If at the last minute I decide to not get married,should I not show up,or show up and run out the back?

Question

Will the Preacher get mad if I done this?

Answer 1

Sounds like an unhealthy marriage if you're reconsidering *before* it's already happened.

Answer 2

If you decide not to go through with the wedding, don't you think you owe the groom and your family an explanation?

If you have doubts and don't want to get married, talk about it with your fiance and start now to call everything off.

There really isn't anything funny about this. A family member of mine was involved in something like this. His fiance backed out the night BEFORE the wedding. My mom and her mom spent hours on the phone calling relatives who came a long way for the wedding. My parents lost the deposit monies on the caterer, flowers, church and reception hall. I was stuck with an ugly bridesmaid's dress (not a big deal compared to what my parents lost).

Your options of not showing up, running away, etc- are signs of immaturity. This is not "The Runaway Bride."

The Preacher will be angry. So will your family members and guests, oh, yeah and the Groom!

Answer 3

I can understand that you are nervous. It's not forever, so just take it easy. Half of all marriages end in divorce, so there's a chance that yours will too. You just have to put up with him for a couple of years and then leave with half of his stuff and money. I believe in reincarnation and I know that each life is limited, so I see it as even if you are with him until you die, it's still only a temporary thing. Think of all the planning and junk that's gone into the wedding. People are probably flying in from other states just to be there. Go through with the wedding. If things don't work out, you can get an annulment after the fact.

Answer 4

Both of those are cowardly options.

If you don't want to get married call it off ahead of time and be honest with your fiance. It may hurt him now, but not as much as doing either of those other two alternatives.

If it truly is a last minute decision then simply don't say "I do", when asked, but be truthful and say "I do not." Then go and have a heart to heart talk with your fiance, (if he can even look at you at that point) and be honest about your feelings. Be mature. If you are old enough to get married then you should be old enough to be an adult about ALL of your decisions.

Answer 5

If everything's set and ready, and by the time you get to church, you decided you're not ready for marriage, wait til the priest/preacher say "If anyone is against this marriage, please speak now or forever hold your peace", then YOU can say, "I object, I have a vision that I'm not ready, and I can't go through this right now". Then walk out. Hehe.

Answer 6

i haven't personaly done this before, but first i would tell your fiance. Im sure he would like to know, plus then he can help you break it to your respective families. I wouldn't worry about the preacher getting mad, id worry about hurting my fiance by doing either of those.

Answer 7

1st, I would share this with your parent/s first.
2nd, I would send a bridesmaid to get the groom to come to you, then explain your reasons & feelings (he deserves that).
3rd, Have them decide how to break the news to the guests.
4th, Who cares what the Preacher thinks? Your wedding, your life-long covenental commitment to another person is just one more wedding to him. And, trust me, he doesn't want you to get married if you don't want to!

Answer 8

I think that you should arrange it so that some guy comes in and interrupts the ceremony by screaming out your name, a la "The Graduate." You can lock everyone in the church by using the crucifix to wedge the doors. Then you two can make your get-away on a bus.

Answer 9

i dont think you should worry about the preacher, but your fiance's feelings. you should talk to him about it. why, are you planning on canceling your marraige? why would you want to?