i just found out who is my real mother, but my adopted mother has been taking care of me for years and i love her very much but i also love my real mom who must i choose?!
2006-08-05 06:10:11 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Ma'am...who do you think raised you to be the person you are today? was it the woman who left you for good at some orphanage, or was it the woman who with a big heart took you into her life and bring up as her own? There's no harm in getting to know your biological mom, but you must remember than the person you are today is only because of your adopted Mom.You know where your loyalties lie more than I do.
2006-08-05 06:16:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
The woman who raised you is your real mother. But that does not mean that you cannot have a relationship with your birth mother. Why do you have to choose? Why can't you have a relationship with both? I am sure there was a reason that your birth mother felt that she could not raise you, she had your best interest at heart or else she would have opted for abortion. And the adoptive mother raised you and loved you as her own. Feel blessed that you have two wonderful women in your life.
2006-08-05 06:58:53 · answer #2 · answered by peach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you feel like you must choose? Your adopted mother raised you and loved you as her own and considers herself to be your mother. She didn't give birth to you but she may as well have. She loves you.
Your biological mother gave birth to you but for whatever reason had to put you up for adoption. I am sure she most likely did it out of love for you and wanted the best for you.
In any case, the fact that you found your biological mother doesn't mean that you have to pick one over the other. I think you should have enough love within yourself to love both of them especially considering your adoptive mother raised you and your birth mother wasn't around all these years up until now. I would focus on making sure you don't make your adoptive mother feel alienated and at the same time try to develop a healthy relationship just trying to get to know your biological mother. If you noticed I don't call her your real mom because I think they are both your real moms....one gave you life but the other one devoted her life nurturing you and making you the person you are today....Good luck...
2006-08-05 06:34:32 · answer #3 · answered by Cute But Evil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Choose your adoptive mother. She is the one that was willing to take you in and take care of you. If your real mother loved you that much, she would not have given you away.
2006-08-05 06:25:21 · answer #4 · answered by Art The Wise 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will I think you should choose your adopted mother because she was the one who take care of you since your where a baby.
2006-08-05 06:28:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, you lucky person if you have both willing to accept and love you for who you are -- I would NOT choose, but love them BOTH! To have two caring mothers (who are living) WOW! Consider this a blessing and just enjoy the presence of both in your life. Remember also that your adopted mother CHOSE you to come into her life.
2006-08-05 06:18:57 · answer #6 · answered by sglmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should choose ur adopted mother. bcoz when u needed ur mother very urjently she left u in an orphanage .she didnt even think that u wont b nurtured well in an orphanage. she just didnt care 4 u. still u say that ur thinking. how can u 4get what ur adopted mom has done 4 u & u cold have been dead till now. how can u 4get her who has cared 4 u knowing that u were not her own child. what does ur real mum want? but afterall u have to decide. wish u luck
2006-08-05 06:26:55 · answer #7 · answered by rocky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There should be no choice. You should be able to see both of them. It might hurt your adopted mother just talk to her and tell her the importance of wanting to see your real mother.
2006-08-05 06:22:32 · answer #8 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well your adopted mother has been there for you when know one else was, you should seek her advice before making a decision. I know you are excited to know your real mom is in the picture. be careful so you don't get disappointed again.
May God bless all you do in life
2006-08-05 06:25:49 · answer #9 · answered by RAINBOW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
choose your adopted mother. if your real mother put you up for adoption she musnt love you as much.that or she couldnt support you. but your adopteive mother has taken care of you for years. if i were you id consider her my real mother
2006-08-05 06:19:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋