My grandma died and my friend told me that my grandad will probably die now too?

Question

within six months she says it is normal for him to die now to be with her. Now I'm really worried and scared for my gramps. Is what my friend says true.

Answer 1

Sometimes. It depends on a lot of factors. Sometimes the death of one will cause the other to get depressed, or lose the will to live, in which case the statement often comes true.

Of course, it is often true that they are very co dependent on one another and simply don't know how to get along without each other. By the time they would learn how, it is too late. This dependence could be in the form of one reminding the other to take medication, or each doing half of a task because the whole task is too much for either (cooking, for example). In that case, they are quite literally two halves of one unit, and the unit can't survive incomplete.


Other times, the spouse is strong enough to go on and live for quite some time.
You and your family can help a bit by making sure that your grandad is doing well, that he has enough to eat, isn't lonely, and is generally in good spirits.

Give him a call. Say hi. Ask him how he is doing. Make sure he still feels like he is part of life. If he feels like he belongs among the living, he will probably live longer.

Answer 2

Ok you came here for the truth so I will give it to you, its a split decision like a boxing match, is the best way to describe it. Sometimes when partners have been together a long time then one passes YES it is very hard to cope with their being gone and sometimes the other will pass away usually anywhere from 6 months to a year after or suffer for longer. On the other hand sometimes it never happens at all, just because your grandma passed it does not mean your grandfather will. It all depends on the character of the person really and sometimes its just the cycle of life. If I were you I would tell my friend to screw and try and support your grandpa anyway you can right now. You will see things can work out for the best.

Answer 3

That is an old wives tale-health is a logical, medical matter. If your Gramps is healthy, and has your family looking out for him, he's almost certain to live a long healthy life! My Grandad passed away almost 7 years ago, but my Granny is still alive and well, thank God!
Take care what you believe-and from where you hear it, especially when the source is not qualified to make such a potentially hurtful statement. Talk to your parents/family, they'll steer you straight.
Shane

Answer 4

If your grandparents were a couple for a really long time, and loved each other a lot, then sadly that may be exactly what happens, it's very common. When you are with someone for 30 or 40 or 50 or 60 years, and suddenly they are gone, it can make it very difficult to find a good reason to keep living.

It is very sad, but if your Grandad does die, you will know how much he must have loved her.

Answer 5

Your friend didn't want to scare you. She/he probably just talked out of experience.

Its not that its really weird or something, but when two people have grown old together for the longest time, and suddenly the other one has passed away, imagine the amount of loneliness and pain your grandad must feel.

I do know of someone who died and a year after, his wife followed. The man got ill and died. The woman got so lonely and sad and when she got ill, lost all the will to fight for life and died. They say that they must have loved each other so much that it was difficult for them to be apart.

What you can do now is to give companion to your grandad. Make him feel that he still has you to love and to lean on.

Answer 6

The reason why it was said is because generally the elderly are more likely to pass away shortly after thier spouse. They just give up and want to be with them. If your gramps is in good health do not worry he will live for quite a long time.

Answer 7

your friend is not God and only God knows when someone is going to pass on. what your friend isn't telling you is why this happens.
At times in peoples lives they tend to get lonely without the person they fell in love with and spent their entire lives together.
so another words .. some people die after their wife or husband has died only because they are lonely without them. their heart misses them so much that in all respect.. their heart dying is a way to heal themselves and be with the one they love.
your Grandpa may go on to live for years and years.. as i said earlier.. it is only up to God on whether he takes your gramps or not. don't let any that worry you cause either way cause it something you have no control over. maybe sit down with your gramps and tell him how much you love him and that you are here for him.

Answer 8

Not Always. In the past people have been known to die within a short time after a spouse that they have spent a long life with. I on the other hand know people who live many years after. You and your family need to show him much love and support. Let him know how much he means to you all. This will give him a reason to move on and others to live for. He will need people around to keep him company so that he does not just give up. Good Luck to your family.

Answer 9

Well it depends on the emotional state and health of your grandpa. It often happens that if one person in an elderly married couple dies, the other person loses their will to live. My father's grandparents died within two weeks ago. So it is possible, but not certain. Maybe if you show your Grandad how much you love him, he will have the strength to go on for the sake of all his grandchildren.

Answer 10

For one thing I think your friend is an *** and you don't need to come around him/her anymore.

Sometimes; yes. My Lee lee and Pa Paw were like that. What it is is that the grief gets to them. The mind controlls the body. Unfortunately the older generation was taught not to grieve and to hold it all in. People who have been together that long even have a deeper grief than most.

However; there is an extremely good chance your grasndfather will make it especially if he is emotionally healthy and knows how to deal with grief. Don't worry. You have enough to worry about and each day comes with wqorries of its own.