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Ok so i am 14 almost 15 and i broke up with my boyfriend about a month or so ago...and now I have a new one who i am really starting to like... and and 2 days ago i wake up to this comment on my myspace...hi kaycee i just wont you to no that i still love you but i guess is to late but i just wanted you to kno the truth soo there it is i dont no if you no that i had Alcohol poisoning but if you do i did that for you becuas i love u soooooo much that i cant live without you .......... so that the truth like i said its to late u have a boy now i hope that he treats you good becuas if he dont i will break his neck

love corey....I Have no idea wat to do...Cause i really miss him but he told me to move on and i tried...but now i dont kno wat to do...so please help?? any advice??

2006-08-05 07:59:52 · 36 answers · asked by iluvme0391 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

36 answers

Honestly sweetie, if he got alcohol poisoning for you he really needs some help. Also the fact that he is going to say he did it for you is really childish and selfish. He needs to take responsibility for his actions. This is not an action of a healthy hearted person that is capable of real love. I say stay away from him and stick with the new guy.

2006-08-05 08:05:46 · answer #1 · answered by Twinkerbell 3 · 0 0

Don't respond to him at all, he's got problems. Call the police to find out what advice they have for you, show your parents, and DO NOT talk to him, even if he calls your house or comes over. If you allow him the hope for even 1 second that his actions are making you consider getting back with him, he will do it again the next time you have problems and it will get worse and freakier each time until you are the one in danger or you can't live a decent enjoyable life because of him. What I'm saying may sound extreme, but if you don't take this advice, then call an abuse hot line and ask if this is how it starts. Good luck.

2006-08-05 08:08:59 · answer #2 · answered by ANGELa 3 · 0 0

I would say to move on. If you loved Corey/he loved you and had a healthy relationship, you would have never broken up and he wouldn't have turned to alcohol. Getting drunk after a break-up may be comment, a 15 year old (or anyone) getting alcohol poisoning is not. You deserve better. I say delete the comment and go for it with the next guy. Good Luck!

2006-08-05 08:04:35 · answer #3 · answered by emp04 5 · 0 0

Think whatever happened is for good.You broke up with your boyfriend about a month ago.you get this comment on my space about the alcohol poisoning of your boyfriend saying that he did it for you.In the first place did he know of the alcohol poisoning and then drank it or after drinking he knew about it?Think he is more confused than you do.Why split in the first place and later approach you emotionally.What he was doing for one month after alcohol poisoning?If he was missing you so much he should have seen you in person and expressed his love for you and must have said that he cannot live without you.Why wait till you found another boy friend and say all this things?If he cannot express his love and wants to consume poisonined alcohol,how can you expect him to look after you in the first place.Sending message through myspace does not show his love forv you.He must have met you in person if he really missed you.Think he knows he had made a mistake of breaking up with you and realised it very late and contacted you after a month.
My advice to you is that since he has not contacted you in person inspite of him saying so ,you must stick to your current boy friend whom you also like.Let the past be past.No use breaking up and patching up again.Give your current boyfriend a chance.He might be the ideal choice.Time is great healer.You are too young and thus confused.Stick to your current boyfriend.Your ex boyfriend took you for granted and now he is repenting but if he really feels for you should have spoken to you in person.He missed a chance to express his love and sincerity.So my advice to you is stick to the current boyfriend.Start a fresh romance.Soon you will forget your ex boyfriend.Good luck.

2006-08-05 21:44:15 · answer #4 · answered by rajan kumar 3 · 0 0

If you miss him and want to be with him that is ok -- but what is not ok is him trying to blame you 4 his alcohol overdose - don't ever let someone make you feel guilty or like you made them hurt themselves in some way and that is the only reason why I would worry about getting back together with this guy.

Relationships at this age are supposed to be fun and a start to getting to know who you like - what you like in a guy. Normally they will not end up being the person you are with forever even though the heartbreaks from this time seem to be the worst when you are in the moment but years later you will understand.

That said - what will happen the next time you 2 break up -this time will he try to do something else and blame you for it b/c that is not healthy and you also don't want to have something like that hanging over your head. He might be the type of guy that will threaten you with hurting himself in the future if you want to and that would be horrible.

So - talk to him first - don't cheat on your new guy; never cheat - it is the worst thing you can do to another human being mentally and seems to scar people regardless of how long ago it was done to them so just never do that - break up with someone if you are interested in someone else but you should also feel free not to have to call every guy that you are with your boyfriend. You can date people and find you what you like - that is ur right just let them know that you are seeing other people. That way you keep your options open. So if you do start to see this guy again, let him know that blaming you for hurting himself is any way is unacceptable - totally and that it can't happen again neither can any threats if and when you break up in the future - no good. Maybe you juts want to date him and not be bf gf - that is ok too ya know - just do what you are comfortable with but don't let any guy - ever try to blame u or threaten you. Be careful with this gy - that is a bad sign - unfair to you totally. What he did was not about you - it is always about something else - something underlying so try to find out what it was cause maybe he needs to talk to somebody.

2006-08-05 08:09:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

That is confusing. I know. Well.....you said that you are STARTING to like the new guy. So I do not know if it is steady or if you two are just close friends for now.

I was in the same situation, mine was a little unique and I started falling for another guy, but teh guy that let me go was very much in love with me still and regretted his mistake. I was very confused and did not know what to do because I was really starting to like the other guy. Well, I thought long and hard about it and I really felt that going back to my original boyfriend was what I needed to do. Of course, people are giving me grief for it, but I did what I felt was right in my heart. I did not have anything serious going on with this other guy I was just very very interested in him. I thought he was interested in me too, but I found out that he was just a jerk playing with my head.

All I can say, I know there is confusion, but you have to follow your own heart. Does that new guy treat you better and is it a steady thing?
If that is the case, then you should probably go for what is better for you.
You are still pretty young and you have many years ahead of you. You should not be tying yourself down with such worries.

Relax a little and think about things. Don't let your emotions get in the way and don't let HIS emotions pull you down.

You need to think long and hard and listen to your heart

2006-08-05 11:10:23 · answer #6 · answered by HappyCat 7 · 0 0

WOW is all i have to say and the fact that u do need to move on but im also 14 turning 15 soon and i know what you are goin threw and i hope that you can get over him i would say that you need a big cup of icecream and then get a group of girls together and just talk about what you need to. hope this helped!!♥

2006-08-05 08:11:49 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0 0

If he tried to kill himself with alcohol poisoning then he obviously has a drinking problem and needs to get some help with that before he even thinks about worrying about a relationship he needs to learn to LOVE himself first. If you Love him then stand by Him cause he is going to need all the Love and support that he can get...

2006-08-05 08:10:17 · answer #8 · answered by Bluebonnet 2 · 0 0

Yeah, I have some advice.

A little 14 year old has no business having a boyfriend. Why don't you concentrate on school and making yourself a great woman and THEN you can concentrate on a boyfriend. You are way too young to be dealing with all these emotions.

2006-08-05 08:04:05 · answer #9 · answered by lindakb24 3 · 0 0

He needs counciling!!! If it's meant to be for you two, then it will happen! Give it time. It's sounds like he does love you. But talking about suicide is just crazy!!! Tell him he has no future with you if he is going to continue to talk like that. You will know if he's the one for you soon. Continue to see this other guy for awhile. But if the feelings for your ex don't die off, or if you keep thinking about him, then go back to him... Tell him to give up drinking in the mean time. You don't need to have that in your life...Your way too young!!

2006-08-05 08:07:37 · answer #10 · answered by angela 3 · 0 0

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