My sister is 2 yrs. older than me. She is an alcoholic and I'm positive she is on hard drugs as well. She has been arrested for drunk driving and she has 2 kids. Her husband is an a--hole and they refuse to split up, and yet they have both told me they hate there marriage. My concern is for these kids, I want them to live with me abut I don't know how to go about this.
2006-08-05 10:40:25 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
take the children for an overnight stay. ask them if they want to stay with you .if, they are old enough. call sissy and tell her your gonna temporarily take the children off her hands to help her out. if, she has a tissy fit tell her that due to her drinking etc that you are doing her a favor before someone calls the department of children @ family services.and that this will happen because you yourself have heard it plus you are fully aware of this. tell her or Mr asshole that he needs to quick clean up his act or the matter will be turned into the local police and make sure after you have the children to do this. don't play there games for one minute or they will try to manipulate you. they are cons to the extent they are doing wrong and they know this. if you were to call dcfs you would get to have the children as long as you had the room plus they would pay you. so go get the children for a temporarily overnight stay .get enough clothes. you are the good helping person. once she gets herself back together please give her,her children back. if this is your intention. if, not then don't involve yourself. good luck to you my friend. if you need more advise i will be glad to talk with you on the phone just let me know??? take care Kat
2006-08-05 11:26:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why, do you have enough free time to take on kids you've never had? Do you know the challenges of taking on the kids and having to fight against your sister, who will then think that you are trying to steal her kids away? Your sister is not in good mental health, you may suffer traumas in the near future yourself if events turn for the worst. If this happens, be prepared to seek your own personal counseling. You must make sure you are in care first, then everyone else comes after, even the poor little kids. I think Foster care is the best option for them and your family. This way family will not get so tangled in the affairs of your sister's family
2006-08-05 18:11:43 · answer #2 · answered by mulderlx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, i understand why u would want this. but this can be a very difficult thing to achieve.
even despite their problems, you cant take their kids. i would take my sis. to the side and talk to her 1st about getting a divorce, then her staying with you, then getting her in a program, and u taking care of her kids while she recovers...
maybe moving slowly will convince her, your doing them some good and you can take it from there...
but u also have to consider their dad... he might be an a**hole, but he may be a good father and maybe one reason they dont get along is because your sis. is on drugs. is he? ... there are alot of questions. offer to babysit often, but dont be offensive or overly aggressive. good luck
2006-08-05 18:09:57 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. DeVine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow..good one ...well are they better off with you or a foster family? How old are they? Can you do a better job than your sister? If they are in real danger than call C.P.S. but I wouldn't. I would just take them home with me and keep them there until my sister got her self together......but check the law in your state first and maybe talk to a counseler or a therapist.
2006-08-05 17:53:36 · answer #4 · answered by budlowsbro420 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
better take ur sister and her husband to the doctor for conselling or u talk to your sister abt the kids and their future ..it may change ur sisters attitude..
2006-08-05 17:45:52 · answer #5 · answered by usha r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
report her and help her get sober ansx in the mean time offer to take the children
2006-08-05 17:45:45 · answer #6 · answered by -------- 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋