when does one know its time to leave a job?

Question

my boss who has befriended me, has ended up backstabbing me...i have taken this as a lesson learned...but me quitting will give her a sick satisfaction...but apparently she has been trashing me anyhow...she recently was asked to step down from her position...do i give my work a chance even though i am burnt out?

to clarify some of details...boss has done this to others, ie backstabbing, emotionally manipulating, ect. unaware of these behaviors until it happened to me...these are some of the reasons she was asked to step down. it seems she is talking crap, making up **** to defame my character to other employees. calling me crazy, saying im ready to have a breakdown...i am burnt out...but thats because of her running me into ground. i feel if i leave she will get the biggest charge out of this...i am way better than this. but i am drained...thanks to all of you for your imput...

Answer 1

Make a list of all the good things about your job, currently. Make a list about all the bad things currently. Then quantify the good and bad things like 1 if it is not important to 5 if it is really important. If the bad things list adds up to a lot more than the good things list, then it is time to consider looking for a new job.

Also make a list about all the things it will take to change jobs, including the uncertainty factor that another job is waiting for you if you quit before finding it. Rank by importance, then see how the total compares to the bad things list (if the bad things rated out higher than the good things).

My advice, hang in there three months, at least. This will give you a chance to find your next job and interview, as well as assess the situation post backstabbing.

Employers are always more interested in a person who is in a job, who is looking for a new one, than in someone who is unemployed - for some reason.

Answer 2

I don't understand is your problem with your friend/boss who befriended you and has backstabed you and trashed you?
or is it, you are burnt out?
if it you ex-friend who has back stabed you, and trashed you as you say, and she is stepping down then wait, to see what the new boss brings, be for you even think about leaving.
if
on the other hand, you are just burnt out, and have been for a long time, maybe your friend was not backstabbing you or trashing you but telling like she sees it, and you are just PO about it. and you might want to say sorry, instead of loosing a friend. but in this case I think you should take a long vacation, or look for another job asap, and leave for days, or permanently, cause no matter what boss you get next, you will be done their sooner or latter if you don't.

Answer 3

The main reason you list for quitting may have been solved - your boss has stepped down. So, if that's the only issue, then you might be better off polishing your resume, but not beginning a serious search for another few months.

It's a good idea to do a job search, go on two or three interviews every few years anyways, just to make sure that you are always getting the salary and treatment you deserve.

Answer 4

Aside from your relationship with your current boss, if you like what you do and are satisfied with your pay then I would stay a little longer and see what happens with the situation. If you are confident you can find somewhere else that offers higher pay, better benefits, and have no doubt in your mind that your skills can be equally valuable elsewhere, then go for it... But don't officially quit until you know you've been hired of course.

Answer 5

well either you choose when o leave or she has the satisfaction of firing you. they'll work you to death and act as if you've done nothing, or don't do your job well, overwhelming you with tasks until you quit or until they can say you aren't doing your job.

If your place ther without her would make your job easier than stick it out since she's already been taken down a step. she may still work hard to make you appear like a bad employee.

I would look for a better position else where and than leave on your own terms.

Answer 6

If you get a better job,where the pay is better and so on, I say ditch the job you have now. Unless you like a lot of stress and heartache. If you can hold out and see if she steps down then maybe staying would be better. Hey, maybe you could even end up with her job. Good luck.

Answer 7

take a vacation, regroup. go some where were you can center your self. come back talk to her boss, let her know what's been going on. but if you dread going to work every single day when you wake up it's going to show in your performance, and you may be let go instead. post your resume on monster, and just hang tight. it's hard when your in the mess to see a bigger picture. try talking to a mentor of sorts, it will help getting a fresher perspective. and if you are cheerful and happy at work people are not going to care what that lady is saying about you anyway.

Answer 8

It depends on whether you have a career or a job.

If you have a career, then you need to plot your job changes carefully with an eye out for your long-term strategy.

If you just have a job, then find a job you like better BEFORE you quit your current job.

Answer 9

You need to discern what the right answer is beyond your immediate emotional state. Here is a great site to select motivational materials that may help you change your life for the better.

You deserve to live a life of joy and no one has the right to stop you.

http://www.nightingale.com/tproducts_all.asp

Answer 10

It depends on how much time you have invested in your job and the kind of job you have. You didn't state this. Is finding another job easy for you? Would your benefits be comparable at another job as they are at the one you are currently at? These are things to consider if you want to leave a job as well.