My entire family have seen signs in my boyfriend of drugs use. And now that I think about all their points, I agree he is using drugs. From gridding his teeth to scrubing dye off his face until he bleeds. How do I confront his problem, and have him admitt it?
2006-08-05 05:41:16 · 10 answers · asked by punxrockgrl4 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Ask him!
2006-08-05 05:45:08 · answer #1 · answered by Wounded duckmate 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people will do what they call interventions with a person they suspect is abusing drugs. They get all the friends and family together who are affected by the abuse and each person tells the individual how their drug abuse affects them and asks them to get help. It is something that needs to be done in a loving way so that the person can hear it. It doesn't always work, but sometimes it does and a person can start to see how their use and abuse of drugs is impacting their life, their dreams and their relationships (and the lives of) others. When you go into something like this it is important to have looked up treatment centers and to help the person access these treatment centers if they so decide. But.... that person is the one who will ultimately decide... or not..... to seek treatment.
2006-08-05 12:57:25 · answer #2 · answered by Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't com-front him if I were you, most likely you'd just have a big fight. I'd make sure his on drugs and find out what kind, it sounds like either Cocaine or Crystal-meth. If it's Crystal Meth, he might have a glass pipe around or use a lot of Bic pens. The end ofthe pens would be chewed off. Crystal is very addictive, and depending on how long he's done it its going to be hard to get him Off.
If its Cocaine, very expensive if its the good stuff. Not as addictive as Crystal, but addictive.
You have two options: One. Com-front him, he might get mad and yell at you or he'll joke about and try to blow it off. Make sure you get solid answer, and then doubt that answers. Might be lying.
Two. Go out tonight with him and pull him aside and say I want to try some drugs, and start mentioning Crystal, Coke, Weed, Ecstasy, Mushrooms. He might tell you the one hes doing then, then see how much he does. If he does alot, you'll have to check him into a rehab clinic. It's like talking someone off a cliff, be very careful.
Or your family is wrong and they just don't like him.
Good Luck
2006-08-05 13:07:40 · answer #3 · answered by mevanr8x7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Substances users/abusers are into denial and can be notorious liars. They want to hide their problems for as long as they can, even from themselves.
You cannot do anything about this; if you want to remain with him, you'll have to stand by until he decides to do something. The only person you can control on earth is yourself. That is true of each one of us!
Walking away from it may be the answer, because being involved romantically with a user/abuser is hell. I know from experience. Don't get into the "enabling" habit, either, because it is emotionally draining. Don't start giving him money, calling his boss if he's late to work and making excuses for him.
Let him "bottom" out if that's what it takes. It may mean leaving him and I know that sounds harsh, but at some point you'll be forced to make that decision for your own well-being.
Much luck w/this tough situation!!
2006-08-05 12:52:22 · answer #4 · answered by 60s Chick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him, and if he denies it and you know he is lying, it's time to move on to someone else. If he admits it, help him get some help. Getting involved with someone on drugs is a BAD idea though, so I would move on either way. Be his friend if he wants to get clean, but the relationship aspect should end until he is clean and has been clean for a long time.
2006-08-05 12:49:12 · answer #5 · answered by *¦·ωιςкэđ·¦* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, lets be straight here. This is your boyfriend-if he is on drugs -you know it. You can tell what someone does by who he hangs around with. Is his friends on drugs? Well, I would go to his family and see what they think and if all ya'll think that he is really on drugs contact a rehab and have an intervention. We had to do that with my son. It was hard, but he is where he needs to be-getting help.
2006-08-05 22:59:54 · answer #6 · answered by gee-geeofmo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't really do anything. Only when he admits it to himself will he be able to get help for himself. On the other hand, you can tell him that him grinding his teeth etc. concern you, and that you're worried about him. Let him know that if he ever wants to talk about why he's doing those things, you're there for him.
If he ever attacks you, or if you suspect he's given you drugs without your consent, then leave. Immediately. And call the police and tell them what happened.
2006-08-05 12:46:54 · answer #7 · answered by cjsmommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think this is really a drug problem,get a trained professional and do an intervention.He will have to admit it to his self if he is going to overcome it.Good Luck!!!
2006-08-05 12:47:55 · answer #8 · answered by bamahotT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Approach him as a concerned friend and not in an accusatory manner. Say things such as, "I've been worried about you," "You know you can tell me anything... sometimes people make mistakes...everyone does." Sit beside him as you talk. Don't stand over him.
2006-08-05 13:09:16 · answer #9 · answered by Jen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, HE has to be the one to admit it....not you. Good luck in your situation.
2006-08-05 12:55:07 · answer #10 · answered by xxx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋