How many women haven't changed their name...?

Question

when they got married? I didn't and i want to hear from other people who also choose not to and their reasons why.
my reason- I guess I'm just more of a feminist than I knew, becuase when it came down to it, Ididn't feel like I should have to change my identity just beause I am a woman.
Sisters?

I didn't ask if you agreed with my choice (kittyrogers and angeldust). i just wanted to see why other people made the same coice I did.
Also- the first piece of info on your drivers license and passport is your name, and no I don't feel as if my name is my sole identity, but of course it is part of it.
AND- My husband and I are both artists and we wanted to make sure our work stayed separate in the professional world. Art is very personal and has a lot to do with my identity because I express my thoughts and feelings in what I create. Don't hate on me because you don't agree with my and my husbands choices.
for the people upset about the unborn children- At this point we don't want any.

Answer 1

I kept the name my parents gave me. It was a personal choice, and my husband was comfortable with it. Our daughters share my husband's last name. When - and if - they choose to marry, they will each make the decision regarding their surname. I have known couples who choose to combine their surnames to creat a new, (sometimes) unique name for themselves - Carter and Johnson could become Carson.

Answer 2

You don't lose your identity by taking your husbands last name. A name doesnt identify you. Think about it..when you die, someone has to come identify you, your name isnt enough so really, what kind of identification is a name. When someone askes for ID, do you just give them your name? No...you show them something with a photo. Your personal characteristics identify you. I took my husbands last name becase it was important to him and to me that we be known as Mr.&Mrs. You arent a Mrs. now. And your children if you have any or plan to wont have the same last name as you. You can hyphanite theirs if you want to, but its still not the same. I want to be a family someday..the Taylor family. Not the Taylor family and me with some other last name. I think you'll regret it in the future, but thats your problem...not mine.

If you read it properly you stupid moron, I'm making a point that your name is not you identity because you said you didn't want to lose your identity and if your so set on keeping you last name then why even ask the stupid question? Who cares why other people keep their name? Maybe you regret your choice if you care so bloody much. Grow up or shut up!

Answer 3

The national average of women keeping their last name in some form (such as hyphenation) has doubled in the last ten years from 10% to 20%. The average for women not taking thier husbands name at all, just getting married and keeping thier name exactly the same is 3%.

Answer 4

I'm getting married in December and I can't wait to change my last name. I've waited a long time to do it. And I think it's also symbolizes a new beginning in your life with your husband, and all the beautiful things to come. But it's your choice and a personal decision if it was important to you to keep your name then think it's great you did! good for you for staying true to you.

Answer 5

Here's what I did to keep it simple.
First name /middle name-maiden last name / New last name
Ex. Jane Ann Smith
Now Jane Ann-Smith Newlywed

I would sign my name Jane Newlywed but my maiden name is still a part of my name.

I did not want to lose my maiden name, I have no brothers to carry on our name and it made my Dad and me happy. Also, I was in my late 20's when I was married and I didn't want to change my whole identity.

Answer 6

I changed my name because, honestly, I didn't like my last name. I also had the problem as a kid that my mom had a different last name, & I hated it. My aunt chose to hyphenate. Her daughters are 9 yrs. apart & from different marriages. One of her kids has both last names, the other has the first only. It keeps it more comfortable for the kids I think.

Answer 7

My best friend's sister just got married and kept her own last name.

I will take my husband's last name when I get married, not because I am being submissive and losing my own identity, but because I love him enough to do that for him. I'm kind of into traditional things too.

Answer 8

I changed mine...your hubbys last name must be horrible? I am still the same person I was then, just have a different name. I dont feel I changed my identity!

Answer 9

I never ever wanted to change my name. I always knew this and some people did not think that was normal or even liked that about me. lol. Oh well. That is my business. So, when I did get married I kept my name AND added his. Plus he added my name to his--legally. Nice trade I think.

Answer 10

i live in the southern us, it's common here for the wifie to use her maiden name as her new middle name and then use her husbands name also. so janis sue doe marries bob smith and she become janie doe smith. i'm originally from the pacific northwest where it's not common to do that and chose to keep my middle name, that i share with my grandmother, instead. for still another choice, I went to high school with a guy who took his wifes name instead, which was sweet.