Hi......ummm,my bf is askin me 4 sex,i'm really confused...does the sex 4 the first time hurt?

Answer 1

Yes it does! If he's askin 4 it, then you've not offered it to him yet. so there must be a reason. Like maybe you secretly deep down don't want to? If he's really gentle and really knows what he's doing it won't be so bad, but chances are, he's probably pretty young (a teen anyway) and does not yet have the experience or knowledge to make it good 4 u. He's not askin because he cares 4 u, he's only asking because he's caring about himself. My advice it to tell him 'bed when wed'. And not until then. Not because you've been dating and he thinks it's time, not after a couple of months, or years. or because you're already engaged, but only after the actual legal wedding ceremony takes place. Then you'll know he loves u 4 sure & deserves it. And if you're really confused, that means you've not had time to think it all the way through, so definitely don't yet, because it will be something you will regret later, if not while the actual event is taking place. Please think it through all the way, including ntime, place, birth control method (anything in addition to the condom you'll be using?), and what to do if the unthinkable happens, such as disease, pregnancy, parenthood, and how you will be taking care of all that? especially if you feel like he's pushing u into sex, he prob. won't be there for baby, so now you've got housing issues (with your parents, another place you rent & pay 4 by yourself, while working, going 2 school & taking care of baby, or place you rent with him, while you both go through school, figure out who works & who stays home with baby, or if u both work, etc?) And also, if u r not comfortable discussing these issues with him, it's too soon. OK, not that I've ruined the mood for everybody, go tell him No Way! lol Best wishes

Answer 2

No. Not all the time does it hurt. Each person is different. Whether or not it will hurt for you no one can tell you.

Do not have sex unless you are ready. Don't let someone pressure you into doing something you don't want to do. If you're tense and scared it's not going to be a fun thing and yes it probably will hurt.

Answer 3

everyone is different some bleed and it hurts a little but for me it didnt even hurt or bleed at all. i look at it this way ur gonna do it eventually right so as long as u think he is the one or at least the one u want to loose it with then grin and bare it. i mean u only have a first time once and then u dont have to worry about it any more

Answer 4

It DOES. Not just physically, but mentally too.The sense of loosing something and the restlessness that follows sex outside marriage will be killing you for your life time.Moreover sex before marriage works against love and relationship, contrary to sex after marriage that works towards intimacy and love.Nobody who remained a virgin till her wedding night has ever regretted for being so.Let reality prevails.

Answer 5

yes,definitely it hurts.and u may have severe bleeding even.
as far as i have understood u r an educated one.how can u think for pre-marital sex?are not u aware of that result?don't get confused atleast for this concept.ask ur bf to marry u if he loves u a lot.
but please don't take this step under any circumstance coz this incident will give u only the negative results for u,ur career,ur family & society.
if ur bf loves u,he will respect ur decision and will not ask u again for sex.

Answer 6

Yes it does, you can also expect some bleeding from hymen being broken the first time.
Please wait till you are a little older. Trust me!!
He's not going to stay with you even if you do have sex.

Answer 7

How old r u? I am 18. My last boyfriend asked me for sex and the one b4 that one, and the one b4 that one and the (u get the picture), I refused and am happy 2 b the "SEXIEST VIRGIN" ALIVE. I am gonna wait until I am involved with the same guy for at least 3 years. If it doesn't make it to that point, the SEXIEST VIRGIN lives on..............without sex

Answer 8

Yes it does .. and if ur a teen u need to think 10 times before u do anything

Answer 9

Yes it does! But just make sure that you're doing it with the right person. Don't do it if you guys are not in love with each other because you WILL REGRET IT!!
Just think about it! Good luck!

Answer 10

for the first time yes! but don't do it just because he's asking you 4 it. do it because you feel ready. don't ever let a guy pressure you into something you are not ready for, if he doesn't respect your decision he's not the one to do it for the first time with. love and respect yourself always!