she is insisting that the two eldest bridesmaids (me and her best friend) have strapless dresses i am very top heavy 36dd and very self conscious about my boobs she has no concept of this as she has very small boobs and has no kids unlike me so she is still very proud of her chest i dont want to upset her as she is a bit of a bridezilla does anyone have any ideas ???????????????
2006-08-05 05:42:50 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
tell her! she is your sister say what you need to say and say and dont worry about hurting her feelings she will need to understand. you are her braidsmaid for a reason. She values you in her life. she will be alright
2006-08-05 06:14:56 · answer #1 · answered by Jan l 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Make sure your sister realizes how uncomfortable the dress makes you, first, but in a nice way. Compliment the dresses to high heaven, but then tell her that while you're really envious of her "trim figure", you and the other bridesmaids aren't built as nicely. (Okay, so this may involve some white lies).
THEN ask about the dress.
If it doesn't go well, head to the best underwear shop in your region. Find someplace that does good advice on underwear. If at all possible, bring the dress with you, if not, at least bring a picture. They should be able to help you with underwear that will keep everything in place. Personally, I'd reccommend a good strapless corset: everything will be held in and, who knows, your figure may wind up looking better than the bride's!
2006-08-05 07:53:15 · answer #2 · answered by shovelbum_mud_lover 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im am a 44 dd and I am getting married and I bought a dress that has straps but I plan to tuck them into the dress to make the dress strapless. I fount that the dress looked fine as long as you put the right stuff under it. The people where you are getting the dress at should be able to help you with this. THe dress shouldnt go anywhere it will be just fine. Just let youre sister have her weding the way she wants it after all it is her day and someday you will have youres wouldnt you want things to be the way you want them. If it realy bothers her just ask her if there is any way you could wear a dress with straps instead. Im sure she would say it was ok if you explain to her that youre afraid that you are going to pop out of the dress. Good luck
2006-08-05 06:04:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a large chested lady and totally understand where you are coming from. They do have great bras at the bridal shops that not only give great breast support but smooth the rest of you out. Try not to get one that the boning is on the outside or it will show through the dress. I wore one under my wedding dress, it had sleeves but while I was trying on other dresses I was amazed at how supported I felt even in the strapless gowns. Also, check out the clear straps that you can put on your bra and see if they will work.
2006-08-05 06:34:28 · answer #4 · answered by Kim D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in my cousins wedding this past May. Our dresses were strapless. I am also top heavy and had the concern of a wardrobe malfunction but at the same time the bride wants what she wants. You will need to get a good quality strapless bra. try Lane Bryant (online if not local). Or try your local "big girl" store. you will find bras better suited for your figure than an off the rack bra at Target.
2006-08-05 07:17:01 · answer #5 · answered by nimopiba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This will be her big day so you really should do your best to do as she wishes. People will be looking at the bride and she will not be looking her best if she feels her chief Bridesmaid has let her down. When the time comes for fittings etc. get yourself a good strapless bra and speak to the seamstress as she will know how to ensure that the top of the dress not only fits well, but will support your generous boobs.
2006-08-05 05:51:45 · answer #6 · answered by blondie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Has she seen you in this dress? If she hasn't than take her into the store where they are being bought and show her how bad you look in a strapless dress. You might want to get a sales lady's help as well to make her realize just how bad it looks on you. Hopefully that will get her to change her mind because, in the end, if it doesn't look right or your self consciousness is reflected in your face, the pictures will turn out bad which is definitely something she doesn't want.
2006-08-05 14:39:57 · answer #7 · answered by Patricia D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should not be making you wear something that you feel is unsuitably immodest or embarrassing. Tell her straight out, and right away, that you simply need a more modest dress, or you will have to decline to he in the wedding party. Many dress lines can make you another style of dress in the exact same fabric and color.
Don't make excuses for her by calling her a bridezilla. Creating a cute name for bad behavior doesn't make the behavior any less inappropriate. Don't accept that from her.
2006-08-05 09:00:13 · answer #8 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does the wedding dress look like? Is it strapless? An option is to back down from the maid/matron of honor position. Tell her you love her and are happy for her and honored to be chosen as M. of honor, but with the choice of dress, you will have to step down, modestily. Or check with the bridal consultant and tell her/him your problem and if there is nothing that can be done to remedy the issue, it will go over better to hear the remedy from a professional. Emotions run high, for fear of all the could haves and should haves, and family pressures. It's her day and needs to be perfect in her eyes, but after it is all over, it will return to norm. Good luck in whatever you decide
2006-08-05 05:59:38 · answer #9 · answered by All 4 JR 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey hun, if i had big oobies i'd be proud!
but, just a little reassurance here, most strapless dresses come with the choice of staps to! dont worry about it, talk to ur sister, and say that ur concious of ur chest, and that YOU want to be comfortable! mention to her that u would like to wear the straps, (if you have them)
i get married next week and all my bridesmaids are rather large busted ( ones is a 36 f)! they're wearing strapless dresses. im sure that u will look great!
2006-08-05 07:18:15 · answer #10 · answered by storm.minx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell her there is not buts about it. I hate when people tell you what you are going to wear. I am getting married next year and I told my bride maids the color of the wedding and to get a dress that is suitable for their body type. Each bride should consider that. I have even provided the color swatch so there is no question. Be sides tell her does she want the eyes off of her that day (because there is a chance that your boobs will pop out) I wish you the best, be tuff.
2006-08-05 06:03:56 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋