Hello every one, i am really afarid right now, because i had sex with my x-gf about 4 times, and she wanted me to pull out those 2 out of 4 times, and since i was new at sex i didnt know if i did or not. my parents know that i had sex with her, i am just really scared, because my future is going to hell, i am freaking out, what should i do. The girl who i dtaed doesnt want to have kids, so should i tell her to tell her mom, that she is pregnant, and needs to get a aboriton, HELP ME!!
2006-08-05 07:49:54 · 25 answers · asked by Bert 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I hope you learned your lesson. Use a condom!
2006-08-05 07:55:03 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just gotta deal with it. DId she take a pregnancy test? I don't recommend abortion on someone so young (I presume)...it is an irresponsible choice since it's no big mystery how pregnancy occurs...you knew it was a chance whether you had sex-protected or not.
Having a baby is not the end of the world. Especially if you have supportive families. It makes life a lot harder if you are young, going to school and unmarried...but it can be done without destroying your future.
I have a friend who had a baby in high school and now she is a college graduate and a teacher. She didn't marry the father of her baby, either. My cousin and another friend had babies as teenagers-and although they didn't finish high school, they got decent jobs (I don't recommend this route, though).
Once both your parents get over the initial shock and are not threatening to disown you two anymore...then you and the girl and both sets of parents (and maybe a counselor who has experience with this) sit down and decide what is the best plan. Perhaps everyone may decide that abortion is the best plan...but I hope not.
And don't let people tell you that the two of you are incapable of caring for a baby and try to sweet talk you into an abortion or adoption. That is for you to decide
And a lot of people don't want to have kids but have them anyway. Even when we're not talking about babies, a person's life never turns out quite the way they imagined. We just roll with the punches and do our best to make it work with what we've got. Things usually turn out better than our original plans anyway.
I wouldn't go behind her back and tell her mom about the pregnancy and then tell her what to do.
2006-08-05 15:17:29 · answer #2 · answered by redfernkitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is time you help yourself. If you had sex and she might be pregnant that means that you may be a father. Aborting a baby who was not to blame for this should not be allowed in America. If you ex does not want your child then you should maybe say adoption. I think more importantly you need to look at every time you have sex with a girl you could get her pregnant.
No sex means no baby. Try that one.
2006-08-05 14:57:22 · answer #3 · answered by Bears#1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have reworded this question and asked it BEFORE you decided to have sex!! Do you realize what an abortion is?? Please do research on the net..Your talking about a baby with a heart beat that you created and your going to kill it you should have thought about using a condom then there would have been no possible way for an unwanted pregnancy..Typicality since you didn't think about what would happen i really hope your parents make you take responsibility for your actions!!
2006-08-05 15:09:18 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not take issue in ur own hands? If you tell her parents, really want to inform them about the daughter condition after the abortion and other health things. cause they might want to decide what best for their daughter and maybe family. It's up to you to decide. When did u guys have sex, maybe u guys could go to the emergency room and ask about a medicine prior to preventing pregancy even after sex. see if it right for you. and check if she is even pregnant! go buy some ept test like many of them test them all out in case one produce a wrong result
2006-08-05 14:58:35 · answer #5 · answered by ijenjen3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even tho' it sounds as if it was a mutual thing, you did the deed and you are responsible. Please don't abort the baby if she is pregnant. I did and I've regretted it all my life. Things happen in life and it will turn out OK if you face up to it. Your future will be just fine - you will still be able to do all the things that you planned on doing it just won't be quite as easy. Please do the right thing. I know you know what that is! Trust me, you conscience will be your shadow for the rest of your life.
2006-08-05 15:06:58 · answer #6 · answered by Maggie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only one who can decide if she needs (or wants) an abortion is the girl herself. You don't have the right to make that decision for her. Your life is going to hell because that is exactly where YOU put it. I suggest you suck up and deal with the fact that you screwed your life up and try to figure out where you're going to get the money to either help HER out financially with an abortion or Help her out financially with the full term of her pregnancy/birth if she decides to adopt the child out or figure out how you are going to pay child support for the next 18 to 21 years. Welcome to the world of parenthood.
2006-08-09 08:36:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You think abortion is the answer? Think real hard about that! Don't you think that is not your decision now! There are so many more options then that. Like adoption. First find out for sure then go to a MATURE adult to help you two through this!
2006-08-05 16:23:48 · answer #8 · answered by mystratz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a lesson, but I think abortion is not the option. If it is true that your girlfriend is pregnant, then simply let the baby come out and you can put him/her for adoption.
I believe there are couples out there that want to have babies. Then I think, it's better for you to marry your girlfriend, but I do not know if you have reach legal age to marry?
Next time if you need to use protection.
2006-08-05 14:57:51 · answer #9 · answered by teddybear1268 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
buy 2 pregnancy tests and do them both 1 the day u get them and 1 2 days after and if there both positive then u didnt make a fool out of your self
2006-08-05 14:56:23 · answer #10 · answered by lifesniper 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First let her get one of those pregnancy test things which are sold in the pharmacy to know.. do it now before it is late.
the good part, you already told your parents.. you it can not get worse than that.. let her tell her parents too just in case.. it will be painful but safe.. you need support if she is pregnant
2006-08-05 14:56:56 · answer #11 · answered by guy_from_there 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋