IMAGINE YOU WERE THE GIRL
heres the story: well hes your best friend then u fell in love wit him..and same to him..well sorta.. ( he likes u but he likes another girl too) so one day u asked him who would he choose then he picked the other girl..(but he still have sum feelings for you) so sum days later, u sorta got over it..but ure so mad at him cuz he said he likes the other girl (even that girl kept hurtin him) but STILL, he does sumthin that makes u think he still likes you..
BUT later on, you and him became best friends again..
THEN the day came when he finally stop goin for that other girl and wants u now again after hurtin u so much..SO u told him that youre scared to be hurt again by him..but u still love him though but jus afraid that he will break your aheart again one more time..
WHEN you said that to him, he jus hugged you and didnt said anything..
SO WHAT DO U THINK U SHOULD DO? WOULD YOU GIVE HIM ANOTHER CHANCE OR NOT?
PLEASE ANSWER THIS I NEED SOME ADVICE! THANK U!
2006-08-05 09:58:00 · 20 answers · asked by peeace 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NO SECOND CHANCE!!!
2006-08-05 10:01:52 · answer #1 · answered by -------- 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's trying to have his cake and eat it too. You have the power in this decision. Just because you are thinking about taking him back gives him the control over things right now. Relationships are about who is strong enough to let go of the other at any time and he's done that to you and will keep doing it until you stop being a pushover. Tell him that you still care for him but you need time to sort things out yourself, by doing this you will see how sincere he is....remember ma never play second fiddle to anyone or you will always play second fiddle......
2006-08-05 10:06:32 · answer #2 · answered by PLAYA 4REAL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like him give him a chance. It was your fault in the first place for getting involved with him when he had feelings for someone else. I think he had mixed feelings at the time and didn't know what to do. He didn't want to hurt you. And if he was honest before about liking another girl and wanting to be with another girl then that is a good sign that he is a faithful guy and I don't think you have to worry about getting hurt. If he says he wants to be with you and you want to be with him. Go for it!!! If he is coming back to you then you guys could have something special. Life is about taking chances. Good luck!!!
2006-08-05 10:08:20 · answer #3 · answered by TAWNIE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really put yourself in the story it is difficult to answer. IF I did have a relationship with him I would take it real slow. How long has it been since he broke your heart? If it has been only a very short time then I would say that he is using you as someone to fall back on. If it has been years(or at least a year) I would give the guy a chance, as he may have grown emotionally in that time.
2006-08-05 10:05:13 · answer #4 · answered by sw student 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems to me that u have given him more than enough chances,this wouldn't be a second. nothing hurts more than being hurt by the same guy over and over and i should know i have been there so many times it hurts like hell but there comes a time where u have to say enough is enough because u are only abusing urself. so just let him be coz he might leave again and u will take him back until it becomes a cycle and he will get used it. he dumps and u take him back again and again and AGAIN. is that what U want.
2006-08-05 10:09:18 · answer #5 · answered by superstar ;)' 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow ... ok well I think if my heart felt like I really wanted to give him another chance I really think I would .. Just if we were going out I could'nt worry about if he is going to hurt because then ai wouldn't trust him .... If we did go out though for a long time and something just wasnt right and we so happend to break up then I would you know be a little sad but I would thank God that we didnt go out anylonger and that if that makes him happy not to be with him then so be it .... See this is how i look at things .... If I loved him and we didnt work out then I would be ok with it cause I want him to be happy with me or with out ... But anyways I think I would defently give him a chance if I was willing to take that risk ... If your in the sistuation I would say try it just dont always worry about if he is going to hurt you ! I dont know if this helped but ai tried good luck God bless
2006-08-05 10:07:07 · answer #6 · answered by Melanie<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel....
I would give him a chance but make sure he's serious about being in a relationship with you. As for getting hurt, this wasnt the first time a guy hurt you and its certainly not the last, but a second chance is all we can give....
2006-08-05 10:03:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't give him another chance. Life is too short to hang around people who have hurt us.
You need to be #1 to some guy, not #2. You'll always remember that he chose someone else over you, that you weren't his first choice.
Maybe he's changed, but with so many fish in the sea, I'd go find one that hasn't broken your heart yet.
2006-08-05 10:03:27 · answer #8 · answered by lily 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first...if this is the worse your heart has been broken, your lucky. If I were you, I would go for it, cause just because he didn't pick you when you asked, doesn't mean he didn't still like you. He eventually relized that the girl he thought he liked wasn't worth it and relized that the girl he let get away, was the one he cared about....so give him a chance and see where it goes. good luck.
2006-08-05 10:10:18 · answer #9 · answered by jessdjnick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your both to young to know what you want! but to answer your question, stay friends with him and see what happens and whatever you do don't be pushy, neither girls or guys like that! Personally I would rather have a friend than an on again off again boyfriend.Good luck!!
2006-08-05 10:17:41 · answer #10 · answered by betty g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
would you take your heart out and put it on a chopping block? i do not think yawls plane ever took off much less got off the ground. do this for me as a test for you;go to the mall, walmart, or some really big place and look around and count the people you know. you will see how small you are on this big old earth and how many new people there are to meet. you as a woman have a power and you need to learn how to use it. you want someone that wants you as bad as you want them and they are there looking for you right now.
2006-08-05 10:12:27 · answer #11 · answered by m.w.meredith@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋