i love my bf but he is controllin we have been having problems lately and he mite leave me what do i do?

Answer 1

RUN DON'T WALK away from this guy because soon he is going to start abusing you.
If he is controlling now what do you think he will be like later?

It is going to get harder and harder to get away from him leave now.
They're plenty more fish in the sea dump this jerk and find someone who will be good for you.
Remember talk is real cheap don't believe his lies and for heaven sake don't take him back.

Answer 2

Here is an answer to a prevoiusly asked question that sounds similar in nature. If any of it applies please use, but by the sound of thing, I think most of it does

(be aware that abuse comes in more than one forms)

I think at this point you know what you want. Ask yourself, how is your relationship with your parents and or other family members? Are they or is at least one able to provide you with the shelter you need? I f so..1 you need to get away immediately, if you are living together, find that refuge with a trusting famil member or friend 2 You need to get a restraining order, there is physical and emotional abuse that noone deserves in this "relationship" 3 press charges if need be, this person is not worthy of what you have to offer and will continue and escalate his behavior only more since he knows you will only come back 4 DON"T GO BACK

this individual must be delt with expeditiously before you can move on. Now, my second point is why are you attracted to this person? Is this the first abusive realtionship you have been in, and if so, did it not only involve a boyfriend, but a friend or family member? You may have some deep seeded issues that also must be delt with in an orderly manner, I am not psychologist, but I do understand people, and your best bet would be therapy. You will also need to find a way or wasys to develop your own self worth. You must begin to love yourself and rebuild your confidence so that you do not continue on in life falling into repeat relationships.

that's all I have for now, I hope this gets you started

Answer 3

Someone who truly loves you doesn't NEED to control you. You will be an addition to their lives, not a belonging or a piece of property. Control is about someone feeling like they are inferior, and need to make themselves feel "superior" to another, most likely someone that is easily controlled. Because you are in love with this person, you are enabling this person to walk all over you. He is only doing what you are allowing him to get away with. Problems arise to everyone on a daily basis, this is just a fact of life. It is how they are handled, that counts. Resolutions should be sought out together as partners. If you suspect he wants to leave, why keep him there, if he, you, or both of you, are miserable. Love does not always conquer all, and sometimes, just isn't enough. There has to be a bond of caring, comittment, and understanding, without the control issues. If he does leave, wish him well, and let him go. If he stays, build an open, honest, and communicative relationship with each other. Either way, you will be fine.

Answer 4

ok hon.....where is it written that love and staying with someone have anything to do with each other? And you will be fine without him.
YOur thinking is all backward.....he is controlling and you g uys have problems but you wonder what happens if he leaves.
It is possible to love somene yet because of circumstances you can't be with them.. This happens to everyone.
I am wondering what is it about your past that makes it ok for you to be in a relationahip where a man is controlling and difficult, but you still can't live witout him.

Don't you need and deserve a guy who will respect you for the wonnderful girl that you are. You are worth a good relationship.

You are a woman and you deserve the best gug. Hey he won't leave you because he is a control freek and thrives on intimidation of you.

Turn the tables and you leave him. Tell him heisn't good enough for you and you won't be controlled

Answer 5

If he has control issues, you are better off to let him go and bid him farewell. Women who look for controlling men are looking for a father figure and not a life partner. What happens down the road if you cannot be controlled? Then the abuse begins! If he doesn't leave, then you need to firmly plant your foot in his butt and boot him out. Get away from him as fast as you can. The control only gets stronger. Pretty soon he won't want you to have anything to do with family or friends. Let him go!

Answer 6

that is the problem now coz u love him but is not good when he controlled u and ur still bf and gf how much when for example ur will be together later then is more worst.u will be his slave then and thats not fair in ur side.umust talk to him that what he make is not good for u.when for example he will leave u then let him.is mean he dont love u as a matter of fact.coz if he has feeling then he will be fair in u rrelationship.i hope what i said make ur mind and heart help little bit.

Answer 7

Since you have sense this coming already. You rather break up with him first than him doin it first. Because you'll get hurt more if he does it too you even if you know that he's going to do it. Try your hardest to get through. And when you finally can do it, do it. There are better guys out there for you. This one doesnt have to be your last.

Answer 8

doesnt matter who leaves who..so dont listen to these people's advice....it's not a race to see who gets the last word. relationships are supposed to make both people happier and it doesnt seem like that's going on in yours...so just let it go....and move on and find somebody who you can make happier and will do the same for you.

Answer 9

That is probably the best thing he can do for you.....Leave! What is the matter with you??? Have you no self-respect? Self-esteem? You had better change your definition of Love, sweetie.

Answer 10

Let him leave you. Why would you want to be with someone who is controlling and who you are always fighting with? Trust me, there is someone better out there for you.