terms, not his.
This is the guy you are looking for. The rest, dump um.
Waiting for a certain period of time before going to bed is not relevant. If you think having sex will make you popular so you never let one get away because of it, you are wrong. Oh you will have lots of dates but most easy girls do. Yes that is what they will think of you.
Be that prude and only have sex with guys that respect you. Your reputation will thank you and you are much less likely to end up pregnant.
2006-08-05 19:28:54 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough question......I think that time isnt the issue, rather timing. Theres a time and a place and both parties should feel comfortable before anything takes place. If the woman is off on her timing whether to late or to soon it will ruin it.
2006-08-05 19:14:55 · answer #3 · answered by Daniel J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geez, this is a rough one to respond to. I'm with someone right now that I got intimate with fairly quickly but found out that it was mainly because she wanted to please me, to give me what she thought would make me want to stay with her. In other words, she wasn't ready for it and it became difficult for her to deal with. I've since explained that I'm okay with slowing things down, taking that part 'out' of our relationship for a time until she's comfortable with it. Is it going to be a few weeks, a few months? I can't really speculate on that, but I'm willing to wait.
I think a lot of women fall into a similar situation where they feel pressured into intimacy by their partner, and that the only way they're going to be able to hold onto him is to 'give it up' as you said. If a guy can't wait for things to progress naturally then he's not worth the time in my opinion.
2006-08-05 19:20:33 · answer #4 · answered by Deleted 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait at least 4-5 dates before giving it up.
2006-08-05 19:13:35 · answer #5 · answered by tim b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i personaly have a high respect for women and think that guys who get that sterio type(the one that you explained)get all the attention. which is why guys sound bad. but anyway i think that if you really care about a guy and he really cares about you then you shouldnt ever have to know a propper time frame and instead you should both be ready too. and if one of you arent ready to then the other person should (if they care about you) be willing to wait.
2006-08-05 19:27:48 · answer #6 · answered by thekidwiththeredhair_yay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least two weeks. I actually wish they would wait till marriage, but i couldn't and therefore I'm going to stik with my little two weeks, that's my biggest contradiction. The longer u wait though in anything it will enhance the experience.
2006-08-05 19:15:45 · answer #7 · answered by the sponge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont girls have a manual to these type a things? 3 months so i heard, but its not too often that people honor it =D! S-l-u-t = skip everything between small talk and second base =D!
2006-08-05 19:17:53 · answer #8 · answered by Seraphiel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 weeks has worked best on me. That's if you really want the person long-term though. If you don't care about wanting them long-term then I don't see how it really matters unless you just don't want people thinking ill of you in which case maybe you shouldn't do it until you do meet someone you want long-term.
2006-08-05 19:19:39 · answer #9 · answered by kq76 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 to 5 Dates should be ideal for the first sexual encounter.
2006-08-05 19:13:59 · answer #10 · answered by Alex007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋