Parents? Teenagers?

Question

I am almost 16 years old, and cant wait to be 16. My mom and I cannot stop arguing, it is constant. My friends are often over, and my mom is almost always working. But, she continually says it is my ATTITUDE?? I cant figure it out! Oh, and its my TONE of Voice?

Does anyone have any ideas how to fix this, or what to do?
Please Help! I'll take anything.
Thanks!

Answer 1

i know what your talking about!!!1 im almost 15 and my mother and i argue a LOT. one way to fix it is to just change your facial expressions when your talking to her. make sure that your arms aren't crossed and you dont have a grimace on your face. another thing to do is have your voice sond like your talking calmly with your friends but dont talk like you would around your friends (ie... **** **** damnit) if you just alter your voice a little bit and avoid sarcasm then it should be fixed in no time. and if this doesnt work sit down calmly when you two arent at each others throats and tell her your opinion on the matter that you were arguing about, one of the things i have worked out with my parents is that if i can tell one of us is gonna blow up then i ask if i can go relax for x amount of time to calm down so that we can speak rationally

Answer 2

Well...what can you do to help? Is your mother wrong? Or does she just pull those words ATTITUDE and TONE out of the blue? Sometimes you don't realize that people like you mother, when they work and come home, all they want is just some peace and quiet for a while. You don't know what they've been through at work. And just maybe she doesn't want to unload her work burden on you, or maybe she can't because all your friends are around. Mom needs a little space when she gets off and you need to provide her that. Maybe you should ask your mother what you should do to fix the tension between the two of you. Ask your friends to excuse themselves prior to your mother arriving home from work. Or ask them to come over well after your mom has had a 2-3 hour "cool down" time after work.
Do something for your mom once and a while if you have the time. Clean the house. Do a project that your mother takes on all the time, you do it once and a while. Your mother is working for everyone in the house. Remember that. One day you will be in her shoes. And you might have a son or daughter just like you are now...think about that. How would you expect them to treat you?

Answer 3

Honey, I'm 16 also and I have the same problem with my own mom, try to take the situation from her point of view, hopefully you came the with same agreement, and when arguing with her don't raise your voice, and I know its hard not to, but at least try that always clam down the tension in the room. And not worry its normal teenge girls always argue with their mothers its a way of life what I call it.

Answer 4

I'm a mother of three wonderful girls,15,13,and 9.Believe me with 3 of them,things can get heated now and then.Try asking your mom if you both can write letters to each other when things start stirring up.(ask before they do).It seems like when you write your arguments down on paper your more careful about what you say.We have a "talking notebook",that way we can go back and look at some of the stupid things we were arguing about.Good Luck.I hope things get better for both of you.♥

Answer 5

Its a hard question or problem to resolve when your a teenager. I used to fight with my mom like crazy about every little thing it seemed like and yes tone of voice was one of those things. You just have to remember that since your mom is working she probably has a lot of stressful days and is on edge when she gets home. just try to be understanding of that. I know how cocky i could get when i was a teen and you don't always mean to be it just comes out that way, not trying to offend you, just try to watch your tone from time to time and try and listen to your self from her perspective. I know easier said then done but give it a try. good luck!

Answer 6

I know,. this is a HUGE problem, especially between teenage girls and their mothers. I can relate. It is really hard to deal with anything when your mom takes everything you say offensively. Try to calm down. Take a deep breath before you say anything else, and make all effort to sound calm. If you don't sound angry, maybe she'll get the hint, and calm down herself.

Answer 7

there may be more than meets the eye going on in your moms life. you might just want to sit down and talk to her, and say that you don't know why she is always yelling at you, and that, if you feel that it is a problem, that you would like to be able to spend more time with her. Also, friends are a good way to escape family situations, and have a fun time, and also just to have someone to confide in. My best friend and i both have problems with our parrents and siblings, and we find comfort in being able to talk to each other, and have someone who understands what we are going through to talk to. if you need someone to talk to who understands what you are going through, then you can email me at: [e-mail]. I also have yahoo messenger. i am sorry that you are going through this, and if i am any help to you than i am extremly happy! =)

Answer 8

well, the teens can be the worst period of one's life.. u have mood swings & it seems that parents until now cannot deal with it.. well, 2 stop this arguing alittle.. try to ask ur mom to be friends with u... i mean, u can listen to her & she lisrens to u.. if u do this, u will have less arguings.. coz u'll be listening to one's other problems & trying to find a way to work them out.. so good luck !

Answer 9

Sweetie - try putting yourself in your mom's shoes, maybe you'll understand her better.