Since most people say that you are "never really feel ready to have a child". I was just wondering based on your personel beliefs what are important milestones that must be reached before taking on this major responsibility?
2006-08-05 11:49:25 · 11 answers · asked by star 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
If everyone waited until they were "ready" no one would have children
2006-08-05 11:54:33 · answer #1 · answered by j231977 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you prepared? Wow! that is a LOADED question.
A basic list of milestones that I believe are essential to bringing a child into the world:
Marriage. A good, strong, open-communicating marriage. Not a committed boyfriend. When you have a child, 2 births happen simultaneously. The child is born and 2 people become parents.
Financial Stability. Not WEALTH, just the ability to incure the extra added expense of children. And remember, babies are cheaper than older children. They get more expensive the older they get.
Education: I always thought I'd go back to school "some day" but the problem isn't whether I am able to attend school, the problem is that my children are infinitely more important to me than a degree, therefore the 2nd half of college will probably happen for me when I'm in my 40s, and my children are grown.
Other milestones to consider are personal goals....do you want to travel? do it first, or wait 20 years. A career? do you want to focus on getting where you want to be while you focus on children? It's a tough balancing act, and wears on a mom or dad. What about extended family? Do you live close to the would-be Grandparents? they become more and more important as your children grow.
I hope this doesn't sound too much, honestly, I didn't wait for all these things either, but I do have a wonderful husband to go through it with me.
Bottom line is, make your best plans, and then go for it. Plans will change, and you will adapt and grow. Enjoy it!
2006-08-05 19:05:11 · answer #2 · answered by sexymommyof3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I had a child after 6 years of marriage. We waited until we had a strong foundation together before we added a child into the mix. So many people have children right away and when the children grow up, the parents are strangers with each other. We didn't want that to happen.
Also, we wanted to wait until we were financially secure (which still hasn't happened). But, there really is no getting ready for a baby. The experience changes everything-and there is no way to explain how much a child will alter your emotions, your body, ,your life, your relationship with your spouse... you will never be the same again.
2006-08-05 19:00:06 · answer #3 · answered by kymberly_smith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are ready to have a chld when you can put someone else before yourself, are ready to give up new clothes to make sure a baby has them instead, can be happy staying at home instead of out running around with friends. But at the same time a lot of us learn this AFTER we find out baby is on the way. I was 22 when I had my first one and still didn't feel like I was completely ready but as long as you aren't so selfish that you cant put someone else and their needs above your own you will be fine because the rest all plays out when they lay the baby in your arms.
2006-08-05 19:07:37 · answer #4 · answered by Martha S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
finish whatever schooling you want to do...
are you married??? that was a big one for me, my first daughter was born out of wedlock and then my 2nd after we were married, and the pregnancy experience as far as how people treated me were VERY different.
how long have you been marrried if you are, because my husband and i had a child BEFORE we were married, we never had just me and him time, we were only together 4 months when i got pregnant. so i see friends of ours that still have no kids and they get eachothers attention all the time. I cant be selfish whatsoever, i have 2 babies i have to think about with anything that i do.
Do you have any traveling trips you would like to make? do those first!
2006-08-05 18:56:18 · answer #5 · answered by gmc_girl87 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be financially secure. That is the number one thing you must think of. If you do not have enough money to give this child a quality life, don't have it.
Next, You must be physically and emotionally ready for the child.
You'll know when you're ready. The time will come.
2006-08-05 19:08:20 · answer #6 · answered by Stella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first thing to think about is:how old you are
2. is school over for me now?
3. is the job i have enough to make ends meet?
4. do i live in the right home for a baby?
5. have i done all that i want to for now?
6. is there a father that is willing to help me with all of this for the rest of this childs life?
7. can i have a baby sitter to stay with this child and pay for it?
8. church?
9. what will it be like if this child gets sick?
10. can i aford to miss work when the baby gets to sick for the sitter not to come and take care of my baby?
all these things should be considered before you have a baby.
rember it's for the rest of your life with this child.
it's not like babysitting and send it home to someone elas.right
2006-08-08 12:50:25 · answer #7 · answered by DENISE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
having a baby is alot of work its a 24/7 job trust me i have a 2 year old and now shes a monster just letin u know that its not easy its hard and u will need a job cuz diapers r not cheap good luck
2006-08-05 21:56:30 · answer #8 · answered by Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finishing school (including college), starting a career, having fun and living your life. Don't want regrets for what you didn't do
2006-08-05 18:56:04 · answer #9 · answered by Chris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, congrats! but maybe you should get married first that's how it should be.
2006-08-09 15:36:48 · answer #10 · answered by colene 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋