He want to check up on me all the time. He wants to drive me everywhere, even if im with my friends he has to be there. He checks around the streets always making sure im supposed to be where i say im am. He hardly lets me hang out with my friends and he chooses my friends for me. If they dress a certain why that he does not like or if they have boyfriends he wont let me hang out with them. i think im too old for that cuz im 19. what should i do? and dont say move out because it in our culture girls move out only when they get married.
2006-08-05 07:11:05 · 23 answers · asked by Lorrane 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Get a digital camera and take nude pictures of yourself. Tell him you will post them on the internet if he doesn't knock it off.
2006-08-05 07:16:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as he is not abusive you should respect him, but let him know that you are an adult and he should respect you and give you opportunities so that he can start to trust you. You will never be able to make decisions on your own if your father is constantly at your side. You also don't want to rebel and just make stupid decisions to spite your father. If you beleive in your culture abide by it, however, if you do not see the value in in staying at home until you are married, then get out and support yourself. You have the right to do what you want. In the US 18 is legal age and your parents are no longer liable for you.
2006-08-05 14:17:16 · answer #2 · answered by VOLLEYBALLY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not in your culture anymore. Unfortunately you father moved because of all the war going on near or in your country. He has a dilemma, on one hand he wants you to stay with your religion/ culture and have no part of the world outside, and on the other hand he knows no matter how hard he tries your still getting influence from the world outside. Tell him he brought you up with strong morals within your culture, but you have no desire to marry outside of your culture. You just want to get to know the people who make up the rest of the world, And that you know whats wrong and whats right, and that your beliefs will never change because you believe what he believes.,
2006-08-05 14:30:16 · answer #3 · answered by crafty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 19, and you are old enough to choose to submit to your cultural restrictions; or, to tell your dad that you are going to move out and pay your own bills. If you don't chose to make your own rules, you choose to let your dad do it for you. Sounds like you might be able to sneak around behind his back. What's he gonna do if he catches you? It doesn't sound like he'll kick you out or anything. He's doing it because he doesn't want you to be a loser, but you don't have to put up with it if you don't want to.
If you are not paying your own bills, you have absolutely no right to complain.
2006-08-05 14:18:57 · answer #4 · answered by mightyart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it is your safety, I think that you and your dad should have like a 2 hours together and then, when the 2 hours is up, you get to hang out with your friends.
2006-08-05 14:16:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well then you might just have to get married. Or you can ask him like why do you constantly check on me? I am 19 years-old and I am not a baby! You should like go to your boyfriend's house or something like that. Or go to the movies or sneak out or something.
2006-08-05 14:15:32 · answer #6 · answered by Carly-Rae<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 21 and my dad still asks me where I'm going and who I'm going out with and when I'll be back. lol, but try to talk to your dad that you're 19 and almost 20, he can't be protective of you forever. I mean I've tried to talk to my dad but it doesn't work. you just have to let him know that you're not his baby girl anymore. or find a guy and get married lol and you can have your freedom.
2006-08-05 14:19:58 · answer #7 · answered by superboredom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your dad it really bugs you.
You're over 18 and you're considered an adult. The looks to me are that you can't do anything for yourself since you let Daddy pick your friends for you and don't have a say in it.
No offense.
2006-08-05 14:16:04 · answer #8 · answered by ☼ becki ☼ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yell at him. You're not a little girl anymore. I thought you were going to be 13, but you're 19 years old. You should appreciate the fact that you probably haven't been raped or beaten violently, (Sorry to sound harsh) but he's sounding like someone who is looking out for you. Tell him he's appreciated, but you are done with his "Coddling" and would like to be your own woman now.
2006-08-05 14:18:16 · answer #9 · answered by jokerscard692000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I'd talk to him about it. In a calm way though...
And this probably doesn't help much but you could be glad that it's not just the opossite... some people have parents who want nothing to do with them and don't care.
2006-08-05 14:16:38 · answer #10 · answered by orangesmoothie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋