If you could destroy a person without being caught...would you? Ex-hubby broke my kids hearts-they called him daddy for half of their lives but now he wants nothing to do with them...it has been over a year and they are still angry and hurt...and he could not care less. I really want to hurt him.
2006-08-05 05:36:42 · 23 answers · asked by Mindy Jo 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
It's his loss. Look at what he's missing out on. The kids will eventually be alright, and won't have anything to regret, but he sure will. When you feel like hurting him, think about what he's going to feel like one of these days when he realizes too late what he's lost. That should be satisfying enough.
2006-08-05 05:43:22 · answer #1 · answered by telaine 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I agree with herbs: Move on and work hard at letting the bitterness fade away. The pain you're all experiencing now is only hurting you and your kids -- not him. It's important that you help them heal. They'll never forget whatever it was that happened, but please do your best to keep them from carrying too much of it into their adult lives. One last thing: Trying to destroy someone else's life could easily end up destroying yours. Where would your kids would be then? They need a positive influence in their lives now more than ever. They still have you, and they will remember who helped them learn how to get past the pain. Good luck. It will take time, but life can still be good again.
2006-08-05 13:23:24 · answer #2 · answered by Frosty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that's not a good idea. Let go of hurt and anger and get on with your life. There are plenty of people out there who you can relate with on a more positive level. Why waste precious moments on bitterness which only breeds mental and physical sickness. Seek the guidance of a professional counselor to learn how to effectively disengage from the pain in your life and focus on the good and uplifting things. And don't poison your children's hearts with your bitterness and give them a roll model so they can repeat the cycle and have failed relationships. Go to church and find a support group for single Mom's. You need some tools to help you have a happy fruitful life and those can be found through the teaching's of the Bible and through mentoring succesful Christian Women. We have but one life to live and it is your choice to get better or bitter. A very good book to read is Safe People and another one is Boundaries to help you have a better insight into people and behaviours that work and that don't work. Best Wishes to you in your journey!
2006-08-05 12:52:28 · answer #3 · answered by SunFun 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would probably destroy them even if I would get caught. I have anger management issues though. Sometimes you gotta learn how to move on, help your kids move on, and accept the fact that there are mean and hurtful people in the world. Use it as a way to prepare them for real life rather than making it just a traumatizing experience.
2006-08-05 12:43:02 · answer #4 · answered by *¦·ωιςкэđ·¦* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I'll try to spend time curing my children's hurt feelings but I'll also tell them to let it go, not to call him daddy if he doesn't want to. The best way for you to hurt him is to blotter his name, picture and address on the net and tell all his girlfriends about what he did to his own kids. Another best way to get back at him is when he's old and no one wants to take care of him from your kids.
2006-08-05 12:42:05 · answer #5 · answered by Equinox 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have found that, over the years, "what comes around goes around". Be careful starting something that may jeopardize your relationship with your children. They need all of your support you can give them, put your energy into them , don't waste your time on a losing situation with a loser!
Good Luck and God Bless!
2006-08-05 12:43:44 · answer #6 · answered by True Blue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is an ***hole and he is the loser in the end.The children will get over the hurt and anger in time.Have you tried counseling for them.That would help them deal with it.Physically hurting your ex would only make matters worse for there would be legal ramifications.Your children need you more than you need to hurt your ex.
2006-08-05 12:48:06 · answer #7 · answered by hungerforknowledge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry for you & your kids. Keep your composure though. Your kids need a responsible adult that they can depend on. Don't trash talk their dad to them or let them know how much you hate him. Be honest with them that you are genuinely upset about what he has done & remind them that you wont do the same. God bless you and your family.
2006-08-05 12:43:45 · answer #8 · answered by daweeney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't seek revenge. If he is the kind of person who would do something like that, then you and your kids are better off without him. There will be new people and experiences to fill his place.
2006-08-05 13:30:27 · answer #9 · answered by Jen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain.. But you really need to put it behind you. Obsessing over him will only hurt you and the kids more.
2006-08-05 12:42:27 · answer #10 · answered by sea_sher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋