If you have already lost your virginity before marriage ?

Question

does it make a difference to wait to get married if its with the person you want to marry?
its kind of hard to explain but what i mean is, if you had sex before with other men , and you want to find another guy that you never had sex with but you would get married to, is it ok to wait for maraige or it doesnt matter since your not a virgin?

because after my first boyfriend i was with 14-17 we broke up and i had sex with 5 guys in one year after him, i was going through a stage and i though at the time it would make me get over him. So i was thinking if i found a new guy i would want to wait till i get married even if im no virgin

why buy the cow, when the milk is free. thats soo true , why get married if your already getting everything you need. lol

Answer 1

Even though youre not a virgin anymore it will still be special if you wait until youre married to have sex with a new guy.

Answer 2

Hon I may be out dated here and I know that I am probably not qualified to answer your question since I have never even been in any real relationship but my answer is this

NO IT DONT MATTER

been a virgin is not the be all and end all of everything and there are many guys who would prefer someone who has at least some idea of how to make their relationship work and that means experience

Yes it is a nice sentimental thing to be a virgin and have you "first time" with the man you marry on you wedding night but that don't really matter what matters is that you both love each other more then anything and I would imagine that when you come to have sex on your wedding night then that sex would be the best ever because you love the person you are having sex with, with all your heart and that is what really matters not whether or not you are a virgin so my suggestion to you would be just be yourself and live your life and listen to what your heart says it will tell you if its right or wrong and above all don't let the world pressurise you its your life after all and you must do what you can live with

Answer 3

Only those with semi-archaic "traditional" views will still want you to be a virgin when you get married. Its perfectly fine to wait some time before having sex with a guy, and I would recommend it, especially if you have had a lot of relationships in the recent past. Make sure to get tested too, because you never can be too safe. Once you have lost your virginitiy, it seems that sex is no longer a big deal. Don't let that fool you. It is a BIG deal, if you make it and have self-worth. Wait to at least get to know the guy before you have sex with him. And then, there is nothing wrong with waiting to have sex until marriage with a partner, as long as he doesn't think you're doing it because you are still a virgin. Basically, leave it up to how you feel.. don't set rules, "i can't do this, or that" let yourself be flexible, but I would recommend, just make sure having sex with a new guy is what you really want and is going to lead to where you want to go (whether that is one night, a few months or years).

Answer 4

Yes! It makes a big difference. It doesn't matter if you've had sex with a hundred guys before, when you find the guy you want to marry, the sex will be special. Just imagine your wedding night and how special it would be. You can be a born again virgin. You don't have to keep having sex just because you've done it before.

Answer 5

I think that it does matter. It depends on the man that you are with too. A friend of mine said that he would never mess with a girl that wouldn't give it up while they are dating. He held this true and he married the one that did't. Some men will expect it and may very well like/love you but I think that it counts to them that you want to wait. No man I know wants to play captain save-a-ho and make a ho a housewife, ultimatly I think they wnat the girln they can bring home. The type that will resept herself & honor her decisions. You can sex all you want but really, as the saying goes....why buy the cow, when the milk is free.

Answer 6

I think that's ok and a good choice to wait until ur married ,eventhough ur not a virgin but atleast it will be something special for both of you and it will be like ur first time.

Answer 7

it's a great idea. You should tell the certain boy, that while you ma have made wrong decisions in the past you have decided to recommit to whoever you are going to marry, whether it is that person or not. He should respect that

Answer 8

honestly, this is wat that was passed down by the 'elderly'

but who cares anyway? jus dun go tellin everyone that u have multiple sex partners, coz unfortunately, girls that sleeps with so many pple are known as h0e, where the guys aint?

jus dun get necessary trouble like STD n gettin pregnant... n by the way, u can always go created another hymen (i know hospitals provide such surgery) b4 ur marriage if ur husband really cares...

so, ya, i dun see why so many pple get so upright abt it, if,
1st, ur 'legalise'
2nd, u got ur needs too
3rd, u know how to protect urself from STD n pregnant
4th, n why guys can n we cant?

Answer 9

Neither my hubby nor I was a virgin when we met, let alone when we married.

Answer 10

In all cases, do what is 'right' for you and nothing more. If it doesn't work for him, the 'gap' would probably foul you two up later in other ways that hurt more.