I need to know if I should worry about my relationship with my girlfriend?

Question

I've been with my girlfriend for two years. We live apart and up until now, I've had no doubt about her feelings for me. A few days ago, however, my girlfriend told me she met a guy on a flight coming home and gave him her number. She's never done that before. Then he called her yesterday to go out for lunch and she accepted. She took two of her friends which she said would help defuse any idea that she was interested. She left a voice mail saying that she still loved me amazingly enough (which made me wonder if the guy was trying to sweet talk her.) I got a hold of her on the phone and she said that the guy, a professional baseball player, wasn't after anything but I think he was. She's very attractive and I worry that he was interested in her. Even if she isn't interested, I can't help but think she gave signals that she was. I feel a bit sore that she'd actually do something like this. Am I being jealous and reading too much into all this? Or am I right to worry?

Answer 1

I am so sorry you are going through this. I once had something happen to me. I was f over. But it sounds as if you probably have a chance. Just play it out and don't push her closer to him. If you are always asking her questions, and accusing her, she will turn to him. Don't act jealous, just rock her world, do something romantic, do somethings to sweep her off her feet. Do not let her get away. And you'll be fine.

Answer 2

I don't know the histrory between you two, as to what you did for each other etc. If your girl is good looking and likes money and nice things. You have every right to be worried of her going out with this Professional Base Ball player.

For all you know and i'm speculating, she could have known this guy for some time longer than she is leading you to believe, and it is only now ( May Be ). She is trying to have a clean break from you as her conscience is playing on her. Some women and men can win an Oscar award for living and acting out a double life.

It is not what a woman say , it is what she do. Don't let her blind you into not seeing things straight. She love you etc as she say, then what is the reason of going out with this guy in the first place if nothing is between them.

Bringing her friends a long is just part of her chicanery. If she wanted to cheat on you. You think those friends can stop her ?

Listen to your Gut feelings and have an attitude of preparing for the worse and hoping for the best. Women and Men can do or say any thing in a relationship. Two years is not a long time enough to know some people, and like you said the fact that you live a part have created too many gaps in your relationship.

An ideal relationship is like a close fist. The fact that yours is like an open hand with spaces like between your five open fingers in your hand is not a good one.

Any thing can pass between your fingers that you don't know behind your back. In ending there is two sides to Every Story and then there is the truth.

Answer 3

No you don't have anything to worry about. She wasn't sending a signal that she was interested when she gave him her number. And nothing happened on their flight together. Of course, meeting him for lunch wasn't a signal she was interested either. After all her girlfriends were there to help defuse the idea she might be interested, not because she wanted to show off this beefy hunk (black or white doesn't matter if he's a baseball player)to her friends. When he called her that wasn't a signal he was interested in her either, otherwise he wouldn't have taken her out for lunch. If he was interested in her, he would have asked her out for dinner. Everyone knows that. I mean, why on earth would anyone want to start on a date that early in the day? I mean look, even if he is interested in her, as a pro-ball player, he goes from town to town a lot, and he's not going to be around much. He also no doubt meets girls to have fun with in most of them, or even on the trip back and forth. Lots of nice stewardesses. But these are all the kind of women that he wouldn't get too involved with on the long term, since, after all they are sluts who cheat on their husbands and boyfriends. Why should he settle for one like that? So, she'll be back. Until the next time his team is in town. In the words of the astute yahoo answerer bschaf13 "women are the devil". You might want to start using condoms.

Answer 4

I would DEFINITELY be worried. It really sounds to me like she's interested in the guy. You pretty much have to ask yourself if you trust her or not. Chances are, if she wasn't with you she'd be pursuing this guy. A pro baseball player? Come on. Money rules the world, if this guy is well known and makes a lot of money, she's probably going after him. Who is the player by the way? And another thing, don't listen to her excuses about her their relationship is just "friends" or whatever if that's what she tells you, that is an absolute load of garbage.

Answer 5

It's one thing going to a party or a nightclub and you dance with another guy/girl but you never accept someone else's phone number in a commited relationship! I feel personally if he just wanted to have lunch and she didn't want him to get the wrong idea she should have invited you to go along with them. Name a guy who wouldn't want to meet a baseball player!!! Even when I really can't stand being near my husband when we have arguments I would never take another guys number thats crossing the line! Tell her how you feel. She was tottaly out of line. And another thing just because she took her girlfriends dosen't mean anything, friends and family will usually cover up anything for their loved one, trust me I've seen things that my friends have done that are totally wrong, I told them how I felt about it but never told their partner.

Answer 6

No, you're not reading too much into it. If she took two friends on this luncheon to "defuse it" why not take you instead? She was probably as attracted to him as he was to her and she wanted to check it out further. I wouldn't worry though. As long as you've been treating her well if she's having second thoughts about the two of you you can't change that. Better now than after you're married with children.

Answer 7

best advice leave her. if she wasnt interested she would have given him her number.she gave him her number in hope that something serious could happen $$$ and tells you she loves you just in case it doesnt she still has you.trust me i'm a woman and i once was young and stupid and did something very similiar to my ex. sad but true. though some might not admit this we women can do anything, make you believe anything, manipualte the truth, twist words around. anythin we want to. and make ourselves "come out the good guy" if she tells you she was testing you it's a lie. i've used that one plenty of times. I can say that if i really love my boyfriend i wouldn't even think about going out with another guy even just as "friends"

Answer 8

follow your gut, your girl is a cheating bastard! first, you're her boyfriend so why is she giving out her number? second, he called and she accepted a lunch DATE. third, she took her friends with her ...why? she obviously wanted to show him off. four, if he is a professional baseball player, your girl is a groupie. fifth, no woman who loves her man would do that and a man would only want to go out with a woman if he was interested and a woman would not accept unless she was, too. Conclusion ...dump that female - you deserve better and you already know what the deal is ...we did not have to tell you.

Sorry!

p.s her honestly was to blatantly punk you, don'y believe she is searching for your attention - she is playing games and eventually those games will become real intense.

Answer 9

a)Your relationship is confusing. voicemail? "got a hold of her"? After 2 years, it doesn't sound like you are that close...although, honest of her to come out and tell you.
b)She's probably pretty hot...baseball players usually have pretty hot girlfriends.
c)He was definitely hitting on her.
d)She was probably into him a bit.
6)I'd feel a little sore myself...did she tell him she had a bf?
You guys can definitely put this in the past if nothing really happened.

Answer 10

YOU SHOULD BE A LITTLE CAUTIOUS ABOUT THE SITUATION AT HAND. RESEARCH THIS GUY JUST AND SEE IF HE'S LEGIT. TRY TO SWEEP YOUR GURL OFF HER FEET BEFORE THIS GUY DOES. IF WANT HER LIKE U SAY, U SHOULD DO EVERYTHING IN YOUR POWER NOT TO LET THIS GUY MOVE IN ON YOUR GURL. BUT THERE ALSO COULD BE AN ALTERNATIVE TO THIS SITUATION. LET HER DATE THIS GUY FOR A WHILE AND LET HER SEE WHAT HE IS ABOUT. AND MAYBE U SHOULD SEE OTHER PEOPLE TOO (JUST TO SEE WHAT IS OUT THERE) AND IF IN THE END U TWO FIND THAT NO ONE ELSE IN THIS WORLD COULD SATISFY U THEN U ALL SHOULD GET BACK WITH EACH OTHER. IF IT WAS MEANT TO BE THEN IT WILL BE!

Answer 11

damn right you are.

The fact that she's being "honest" with you by telling you that she gave this guy her number is a test to see if you have any backbone.

You've failed that test.

Now that she has sloughed off what little respect she had for you in the first place, be prepared to her to start parading new "friends" in front of you. Maybe it'll even get to the point where she allows you to change the sheets after she and one of her "friends" use the bed.