Ok me and my girlfriend have been together for about 2 and a half years and she knows that I have always wanted to have a 3sum. Its one of my biggest fantasies. She even knows which of her friends I would want to do it with. My question is how can I get her to really go threw with it? She has already said maybe. I just wanna know how can I get it to happen.
2006-08-05 09:32:09 · 38 answers · asked by Ryan O 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well my girlfriend has no problem with it she has agreed that she would want to with her and we already have the rules down. And she has no problem.
2006-08-05 10:04:40 · update #1
you better think about it, she cold then leave you for her friend if she likes it
2006-08-05 09:36:13 · answer #1 · answered by leinervh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok. I have a friend who is married. And he told me about the 3somes he has done with his wife and another girl. But he told me about "The Rules" Has anyone heard of these rules? If they're followed, will it make a 3some an enjoyable expierence?
These are The Rules:
1) By no means can the man's penis come in contact with the
other girls vagina.
2)There will be no kissing on the mouth of the other girl
3)The 2 women can do whatever they want to each other
4) the other girl CAN blow the guy
5)The wife/gf gets any ejaculation
When he told me this, and I think there's more, but you get the idea, I thought it was really funny, but the more I thought of it, it made sense. I think that is why they're still married and they've had more than one 3some.
2006-08-05 09:44:35 · answer #2 · answered by sher.pflip 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, you should never 'get' someone to do something they don't feel 100% comfortable with. By her saying maybe, she is trying to tell you that she's not interested in playing a part in this fantasy. If you love her, you should respect her decision and NEVER pressure her into doing this.
Stick to the fundamental fact: fantasies are exactly that because they are there purely to exist in our thoughts and subconscious, it's been proven time and time again that the majority of people who live out their fantasies end up unsatisfied or even ashamed of the end result.
You know deep down that she's not into this mate, so don't go there. If you fancy her mate that much, leave your girlfriend and get with the mate, that way you spare your girl the heartache that will only ensue if you put her in this predicament.
2006-08-05 09:39:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't really force something to happen cause then it won't feel right so just see if she'll give you a defenite answer by asking her again. Or just bring the girl you want to do it with and some how now it's the three of ya'll and see how she reacts. Since she already said maybe, i doubt if she will turn it down especially if she really loves you. Make it do what it do.
2006-08-05 09:38:13 · answer #4 · answered by candy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your fantasy may not be "her" fantasy. If she is uncomfortable with the idea, this could be a huge mess, that you really don't want. She may participate, and may seem "into" it, but will really harbor resentment, and jealousy. It will haunt you forever. If you are fantasizing about being intimate with other women, and wish to act upon that, are you REALLY serious about being in a comitted monogomous relationship? Only you can answer that one. You may need to look deeper within yourself, and make sure you are in the place you REALLY want to be. But, also consider her feelings. If she asked, would you participate in a 3some with her and another guy? Fair is fair.
2006-08-05 09:41:13 · answer #5 · answered by Michael 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let a fantasy remain just that. You're opening a box that will be hard to close later on. If you love her the way you say you do, let it go. If she's dragging her feet about it then she may not want to do it. Maybe she's saying maybe just to get you off her back. Have your fantasy with her and let the other go. God didn't destroy Sadom and Gamora for nothing( think about that ).
2006-08-05 09:40:00 · answer #6 · answered by Cuddles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is bad advise because I am a muslim, but have not always been.But favor for a favor.It is every girls fantasy to have 2 men at the same time.Whether they want to admit it or not.If you are secure with your sexuality and don't get jealous easy.FAVOR FOR A FAVOR.How can she say no.Unless she really didn't want to do it in the first place.
2006-08-05 09:37:32 · answer #7 · answered by Mitchell B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me she probably doesn't actually want to. A fantasy is best left a fantasy, there is only disappointment in store. And if you care about her, and love her you will not want to share her with anyone, nor she you. Don't complicate matters by bringing in a friend, or a stranger for that matter. Keep it respectful.
2006-08-05 09:36:16 · answer #8 · answered by rollarcoaster brain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay first off dont do it with one of her friends because then there may end up being some physical atraction afterwards between the two of you. I just wouldnt do it in generally yeah it may be a fantasie but just keep it that way. I think she is scared that afterwards you and her friend will have some atraction and that would ruin your reletionship
2006-08-05 09:36:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not going to get it to happen without your girlfriend stepping up. I would back off and let her make the move. It could be you are so eager, you have already sought out one of her friends, to start this mess that maybe she is reluctant to carry it out. Or maybe the girl you chose is not the one she wants to join in. Talk to your girl.
2006-08-05 09:40:26 · answer #10 · answered by angelsfly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to start working on the friend. See if she's into it, then just get the 3 of you together and go for it.
2006-08-05 09:34:58 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋