wondering aboput punishing?

Question

How do you punish a 8 year old girl when she does something wrong? How do you punish your kids and how old are they?

Answer 1

My daughter is 8 as well and we do different things depending on what she has done. A parent usually knows what will get their childs attention better than anyone else. With hre we start out with the loosing priveledges. It might be no tv for a few days or if there is something else that keeps her attention more than tv we go with that. Also when she is on restriction she has to help clean the kitchen or another chore around the house instead of being able to just sit back and relax. Remeber at this age they are really testing their boundries and you have got to stay consistent with it all the time. If today the rule is no hitting your brother then it has to stay that way even if tomorrow you are tired and don't want to deal with it. Another great punishment I use is she has to clean her bedroom while on restriction. All day in that mess with no tv and usually she has the point.

Answer 2

I Totally agree with natural consequences. It makes the "punishment" into discipline. I have an 8 year old boy, and 4 year old girl. I always try to match the punishment to the crime in that they have to correct whatever they have done wrong. In very rare circumstances, I use corporal punishment (not often, though, it is reserved for big instances) My son gets time out for misbehaving socially. He gets toys/privileges taken away when he is abusing them. Or if he chooses to play rather than do what he is asked, he loses toys/electronics.
My 4 year old is still in the time-out for everything phase, just about. BUT, she HATES being alone in the time-out corner. So, it is very effective. We use this most for social misbehavior. (mean to brother/sister, ignoring mom/dad etc) I also have the big rules that get big punishment if they are broken. Disobedience, defiance, violence, or destruction of property are some of those. These offenses usually are punished with hard labor. (EXTRA chores that are EXTRA hard)
Then, when all is said and done, I ALWAYS hold my kids and tell them that MY job is to help them be GREAT people when they grow up, and if they can learn these lessons now, they will benefit in the long run. I love on them, and even tell them I am proud of them for taking their consequences with a good attitude.
Hope this gives you some ideas, and I will look back to get some other ideas from other people.
Good question!!!

Answer 3

I am old and my kids are grown up.
I think that most of the time punishment is not necessary. Some tips:
Don't expect too much of her. She will act like an 8 year old- not a 9 year old and not an adult. When we expect more of children we wind up being mad at them when they act child-like.

Teach her what she CAN do instead of what she did that was wrong.

What might be a logical consequence for what she did? If she broke something, can she work to earn money to replace it, for example? If she has hurt someone's feelings, can she write a note to them?
(One example- when one of my sons was a teen, he had a screaming fit outside and used swear words. I made him write letters of apology to all the neighbors who might have heard his inappropriate language. He never did that again!)

Most punishment is not effective because it won't really teach them much- except maybe to try to hide it when they get into trouble.

Just my opinion...

One more thing...get breaks! Being a parent of a young child is exhausting!! When we are tired we are more likely to lose our patience with them when they act like--- kids!

Answer 4

Never lose your cool,,, nor act out in an abrupt manner. Kids learn from the parent and will portray this. Depending on the nature of the incident which really madders, never get upset over spilled milk. Time out is good,,, standing in the coroner works for me. I also use a stare look and point to their room. Really depends on the child each is a different little person and cherishes things in a different way. One has to find out what it is that they are in to and use it against them. And remember kids need to be talked to, sometimes over and over, just like studying for a test. I think that's how they learn. My kids are 17,5,3, and I love them all, and wouldn't put much anything they do in front of that.

Answer 5

Wow, eight year old girls can be sassy. I have an 11 1/2 year old boy. When he was younger we'd take away his favorite toy or tell him he's grounded. even at that age they have a social life. (Plus, they aren't generally making playdates yet so they don't know if they didn't have any to begin with.) Now a days we ground him, add chores or take away his screen time. (screen time includes t.v., playstation2 and computer for fun (for learning is still o.k.)

Answer 6

in most cases with my girl i just tell her how i am disappointed in her and she herself gives me what she thinks is a fair punishment even though she is 8 they are old enough to know the diff in my opinion it has to do with how the parent raise the child from birth ex: if they swear at a young are most parents i know laugh but that's not wright you are teaching your child that its ok then when they are older you get mad. Be consistant.

Answer 7

Mess with their head in a good way. Instead of yelling at them, you say"(childs name),I am really disappointed in you. Go to your room while I think of your punishment and read a book." They go to their room, read a while, you enjoy silence for a little while, then when they ask you about their punishment, talk to them about making better choices.Kids are 14,11,4.5

Answer 8

Time outs and loss of privaleges work. Keep them appropriate. An example that I dealt with today: If my daughter (12 years old) throws or abuses her property, she loses it; if my son (2 years old) throws or abuses his property, he loses it; if my daughter throws or abuses my son's property, she is sent out of the common play area. Children are entitled to food, clothing, shelter, and love - everthing else is a privalege and must be appreciated.

Answer 9

discipline needs to reflect the actions...

ie. natural consequences...

if she messes up her room... she cleans it..

if she misbehaves while out... she stays home next time.

if she swears then she must write a letter of apology to the person who she swore at..

in most instances of what is perceived to be naughty... simple reminders are all that is required..

in instances of defiance do remember that defiance is how kids test the boundaries.. that doesnt make their behaviour right but it does help you understand why they do it...

Answer 10

Time out is good. When my son was young, he'd have to sit in the corner.