Me and the guy I'm engaged to have been together for to months now and I don't regret anything and I still love him very much. But I'm starting to get very confused. I want one thing but I'm afraid to do or get it. I love him but I've been let down so much in the past and been emotionally scarred for life by a guy a love so much 2 times that I don't really want to trust him and that makes me want to cry. What should I do cause I know he would never ever hurt me and he will never ever leave me. help me please
2006-08-05 10:14:08 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all.....How did you get engaged in two months????? It seems to me like you have some trust issues that only you can resolve. Life and love are not easy but keep waking up everyday and you will definitely get a chance to make better anything in your past that will hinder your future. Everyone has been hurt before...you just have to put yourself out there and see what happens....You said the other guy burned you twice...that's your fault because you kept letting him come back.....remember mistakes happen once or twice...anything more than that is a habit..don't keep the habit of picking the wrong guy.......Go with your gut instincts..if they say this guy is it go for it.
2006-08-05 10:27:20 · answer #1 · answered by PLAYA 4REAL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that someone is really in to this relationship, and someone is really "not". I think things have moved way too quickly, and neither one of you is being realistic. He is infatuated with you, and you obviously need time to grieve and get over what has happened to you in the past. You are in no way ready to be married. Marriage will only add to your level of stress, and will cause SO many more challenges, that you are neither emotionally or mentally ready for. Be honest with your fiance' NOW, and come to an agreement, to either become "un" engaged, or have a VERY long engagement, with the option to call it off. You will be doing yourself, (and him...) a very big favor, by dealing with your issues, one at a time, and not becoming overwhelmed by everything at once. You will surely go crazy if you have to plan a wedding on top of all of this. Take your time, be true to yourself, and others.
2006-08-05 17:26:38 · answer #2 · answered by Michael 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all I really hope you don't mean that you guys got engaged after only dating 2 months, if you did mean that then you need to think about what your doing and slow down. If you didn't mean that then: If you love him and he loves you then you need to stop worrying and go for it! Worrying about getting hurt will destroy your relationship. Love eachother and trust eachother and enjoy life. Don't back out on someone that you have true love with. You would definetly regret it. If he makes you happy then remind yourself of that over and over and don't worry about getting hurt! Move forward and don't think about problems in your life from the past. It sounds like you have something great going for you, don't let it go. Good Luck!!!
2006-08-05 17:23:03 · answer #3 · answered by TAWNIE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u know he wouldnt leave or hurt u why are u scared??? i think that after 2 months of being together and the fact that u are already engaged shows u that maybe u dont really know him. how u can possibly know someone so well after only 2 months...maybe u should slow down a bit take some more time to know him better..and if u have doubts dont marry him dont take the risk that it wont work out
2006-08-05 17:24:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
boys come a dime a doz. An you are in love within 2 months,
girl be real you r on the REBOUND. OK can you dig it. rebound
by the what you have been let down so many time before, So stop falling in love within two months. make friends then get into a relationship.
2006-08-05 17:33:13 · answer #5 · answered by www.butterflynewstravel.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really didn't have a very cohesive question....
Sounds to me you two shouldnt be engaged. If you KNEW that he wouldn't hurt you, the fear wouldn't be there.. so think about that.
Slow down, just date a while, see where that leads
2006-08-05 17:19:20 · answer #6 · answered by attila 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you meet someone new... you should always take them for who they are ....not judge them by what others may have done....its the easiest way to spoil what cud be...only when they give you reasons not to trust should you, put the apple in the basket ...so to speak ...but until then ...dont let the past destroy the future too... you cant change the past but the future...well thats different...
2006-08-05 17:24:12 · answer #7 · answered by she wolf. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 months !
try to trust him your gonna have to since you 2 are gonna get married
2006-08-05 17:20:50 · answer #8 · answered by Lindsey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well trust is everything Dont do it if you have doubts nervous is diffrent than doubts just trust your heart
2006-08-05 17:19:43 · answer #9 · answered by brian.taylor2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what ever ur heart feels like doing
2006-08-05 17:20:20 · answer #10 · answered by mikey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋