What do i do about this situation?

Question

You see i've been rejected and put down all my life.And i try not to let my past control but somehow i cant seem to let it go. It makes me crazy and it hurts to feel like i have to starve myself so i can feel better(which i wont do cuz i a wont do because i dont want to die)even though i want to.I am so on edge.And i dont want to make a big deal cuz i dont want people to think i want attention.To day i ripped up my shirt because i felt as if i was to fat to wear it.I'm christian i go to church faithfully and gods on my list of help but what else should i do?

i weigh 130 pounds

I am saved baptised and everything i just want to know if its ok to go to a group and recieve gods deliverance.I love god and i love to be ing his presence.

Answer 1

First let me say that I bet a lot of guys would have rather torn up your shirt for you :) Just had to inject some humor on such a serious question. It is obvious you are hurting and do not know what to do which compounds the problem. From what I can figure you have a self-image problem and a weight problem. The weight problem is easy compared to the self-image problem. I suggest you get a physically demanding job. Work is so good for building up self-esteem. Also, you can eat as much as you want if you count calories. I suggest you see your doctor about this and get his recommendation. There are many variables to consider.

Concerning you self esteem and religious faith consider this: If you go and take a look at a flower or a bird to see how beautiful it is in its many ways. Just remember you mean so much more to God than a million birds and flowers.

You have your own beauty which some people will recognize and some won't. If you are a person who stands for truth and justice you please our Creator. I should tell you that people recognize the beauty in a person who smiles. Now, if someone doesn't they're shallow.

I recommend you:

1. Recognize your own beauty.
2. Realize your own worth.
3. Get help physically, mentally, and spiritually. Don't take this problem on by yourself. Ask someone to help you carry your cross.
4. Pray, pray, pray.

God bless you.

Answer 2

Hello friend,
First let me say that you are a precious child in God's eyes. He loves you more that you can possibly know.

This might seem odd coming from an old guy like myself, but a hundred years ago when I was 13 life seemed so hard for me too! But I raised a beautiful daughter who, like you had many of the same questions and problems you're facing now. So I can sort of relate since I saw this in her too.

Try not to get caught up in looking like the image society expects
a girl to look. You are beautiful to God and I suspect He wouldn't want you to risk your health with certain eating habits that can be very destructive to your body. Like, don't starve yourself, and keep what you eat in your belly.

Dear one, 13 is a tender age and I know moving from 7th to 8th grade can be intimidating, but remember, God is with you.
Be devoted to Him and live according to His principals as best as you can.
Be kind to everyone and try not to sweat the kids at school. Most of all, don't keep things locked up inside you. When things get hard, tell your family, your preacher, even your older sister, whoever you can trust.
They know it's hard sometimes at your age.
Here is some advice I gave my daughters that might help you too. Watch out for those guys!!
Where ever you go, make sure you are never without lights and people. A guy and a girl in a place without lights is bad news.
And even if there are lights and no other people around, it's still not a good idea to be alone. God will protect you, but He expects you to use common sense too.


Remember to pray regularly and read God's love letter that He wrote to you. Read the great Book of Esther. It's a wonderful story about a strong and Godly woman who served God and helped save her people. It's better than a Hollywood movie!

Dear one, you'll do fine. It's normal to gain and lose weight. You are on your way to becoming a strong beautiful woman in Christ.
I may not ever see you here in this life, but God will introduce us when we get to Heaven. I'll see you there!
Blessings,
2 Tim.2 :7

Answer 3

You're right Sami, it is your life! First step take your life back! Let the past go! Holding on to it isn't going to get you anywhere! Make today the first day of the rest of your life! Sami you believe in God and as they say, He doesn't make no junk! Look in the mirror Sami what do you see? THat's you that's looking back at you and if you're not happy with what you see, then you have to want to change it! Only you can do that! Do what you have to do for yourself to feel better, not because of those idiots and fitting in! Your asking for help and that's where it all begins. Every one of us that are taking the time to answer your question "cares" about you! And the jerks with the stupid answers? They'll always be jerks. So follow the good advice that you've asked for! Make yourself happy first! And you know what? To "hell" with the Jerks! They'll get their's someday! That's just the way life is, only they're not smart enough to know it! Take care Sami and take back your life!

Answer 4

If you are feeling suicidal now, please stop long enough to read this. It will only take about five minutes. I do not want to talk you out of your bad feelings. I am not a therapist or other mental health professional - only someone who knows what it is like to be in pain.

I don’t know who you are, or why you are reading this page. I only know that for the moment, you’re reading it, and that is good. I can assume that you are here because you are troubled and considering ending your life. If it were possible, I would prefer to be there with you at this moment, to sit with you and talk, face to face and heart to heart. But since that is not possible, we will have to make do with this.

I have known a lot of people who have wanted to kill themselves, so I have some small idea of what you might be feeling. I know that you might not be up to reading a long book, so I am going to keep this short. While we are together here for the next five minutes, I have five simple, practical things I would like to share with you. I won’t argue with you about whether you should kill yourself. But I assume that if you are thinking about it, you feel pretty bad.

Well, you’re still reading, and that’s very good. I’d like to ask you to stay with me for the rest of this page. I hope it means that you’re at least a tiny bit unsure, somewhere deep inside, about whether or not you really will end your life. Often people feel that, even in the deepest darkness of despair. Being unsure about dying is okay and normal. The fact that you are still alive at this minute means you are still a little bit unsure. It means that even while you want to die, at the same time some part of you still wants to live. So let’s hang on to that, and keep going for a few more minutes.
Go to: www.metanoia.org/suicide/
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Answer 5

Starving yourself will just make you fat. You have to eat simple meals 3 times a day, with snacks in between. God puts apples an bananas on earth because it is natures goodies. Cut out things like soda and regular sugars, you'll be healthy and happy. If you are going to continually feel bad about yourself, you wont get over your past.

Answer 6

Your addicted to your hurt like someone that is on drugs,It does control you,Until you decide you have had enough and let go it will always be there.It is like a saftey cruth but with no answers to he questions thats why you keep it around. When negative thought's start comming to youi make it a everyday pratice to say nope stop not happing and replace it with hey im alive, i have food'clothes,etc when you think you have it really bad look at a st judes commercial then thank God for what you have. God Bless TRUE 2 THE HEART

Answer 7

Father we cover your child into your hands right now, and we pray that you will show her your love , that you will let your holy spirit minister to her and let her know that she is important to you and you love her inspight of what others may see or do to her let her that in you she is the head and not the tail. If you have a bible read it about the promises of god and what he spoke about love.
If you have a friend get close to them ask them to pray with you or all you can do also is to just talk to god right where you are now tell how you feel and trust me you will feel better I will continue to lift you up before god and pray that you will find the joy that comes from god and the peace.

Hold on dont give up that is what satan wants you to do but you tell him your life is not promise to him.

Answer 8

I'm very, very sorry this happened to you. I was similar to you as a teenager. I know that you feel you're fat, but 130 is not at all. Tell yourself that you are happy with yourself at least twice a day, and mean it. Write down things you like about yourself and why. Seriously consider seeing a therapist, and talk to your family about how you feel. You may not be comfortable doing those things, but they help (especially the therapist) immensely. Good luck to you, I know you can get yourself through this, and I'll keep you in my prayers if you'd like.

Answer 9

Since you have been rejected and put down all your life. There is no solution that is a quick fix to the pain and training you've experienced.

One thing is to accept God's love. Know you are made in his image. You are his special creation. Take the negative thoughts that you think about yourself and replace them with what God says about you. Continue to pray and ask God what to do and ask Him to change how you view yourself and instead to see how he views you.

Answer 10

Going to Church doesn't make you Christian- just like going to your garage doesn't make you a car. Repent and understand what it means to be this Christian you become- physical looks are NOT important in the scheme of where you wanna be for eternity. email me if you need more direction or talk seriously to your pastor.