Should I ask her out even though she is my best friend and we be friends since we we were kids?

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Ok there is this girl who I am best friends with and we have been friends for so long since we were like 2 and 3 and we used to play together in the kiddy pool. She's funny, inteligent, makes me laugh and we have such good times together. The thing is I really, really like her and both our friends are saying stuff like like 'are you blind man' , 'she never takes her eyes off you' , you 2 would be so good together' , and her parents think I am cool I even helped to paint their porch last summer. the thing is I respect her so much, I would never want to hurt her or offend her or hurt our friendship by doing something she might not want. I guess I am just looking for oppinions from outside people ESPECIALLY FROM GIRLS but guys to should I ask her out even after we have been friends for so long

Answer 1

If you REALLY like her then yes. But if you are not ready for the consiqunces that it may cause then I wouldn't. But if you really like her you should never hold it in.

Answer 2

just wanted to tell you my experience. My best friend since junior school and i were so close and spent so much time together that even his and my family thought that we were going to end up together. One night we were in my room, listening to music, having a laugh and tickling each other. Next thing we were kissing & ripping each others clothes off! We very nearly went all the way, but i started to cry and get upset because i thought that if we had sex then it would totally change things and what if we both felt so awkward and our friendship was never the same again. We are still really good friends, and are both married to different people now. A couple of days before i got married he came to see me and told me that he never would have made me happy and that i deserved better than he could give me, and that it was time to let him go. God did i cry! I am now happily married to a wonderful man who makes me really happy.

Answer 3

My best friend and I met online. We were friends for 6 years with him constantly asking me out and I kept refusing because I didn't want to lose the friendship. Well a few months ago I finally decided that I was tired of playing games with all the guys around here, because they do nothing but mess with your mind, and I finally told him I would go out with him. I am so unbelievably crazy in love with this man it is unreal. Telling my best friend yes was the smartest move I ever made. We both felt the same way about not wanting to lose the friendship, and we decided that no matter what happens, we will go back to being friends. He can be a butt at times...but it doesn't change the way I feel about him. I think you should talk to her and tell her how you feel. May just be the smartest move you've ever made...it was for me.

Answer 4

You are taking a big risk if you ask her out no matter what she would say. If she says "No", then things will be awkward between you two after that. If she says "Yes", it's 50-50 it will work out. If things don't work out, you will probably lose her as a friend after that. I would just keep her as a friend, and in time, she will help you find the girl you'll be happy with. Personally, I don't think it's a good idea to take such a risk in losing such a good friend.

Answer 5

Hey: love is a beautiful thing! But I get where you're coming from! So, if you want to tread lightly, then why not try a different approach? How about a really nice note; express how much you value her friendship, you know, like what it means to you, and then express that if she would like it, then would she like to go out with you ~ and leave the decision to her to choose.
Whatever, this way, she can choose to just keep it at the friends level; or you might find she "jumps" at the chance to take to further!
All the best with this- and good luck!

Answer 6

There are tons of ways to approach this
you can ask her " Hey I heard that you have a crush on me. Is it true" since you've known her fo ra long time she reply honestly make sure she looks directly at you if she denies it.
2. Or you can say " Listen i know we've been friends for a long time and i think i'm starting to fall in love with you. Do you maybe want to go out sometime?"
If you dont like them both email me and i'll give u some other ones.

Answer 7

Well, I don't have enough information to tell wheather or not she likes you, but you do like her.

The best person to date is someone you are already friends (especially best friends) with. That brings a level of intimacy to the relationship you can't get any other way.

I would suggest that you tell her that you value your friendship with her and it means alot to you all the fun times you have had together. (add whatever nice (sincere) words you want to say.) Then tell her you want to deepen the relationship by becoming boyfriend & girlfriend but tell her if she just wants to be friends you will respect that, too.

That way, you cover both possibilites, and you don't miss out on the opportunity of asking out a nice girl who means alot to you.

Answer 8

yes but go as a group or something that is a fun get together. This way the pressure is off, for both of you. And, if it looks like you both are feeling the same attraction then go for it. What have you got to lose. She will still be your friend. Provided you respect her always.

Answer 9

I was in a similar situation. I sat my best friend down and said that I was in love with him, but that our friendship was the most important thing to me. We have been married 12 years and have the best relationship. We call each other several times a day, text, go to movies, and watch t.v. curled up on the couch. That is what best friends do. Relationships not based on friendship end up in divorce court because after the fire dies down there is nothing left.

Answer 10

ASK HER ALREADY! You will never know how she feels unless you ask her. Do you really want her to start seriously dating someone else because she lost all hope of ever being with you?
I was always told that your best friend will make the best spouse..
If you guys are as good of friends as it sounds like you are, you should be able to just straight up tell her how you feel. good luck man

Answer 11

listen man, if you want 2 be sitting there years from now when she is with some other guy and you wish for just tht one chance you should have took, then don't ask her out. but if you take a chance and ask her, well, you could be onto probally the greatedt thing in your life! go for it man even if she says no you should be man enough to move on with her and stay friends, but just think what u could have! go for it!