How do you get over the death of one of your best friends in our middle 30's?

Answer 1

"HELLO" IM SORRY TO HEAR THAT YOU MAY HAVE LOST SOMEONE THAT YOU DEEPLY CARE ABOUT!!!!..... PLEASE GIVE YOURSELF TIME TO HEAL FROM THIS.... YES ITS PAINFULL & IT DOSE TAKE TIME ..... THIS ALSO DEPENDS ON HOW THIS PERSON CLOSE TO HAS DIED...!!! ALWAYS TRY TO BE POSSITIVE....& "YES" ITS OK TO BE ANGRY.....BUT GRIEVE......ALSO TALK ABOUT IT TO PEOPLE WHO YOU CAN LEAN ON.....TRY NOT TO GET TO DEPRESSED......ITS OK TO CRY...... LET IT OUT..... NEVER HOLD IT INSIDE...... THIS SHALL PASS IN TIME...... WITH ALOT OF LOVE THANKS "CINDY"....

Answer 2

Death is hard to get over at any age...especially when it is so unexpected, and the person you lost is so young, and was so full of life. I am so sorry for your loss,...I remember not being able to smile when my dad died, and that was all we did when he was alive, was laughed....Time is a great healer,...and I had to really tell myself, that my dad would want me to go on, and laugh, and live, and love life as we did when he was alive, something I never thought I would do again.....I lost a couple of dear friends about three years ago, three months apart...very sad, but I always felt good, because I believe in what God tells me, that I have a chance for eternal life because I believe in Him and His Son...God Bless you, my prayers are with you, and I pray the Lord comforts you at this time.

Answer 3

that's a hard question every one grieves differently what will work for me might not work for you. but i know that time will dull the pain you are feeling but you never get over missing them they were a very large part of your life and no one can fill that empty place in your heart. in time that empty place will start to fill with happy memories but there will still that small place that hurts just a little I'm sorry for your loss. and remember they have made it the place we are all trying to get to the two of you will see each other again.

Answer 4

I think grief is part of healing, and healing takes time. Sometimes, you have to take life in small bites. When things get really bad, and I don't think I can make it to the next day, I try to make it to the next meal. If I can't make it to the next meal, I aim for the next hour or minute.

Talk about how you feel if you want to, and remember the good times.

Answer 5

Unfortunately there is no simple answer to this.You need to work through the grieving process there are things that can help such as explaining how you feel to your gp and asking him/her to recommend a good counsellor or psychotherapist who can support you and help explain the various emotions you will encounter during the grieving process.

Answer 6

You may never get over it, but as with most hardships we face in life, it will get easier to handle with time. Try to remember good things, happy times. Don't dwell on the loss, celebrate the life. Live your life with double zest to honor his/her memory. My condolences.

Answer 7

It's hard to get over death at any age...takes time, just time.

Answer 8

You will never get over it completely. You have to let yourself grieve and allow yourself to have feelings in a nondestructive way no violence or drinking. You cannot just ignore your feelings you need to let them out. For women this is often talking. For men I am thinking it might be exercising or working really hard physically if they do not want to talk. I am a female, so I do not know me. You might want to go to a counsellor shorltly and ask how to deal with it as men are different and realize that you will most likely always feel bad, but the feelings will get more managable and not hurt as much over time. I just know that sadness and anger feel different for a man vs a woman. I lost my father to suicide and it hurts me every day, but not as bad as in the beginning. My aunt finds comfort in seeing men who look like my father while I find it very painful. My aunt can have photos up while I cannot. I remember when my father was depressed I almost could not see it where when I got depressed I cried. I would tell you the most important thing is to let it out and not stuff it because it is like poison if you stuff it inside, but you must find how to deal with it that is compatable with how you work. Some men do cry while others do other things. Unsually I do not get angry I just say I am angry. If I allow my anger to build up and do not express it and talk about it I thow things and get really bad. I scream out in anger. It is really important for me to express all emotions and not press them down. In actuallity it is important for all genders to do that so that it does not become toxic for any of us. Please find out how with counselling it does not have to be a great deal. Just develop some personal techniques. Try some talking with someone you trust who is understanding not someone who puts you down. My boyfriend tries to talk to his day, but his dad always puts him down, so he cannot. I talk to him some as best as a girlfirend can. He really needs one of his guy friends and he does talk to some of them about these problems he has and they have some of them. It helps much more than talking to me. It is usually work stressors ant the guys have the exact same ones and his dad just says he is lucky to have a job. The other guys understand that it is hard working graveyards for 15 years straight and it wears on a person.

1) Find a trusted friend to talk to
2) Find a counsellor for techniques for coping with stages of grief
All feelings anger/sadness all stages
3) Work on letting out stress with exercise, hard work whatever works for you
4) If this was a traumatic death you might want to look into a support group or specific grief counseling. That is a suicide or murder or accident. Office of the medical investigatior sometimes has that.

Answer 9

Time and therapy really works, if you can not afford a shrink go to County Mental Health, they are wonderful

Answer 10

Time dulls the pain, but I don't think you every get over it if you were very close...

Answer 11

itz ok to be depressed for a couple of dayz! But get bck to your life, take it day-by-day, or mabye even minute-by-minute!
GOOD LUCK