I have been dating my boyfriend now going on two weeks. We have went on two dates and he came over to my house the night before last. He never even tried to kiss me until the third date at my house. We made out a little bit with out clothes on but never did have sex. He then later wrote me and e-mail saying that he wanted to have sex with me really bad that night but knew that he needed to hold off thinking that we needed to wait to have sex and because he though that I also wanted to wait longer. Does this mean he is not just using me for sex? How do I know when it is the right time to have sex and that I am not just being used when I do decide to have sex with him? Is there any kind of time frame to go by when wanting to have sex when dating to not feel used?
2006-08-05 10:07:02 · 23 answers · asked by computergirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ATTENTION WOMEN:
Guys want sex, sex and more sex!!! Guys that say they don't want sex are really saying they want sex in an indirect way. When guy takes a breath, he wants sex. If he says "Hello, whats your name?" he wants sex...Get the picture yet?
2006-08-05 10:13:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he asked you, he's showing signs of respect. He obviously didn't go ahead with it because he didn't think you wanted to do it so early in the relationship. I am with my boyfriend for three weeks this Sunday. We have made out with clothes on but we haven't had sex. I say have sex when you feel you are ready to do so. If you truly like this guy then it will be no problem having sex with him and not feeling used. In order to have a good relationship you have to have trust. If you don't trust this guy, get out of the relationship; you shouldn't have to doubt your feelings. I would say though, wait at least 3 months before having sex. Then you'll really know what he's about. Nothing less than 3. Good luck, and don't jump in too fast because it won't be pleasant.
2006-08-05 17:13:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not just looking for sex. He seems like a decent enough guy. I mean, he could've tried then but didn't. He's holding off until you're ready and at the same time doesn't want you to think he doesn't find you sexy. I'm a guy and I've been there before with my current gf.
2006-08-05 17:15:34 · answer #3 · answered by mike! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll KNOW when the time is right. There isn't any amount of days you can put on this kind of situation. Don't do anything with him until YOU'RE ready. Seems to me like he's the one initiating things, so if you don't feel comfortable with him in that way yet, then wait.
2006-08-05 17:47:03 · answer #4 · answered by Shining Ray of Light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a guys point of view------ If a guy has been sexually active in past then he will crave sex. To know if you are being used for sex then you will probably have to give him sex to know....if after a couple of weeks you start pulling back and he gets angry with you or stops calling or seems not interested in you unless you are having sex then I think that's when you would deffinately know....It's really hard to know what others are thinking untill you do some experimintation
2006-08-05 17:16:46 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First make sure he really loves you its too soon for him to ask you that beside you think of the consequences that having sex brings like a baby . tell him that he has to wait at least in till you each other longer and don't have a kid in till your 24 at least.
2006-08-05 17:15:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if you plan on giving in eventually, if you tell him you want to wait until you're married first and act like you mean it. Then you stay with that for a while, you'll see then whether he's genuine or not.
2006-08-05 17:14:45 · answer #7 · answered by Go Rush! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is one way to never feel used when dating. Don't have sex.
Seriously, save it for marriage. That way you don't just keep losing bits of your heart and soul with every guy that comes into your life.
Besides, if he really respects you, and loves you, he'll want to make you his wife.
2006-08-05 17:11:49 · answer #8 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's trying to make you comfortable so you'll trust him and put out.
Don't have sex with him for a while (and I don't mean two weeks, that's nothing). If he sticks around, then he likes you. If he doesn't...well...
2006-08-05 17:13:13 · answer #9 · answered by Emmy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys want sex all the time, just try not to become a doormat and you should be fine.
2006-08-05 17:12:23 · answer #10 · answered by uscmedguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋