I am in a relationship with someone who has PTSD. We have known each other for awhile, but have just started getting really close. I know that he has PTSD. What can I do to reassure him about our relationship and to make him feel secure with me? I care very much for him. His disorder was caused by a bad relationship and a couple of other incidents.
2006-08-05 07:13:04 · 4 answers · asked by clarity 7 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Leelee...The bad relationship wasn't the only thing he went through. He has been diagnosed with PTSD (I know through another friend). The bad relationship part is what's affecting my relationship with him.
2006-08-05 07:24:05 · update #1
Be reassuring, patient, caring, considerate, understanding, loving, and when you forget see the above. When you start getting uncertainties about the relationship because of the distance that is put between the two of you because of this, see the above. This is the only way to overcome this in a relationship. Been there did this, only through childhood trauma and then war trauma with the man I love and he loves me to. DO NOT BREAK HIS TRUST IN YO.U.
2006-08-05 07:33:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately all you can do is be there for him as anything simple tho it may be could be a trigger to bring on the symptoms of ptsd an anniversary of the event news on the tv or radio of the event magazines or just a simple word being mentioned could cause his mood to go down or his anxiety or temper to increase.
Just reassure him constantly when he is feeling insecure as only time and a build up of trust in your relationship can decrease or change his belief in the fact that all relationships are bad and sufferers of ptsd find it extremely hard to trust or believe they are worthy enough a lot of the time.
If he has been proffesionally diagnosed with ptsd then he should hopefully be receiving the treatment he is needing psychotherapy to talk through his past. Medication to alleviate his symptoms. I wish you all the luck in the world as i myself suffer from chronic ptsd and am lucky to have anexitremely loving and patient partner.
2006-08-05 14:56:41 · answer #2 · answered by angelle_76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help him get help. But, PTSD is not what you are stating. Unless he was beaten or abused physically or psychologically. My son has PTSD and he found his dad after his dad shot himself when my son was 13. He has hallucinations about the event especially during Thanksgiving (his dad's b.d.) Christmas (a family time) and the beginning of school (when his dad shot himself). Hallucinations are a definite stress signal of PTSD. Your boyfriend just had a bad sort of it and is going to have to learn to deal with what we all have to when we have a bad relationship. Time heals all wounds.
2006-08-05 14:19:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People need to get over bad things or rot in place.
move on with what they call a life.
what does not kill you makes you stronger.
2006-08-05 14:17:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋