All my efforts to pull her for the past 15months proved arbortive. is it not my right to know my propose wife to the fullest? if the above answer is NO, how can i avoid marrying a commercial sex worker for a virgin or a fairly used one?
2006-08-05 11:00:08 · 18 answers · asked by Sir Joe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like she's the one making the mistake by marrying a guy who has no respect for her wishes, beliefs or convictions. Poor woman.
2006-08-05 11:04:22 · answer #1 · answered by Emm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not understand the nature of true love. True love does not require sex before marriage. When you truly love someone these things just fall into place. I didn't even kiss hubby until we got to the altar and that was the most awesome thing ever. We have a bond of trust that is amazing and there is no shame. He knew me better without having sex than he would if we did have it. Sex is awesome but it's such a small piece of the marital equation when you compare what is really needed to make a lasting relationship work. You obviously don't know what true love really is or you wouldn't pressure her at all. True love is what you give of your self, what you sacrifice for another person, what painful things you would do for their best benefit. If you really loved her - you wouldn't care how she is in bed first. You wouldn't demand your way - love doesn't demand it's own way. So, if you do marry at this time, you'll be sorry because selfishness divides a relationship in a terrible way - it won't last. Most of the folks I dated before hubby would not date me because I refused to even kiss and - just ask hubby - I'm no cold fish. I was saving something precious and treasured for him! There are women out there who would knock your socks off but you'll never know if you don't truly love them. In fact, I'd go so far as to say - the more a woman resists - the more rewarding it will be when you marry and she lets that go. It's like building up to something amazing - not torturing and bringing you down. There's another side to this equation you haven't stopped to consider. You have sex for selfish reasons - you marry to love someone. When each partner in a marriage is doing what they do to fulfill their partner rather than release their own pent up sexual feelings - WOW - that's more amazing than anything you've ever experienced.
2006-08-05 11:09:25 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont already know whether your proposed wife is a sex worker or a virgin, you have no business marrying her in the first place.
The only question is, do you love her? If you do, you have a choice: Marry her without having sex first and hope you're compatible, or give her up and never know.
2006-08-05 11:07:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your soon to be wife Christian? Did you know about her preference before you started dating? I totally understand your frustration but is your relationship good other than that? I would say that if there is a religious reason and especially if you knew about it before going into the relationship, stick it out. What ever she does not know you can always teach her. My only warning is make sure that she likes sex, wants to have it when you get married and does not think it is dirty cuz on the other hand you don't want to marry someone who only wants sex once a year.
2006-08-05 11:07:02 · answer #4 · answered by A M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HOW AWFUL! you DONT deserve such a woman who would put up with all your pressure and STILL hold her ground KNOWING she wants to and loves you! you get a grip or she'll find out real soon who you really are and how you really think and you will be alone faster than youve ever dreamed and this question at that point will be the LAST thing on your mind! if you want to marry her, youre taking her for ALL her good and bads and FORSAKING all others (ie comparing her to NOTHING as though you were pure yourself) too bad shes getting low-life-used-goods! sorry but i hope she wakes up to you before its too late!
2006-08-05 11:06:02 · answer #5 · answered by mello83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not your "right" to know her to the fullest if she doesn't want to have sex before marriage! If you can't deal with that, go find some girl that will sleep with you before marriage so you can get in your "test drive" to make sure she measures up. Slime.
2006-08-05 11:04:46 · answer #6 · answered by Vexer D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do think before i speak, but sometimes i let my emotions get the best of me and i let words fly that later i wish i had not. it is almost like i do not have a filter. i always regret saying hurtful things though and you are right, words can hurt. it is also impossible to take them back once said, because they become etched into the other person's brain.
2016-03-27 00:22:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself this:
1.Do you love her?
2.Does she love you?
3.Do you want to spend the rest of your life with her?
4.Are you aware of the fact that in relationships you have to make sacrifices?
5.Are you willing to make these sacrifices for her?
6.Overall are you happy?
2006-08-05 11:14:15 · answer #8 · answered by empresstnt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say, are you buying a used car from a local dealer or you're getting married? If you're in doubt then be totally frank with her and ask her about the suspicions that you have on your mind.
2006-08-05 11:06:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel this strongly about having sex before marriage, respect her decision and marry someone who will have sex with you!
2006-08-05 11:03:42 · answer #10 · answered by Tammy O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋