Any ideas of how to go from complete and pervasive social anxiety to carefree, confident, sociable, fun me? (In 5 hours or less) Plus, I need to be awake!
2006-08-05 07:13:08 · 21 answers · asked by qwestionz 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I think you are there already.
Just have fun and never mind those other people they are to busy looking good anyway.
2006-08-05 07:17:12 · answer #1 · answered by Puppy Zwolle 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
BE YOURSELF
Be real, and natural
Love and accept yourself all the way around (including insecurity)and remind you of this before you go.
Remember that everyone has social anxiety at some point even those who seem very comfortable.
All you have to do is take genuine interest in what other people do and who they are. Ask them about themselves a little. Too much coffee can increase anxiety. take a nap if you need to or do something very self-affirming. I think the greatest people to be around are the ones who are genuine, even if slightly insecure. Way better than phony smiles...try deep breathing
most of all, if you love your friend then celebrate her birth!
2006-08-05 07:30:13 · answer #2 · answered by Faye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This means a lot to you, but it's not clear to me how serious your problem is, if you have control over it or not, or whether you are taking medication. The best I can recommend is make a plan - look nice, take a present and tell your friend quietly that you can only stay for half an hour. Try to be cheerful and enjoy yourself, always keeping in mind you can make your escape quickly. Don't drink alcohol. Then take your friend out for lunch another time. Get help for your problem if you haven't done so already. I hope it all works out for you.
2006-08-05 07:22:42 · answer #3 · answered by Zelda Hunter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well think about how much you love your friend and think how hurt your friend would be if you deliberately decided not to attend. You must believe that there are people who love you heart and soul and they trust you and love you just the way you are and they would be sad if you weren't there. Remember to have fun. Instead of sitting around worrying, devote these five hours to all the details of getting ready for the party! You've got a lot to do!! Carefully choose your outfit and choose a really cool outfit that you know you look good in. Or better yet go out and buy a new outfit!!Plan it out. that will give you confidence. then go out and buy a really nice present and card.
well that's my advice.
2006-08-05 07:21:33 · answer #4 · answered by schenzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have just a couple of beers. Not enough to pass out, but enough to loosen you up.
And don't worry about what anybody else thinks. These are your friends, they already know how fun you can be. If there is anybody who doesn't like you or something you did...f*** 'em. Just who do they think they are anyways. The key is to have the confidence in yourself to BE yourself and the others be damned. If they can't take it, they shouldn't be your friends.
Most of all, ENJOY YOURSELF!!! In the end, that's all that matters. If you're having fun, others around you will be having fun as well.
2006-08-05 07:21:40 · answer #5 · answered by Woody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember that everybody has the same insecurities as you.
They arent hiding them or dealing with them any better then you can or do.
They just dont let those feelings control their cognisant track of thought.
As you go about your day with fears, so does everyone else, they just put those fears on the back burner.
Yea, i know, easier said then done.
but that is the reality of it,and if you truly want to have an enjoyable time, you have to learn to put aside your fears.
And
fart every once in a while just for laughs
2006-08-05 07:19:45 · answer #6 · answered by scary g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-17 09:53:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try getting there extra early. Then you won't be arriving when the place is full of people. Don't drink too much alcohol, but a glass may relax you a bit. If all else fails stick with your friend and use them as your safety blanket. And remember to smile alot everyones nice to you when you smile. good luck
2006-08-05 07:20:50 · answer #8 · answered by sarkyastic31 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you can do this! This is part of your "gift" to your friend...being there. Maybe after the party you can confide in your friend about how social gatherings affect you...then see if he/she has suggestions. IF it's a life altering feeling see your family doctor; it could be a phobia and something that you might need to seek counseling to help resolve. Again, you can do this!
2006-08-05 07:17:53 · answer #9 · answered by nirekelly27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're too focused on yourself.
Forget about yourself and get focused on other people whom you'll be meeting and talking too. People are mirrors. If they see a self-centered introvert, they draw back into a shell themselves. Then you sense that "nobody likes me" and you become even more reserved.
Break the cycle by showing genuine interest in others' lives, activities, opinions, etc. You demonstrate that by asking questions, listening thoughtfully and then responding in an optimistic and friendly manner.
You know you can do that...don't you?
2006-08-05 07:22:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that's possible, but you can bring another friend along. This tends to help me in this situation. I'm like you. Can't show up to a social gathering by myself. Too creepy for me, You'll feel more comfortable if you don't show up by yourself. Have fun Dude.
2006-08-05 07:19:35 · answer #11 · answered by alter_ego 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋