My cat died a few monthes ago. i am still sooooo veary sad whwt should I do ???

Question

should i get a new one soon or not ????
if i get a new one should it be a cat ???
or should it be a diffrent kind of pet ???
see i don't know the anuser too any of these qustens.
I't makes me want too cry even thinking about this.
so can someboddy help meeeeeeeee .............. ?????
please ...... ?!?!?!?!????!!!!

Answer 1

My cat Pepper died 15 years ago and I still feel sad / happy when I think of him. But since then I have had other cats and dogs - each one is special and each one has brought me joy and sorrow. You obviously have a lot of love to give, grieving is natural, but try to share your love with another lucky creature. He or she won't be the same, don't try to compare them. Just remember that each time we share our lives with another we are blessed.

If it's truly overwhelming you there is a free support group here:-

http://www.chancesspot.org/

You could maybe write a tribute to your cat too.

Answer 2

I'm so sorry you lost your friend. :(

I had a small white kitten, and though he was deaf, he was the sweetest thing ever. I loved him so much, and how he followed me everywhere. He died suddenly from liver failure and I was so depressed for weeks, and even though it was a couple years ago, I still haven't completely gotten over it.

You could get a new pet/cat but we both know that it could NEVER, ever replace the other. It won't be the same. But, that doesn't mean a new cat couldn't find it's own place in your heart, and in it's own way help you mend and move on.

It depends on you. Do you think you're ready and capable of seperating the two in your mind, and not use the new pet to replace the old? Can you care for it emotionally like it'll need? You sound like a very loving person, and I'm sure if you take it slow, and don't force yourself into it, you could learn to be okay with it. :) I'd go with another cat, myself. Something familiar might make it easier.

Answer 3

First of all, i am deeply sorry that your cat died. Losing a pet is an awful experience and can make you feel sad for months (My pet iguana died a few years ago and I still feel sad for her). It might help you to feel better to get a new cat or a different pet entirely. The choice is up to you. You will still have fond memories of your cat even when introducing a new pet to your home. I wish you the best of luck and hope you feel less sad soon. Just remember, getting over the loss of a pet is a long journey and everyone goes through many sadness periods, so keep your chin up and everything will be okay.

Answer 4

Honestly, it will breaks my heart to see a cat die. I have been there and done that, and it's a hard thing to go through. I have found that while one cat cannot be replaced, the hole it leaves in your heart can be filled by getting a kitten. The kitten will do a lot to fill that hole by occupying your attention. Do it soon, your other pet would not want for you to be sad. Your animals know when you are sad, and they try to comfort you. Your other cat will never be replaced and neither will all the great memories he gave you. But it's time to get yourself a kitten and love it just as much as you did your old faithful cat.
PS....After I had one of our cats put down due to age, physical condition, and medical problems, I wrote this poem and submitted it to poetry.com
Kitty, kitty, old and dear
Today is sad, your end is near
A friend you've been to everyone
But you'll live on when this day's done
All spirits live on and never die
Yours will too and you'll sit on high
We watched you grow from just a kitten
Stealing the yarn for making my mitten
You ate my plants, and dug up clay
But we still loved you anyway
Now in our hearts you'll live on
Even though from this world you'll be gone
We hope you know that you'll be missed
So will that face we loved to kissed
But life moves on and so must we
When things we love, cease to be
Kitty, kitty, small and young
Full of life and loads of fun
The paws are big you have to fill
And there's no doubt, we're sure you will.

Christine Ann Anderson

Answer 5

i have 5 cats that have diednot to bring you mind up on youcat though
but im sure he is in a better place

if you want to get a new catbut it reminds you tooo much of tour old one try anotherpetlike a dog but you may want to get another ca because everyone has to go sooner or later so you pretty much have to face that fact.but you prolly should go with another animal then maybe after a while when you have a dog for maybe 2-3 yrs or less try getting a cat(its not true that dogs and cats dont get along its fake)its just depends if the cat likes all the attention soif you get another cat with a dog give them the same amount of attention as you would normally do

good luck!!i hope you get a new pet soon!!! <333

Answer 6

I'm sorry your cat died; it's a tough thing to go through. I'd get another one (2 if possible), but only when you're ready. Don't make the mistake of trying to get a cat that reminds you of the one that passed away. You'll expect the new one to be just like the old one and that's not fair. Don't do anything in a hurry; check out as many shelters as you can.

Answer 7

Chances are if you're thinking about getting another pet, it's time to do it. Get whatever you would be most comfortable with. The shelters of full of cats and dogs in desperate need of good homes. The new pet will never be your departed cat. Don't expect it to be. It will have a personality of its own, for you to enjoy and discover. There will always be a special place inside you for your old friend, but that doesn't mean there isn't plenty of room for a new one.

Answer 8

This is not an easy time for you, I really can appreciate what you're going through. I've had cats my whole life, losing one is always heart-wrenching. Getting a kitten now will help you, trust me. You're heart may be broken, but a new little face will cheer you, especially when that first purr at the sight of you happens, or that first nose rub they love to do. The laugh as they do their 'halloween' kitten dance for you when you give them their first cat-nip mouse or ball. Or when they cuddle close into your neck for a well deserved nap after some big adventure.

All of these little things are what will heal your heart. You will never forget your other kitty, you will just learn to love a new one.
I hope this encourages you, and brightens your heart just a bit.

Answer 9

Amber,

I've had cats all my life. But my soul mate cat died 15 years ago and I still grieve over him. Time will help. I promise. Best thing to do is get a kitten from the pound or one being given away. There's a little creature out there that needs a loving home and you can give it to him or her.

It won't ever take the place of your lost one, but I promise, you'll both be happy with each other.

I have two strays. One I got as a kitten and the other was abused as an adult. They are so funny together that I laugh at them constantly. Hang in there, my friend.

And for Redunicorn...I believe that my little black kitten, who is grown now...is a reincarnation of my soul mate cat. I have no doubt.

Answer 10

The loss of any well-loved pet can be a devastating thing, and it's especially so for cat lovers, as cats, unlike dogs, tend to bond themselves to a single person. I owned a Manx for 12 years for whom, when she became ill in 1995 with the sickness which killed her, I took her to several vets, before finally giving up and letting her go; the loss made me heartsick, and I seem to remember shedding more than a few tears.

However, pets are not like human children. They are replaceable, and though you should mourn the loss, it shouldn't take over your life or lead you to other extreme actions like refusing to get another pet out of some misplaced loyalty to your dead one.

So I recommend getting another animal companion soon; pets make wonderful family additions, and can often be better company than other humans. Yes, I recommend another cat--I'm a cat person myself, and believe they make superior companions to dogs or other animals due to the bonding quality I mentioned; they're also a lot more intelligent than dogs, and many people for that matter.

Answer 11

With apologies to Yahoo, IVillage.com has a great board for pet bereavement. I have spent many nights there after the death of my cats (6 in my adult life). There are caring, loving people there who have experienced what you have, and they will help you.

You will know when it's time for another pet. I would wait a few weeks and then visit the local animal shelter. I have adopted 4 cats that were already adults, and have given them a good home.

Hang in there. You have lots of love to give, and there are lots of animals out there who would be lucky to have you take them. Take care. Hugz.♥