Here is the situation, i met this girl who I like very much... but she wants me to do things to her in bed that just aren't me... ie lightly strangle, talk rough, and spit into her vagina for lube (sorry for being so graphic) none of these things to be honest turn me on, yet she LOVES it.... does this mean that she is of questionable morals and that there is something wrong with her? or does a person's turn-ons have nothing to do with their personality/morals? Please let me know, thanks!
2006-08-05 11:16:40 · 11 answers · asked by Sconeage 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, you shouldn't judge a person's moral fiber by what they do in bed. A relationship is about intimacy - it's a place where both of you can let your hair down and be yourselves. Now, if she was doing that in front of a camera, on the internet, or with other people while also dating you... then, that says something about her moral fiber.
2006-08-05 11:23:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah Buzz, she knows what she likes and probably thought she was comfortable enough to tell you. If you don't like it, tell her "i'm just not into that way of making love". Show HER something YOU like. Sex will be a big part of the relationship early on, so you better speakup now or forever have "dry mouth"
Here's a cool trick, get serious and tell her you want her to burn your nipples with lit cigarettes, if she freaks out, then say "yeah, that's how it is for me when you ask me to do all this other stuff to you"
If she's suddenly taken up smoking, GET OUT OF THE HOUSE NOW!!! RUN FAST!!!
2006-08-05 18:50:30 · answer #2 · answered by John Stamos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being in an intimate relationship means that she should be able to be completely honest about herself without your judging her. Understand that this is part of her character - it doesn't have to reflect positively or negatively. Most couples have sexual differences. They usually compromise. Balance likes and dislikes and come up with something that pleases both of you!
It also wouldn't hurt for you to surprise her everyone once in a while to make her happy, but don't risk your own comfort with the relationship.
2006-08-05 18:29:23 · answer #3 · answered by Spiked Coffee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think a person's likes and dislikes in bed have anything to do with the person's morals. She is willing to try something a little risky when she's with you and it's because she feels safe to try that with you.
2006-08-05 18:22:00 · answer #4 · answered by kukkeeme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just means that she has been with enough guys to know what she likes, and that if you are REALLY talking about moral fiber here, well, er...that fiber is a little string that is about to break. She is not your type. Move on.
2006-08-05 18:24:27 · answer #5 · answered by lcamel2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even if there is nothing wrong with this and if she has a great personality, the fact that you don't like those things is gonna break your relationship. may be at first you will try to compromise but after a while it will drive you crazy. so find somebody who is not strange for you. :)
2006-08-05 18:25:20 · answer #6 · answered by Val 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my experience the sexual prefrence has something to do with personality sexually. or you could try and find you may like it the choice is yours. or even talk to her and see what happens. you have to be open and think that maybe something has happened to her or she experimented and found that she did like it. in my opinion you need to get out now. you are headed for a break up anyway due to you not liking what she likes and her not getting satisfied the way she wants neither of you are going to be happy in the long run. good luck to finding your happiness!!
2006-08-05 18:26:42 · answer #7 · answered by carrie j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No direct connection and nothing is wrong with either of you. Most women are one way in public and another way behind closed doors. Experiment with her, you might both learn something from each other
2006-08-05 18:24:57 · answer #8 · answered by johnnydean86 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope u shouldn't judge on that because the most quiet calm and shy person could be da freakiest person in da bed. neva judge a book by da cover
2006-08-05 18:35:16 · answer #9 · answered by powderjusblazin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Morally i don't think u should doubt her. But it might cause tense at later stages in ur life.
2006-08-05 18:24:28 · answer #10 · answered by Alex007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋