I feel weird casue my boyfriend....?

Question

spends lots of money on me and i would feel horrible about breaking up with him but i feel like we dont have anything in common, i'm kina stuck what should i do? should i wait and see if my feelings change? he's all of a suden very serious about us.

i dont let him buy me things. i mean like movies and lunch and dinners. the reason why ive stayed is that all the guys i've been with before have hurt me and have not treated me like he does. i do like him but i dont love him and he wants things to last throughout college.

i thought it would be a good idea that i should take a 180 and date someone that is safe and will not hurt me. there is no chase not exitement in it though.....

and another thing i'm not in it for the money i'v got plenty of my own....

we started out as friends and i thought we would have a better relationship for it....

Answer 1

If you don't want to be with him then leave. He can't buy you off.

Answer 2

If you didn't think the relationship had a future then I don't think that you should have been taking so much money off him. Maybe you should have paid for dinner once in a while. But, I know that it's too late to think like that, what's done is done. You should definately break up the relationship as soon as possible (unless you have been together a week then maybe you can wait and see what it's like in a couple more weeks!), the earlier the better. Give him back anything that has monetary value but don't give back things of sentimental value as I think that would be quite rude. On the whole, if you are having these feelings now, then you are probably on the wrong path in the relationship. Don't feel obliged to be with someone because they spend money on you.

Answer 3

You think that him trying to buy your affection will eventually lead to genuine feelings? You should show some self respect and walk away if your feelings for this man are not true. How can he be serious about a relationship which is based upon him buying you off? He is only serious about not being alone, if he needs to buy you then he is very insecure. Such a relationship cannot be healthy.

Answer 4

I've been in the other side of the story. I know it's hard to do it. But I realized that, I wouldn't change my mind. I liked her as a friend, but not as a companion. Keeping the relationship longer would just make it hurt more when we broke. It's a 'when', not 'if', so I broke. It was hard to say, 'Sorry, but I want to break up', but the alternative would have been harder in the long run.

What would end up is in you hurting him, so that he decided to break up. Explain to him that you're sorry, but that you really don't love him. You thought about it a lot, and you reached that conlusion.

I really hope you end up good about it. Sorry about the relationship.

Answer 5

if you like him and ur having fun and the relationships not destructive thats great im not sure how old u are but u sound young don't go looking for love too early u don't need to find the guy ur gonna marry, as long as ur enjoying the time u spend together. if ur afraid u don't feel the same as he does maybe u 2 would be better as good friends, either way u should talk to him about it, he needs to know how u feel.

Answer 6

Its hard to let someone so nice go but its cruel to lead him on if you truly do not feel as he does. You may one day find a nice man to treat you right and also make your pulse race. The boy you are with now is wasting his time and money, he could be out there looking for a girl who will return his feelings be fair to him let him go gently.

Answer 7

don't feel you are indebted to him because of his generosity. If you stay with him for that reason you are betraying both of you and ultimately you will start to feel cheap about yourself. You need to have respect for you both, work out why you're with him and if you want to stay together. don't take count of the spending etc take count of him as a person. you will know how you feel, but if you have to ask maybe you're looking for a way out. Only you know the answer. Good luck honXXXXX

Answer 8

How long have you two been dating? In general, if you know he's not the one you should break it off asap so you don't string him along. But if it hasn't been that long, and you wanna give it a couple more months to see if your feelings for him will grow or change then do that.

Answer 9

youre obviously not going to magically love this guy and it sounds like it doesnt feel right. you are gonna have to part. its always hard but tell him he is a really nice guy and he deserves someone who loves him but you are sorry, u just dont and u just dont feel for him that way. maybe say, id like to stay friends but if u dont want to, thats fair enough but thats all u can offer him. he will be hurt but u cant stay with someone just so that u dont hurt their feelings. he will get over it. good luck.

Answer 10

no, no, no, never fell obliged to stay with someone for the sake of how they feel, harsh i know but you will end up staying for another few weeks then before you know it you will be asking the same question again, guilt then takes over and before long you are resenting the fact that he has made you feel like this then the split is nasty and you look like the bad guy!!!! good luck....

Answer 11

so you're just in it for the money huh? if you dont like him that much why would you lead him on and accept all the things he buys, or let him spend money on you? tell him how you feel and move on. how do u think he will feel if he found out about this later on in your "relationship"?