My best friend has been acting jealous lately. I am a good friend to her when she needs someone to watch my godson. I do it without a second thought but the thing is she has been acting stank. I have come back from a program that helped me complete my education and i have a trade now. I also live in my own apartment with no kids. I did this all by myself and before she had my godson i always told her she could do it but why does she act stank. I never act better then her but at times she can be rude for no reason or try to put me down. What she did to her life is her fault why does it feel like she is blaming me.
2006-08-05 05:18:07 · 25 answers · asked by sierra 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Community Service
Sometimes you don't want your friends to do better than you cause it makes you feel like a failure. That you've wasted your life and accomplished nothing. If this is the problem then do nothing and continue to be a good friend. Most types of jealous die down if the friend doesn't escalate it.
The other possibility here is that you are showing off. Do you make a point of telling her of your latest purchases. Of talking about your job? Do you make light of current prices as if its not big deal to you.
You seem to have an idea of what she is (or should be ) jealous of without her having said she is. Maybe her current mood isn't about you. Ask yourself if you don't get a swell of pride at how much better you are doing than her. In which case you are the problem and not her.
2006-08-05 05:47:49 · answer #1 · answered by the webpage master 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes in life we as human beings look for someone to blame for our faults, and you happen to be that person, or one of the people. She too can get the same things that you have. She just have to know what she wants, and have to work hard. Maybe in a sense you two may need some air from each other for a little while, before you lose your friendship altogether, because she is going to continue to act stank toward you untill you put your feet down. People only treat you the way you allow them to treat you. Did you tell her how you felt? Maybe her attitude is else where, and you are the closet thing to her, so she lashes out at you. In any case talk to her if you already hadn't, and if you have, and she continue to act that way, then do what I said at first, and get some air.
2006-08-05 06:12:20 · answer #2 · answered by Cocoa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy stems from insecurity. Do not let your friends bad attitude bring you down. She made some bad choices and her life will be harder for it. That is all the more reason why the teenagers on this site need to listen up and wear a condom. Not just for pregnancy but for everything.
Congratulations to you for being responsible and taking the steps in your life to have a better one.
Sometimes, people drift apart. But, if you feel like this is an individual you want to continue to be friends with you are going to have to call her on it and if she says she is jealous then maybe you can help her so she can better her life too.
2006-08-05 05:23:54 · answer #3 · answered by Just a Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's just jealous that you got off your butt, worked hard, and now you are living your life on your own terms. You don't have kids out of marriage and aren't out of work and you don't have to worry about providing for a child, getting daycare, finding a job, etc.
You did something she probably wants/wanted to do, but she is too lazy to do it. If she keeps it up then confront her about how she acts. Let her know you love her, but that her putting you down and acting jealous has to stop. She needs to know that friends don't treat eachother that way. Maybe you can help her to get into school or something, that way she can start working towards a better future.
2006-08-05 05:22:29 · answer #4 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy. It's hard to watch other have better things in life (even if they've worked hard for it). Eventually she will realize that just having you there for her is enough...she won't need to compare herself to you. She's also probably feeling like her life is over and she'll never be able to get back on track. Maybe you could talk to her about seeing a counselor that could guide her in the right direction. She just needs some good things to happen to her so she feels she is finally getting a break. Take her on a mini day spa/shopping trip and make her feel alive again. Talk to her about this then. GOOD LUCK!
2006-08-05 05:25:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is just to go on with you life doing what you know is right and find some time to ask her about it, if she dosent respond well it is not your fault. You are trying to better your life and what she has done with her life to this point is not your problem. Maybe this will encourage her to do something with her life. I have a best friend who acts like she is better than me, but the fact is......I am a harder worker than her and prettyer than her, but I never say those things or act like it. They will get over it. Best friends always know who the best friend is in the end
2006-08-05 05:24:48 · answer #6 · answered by c g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many times people who aren't doing well get upset with those who are. You have no children, some education, and a career; she has no of this. Yes, it all is her own doing and yes, she could do things to improve her life. If this is really your best friend, take her out to lunch, or invite her over your place for a meal, and talk to her. Let her know that she is still your girl and you want to be there for her for moral support. Then, leave it up to her. You can't make her change. She has to decide for herself what she is going to do with her life and if she still wants to be friends with you.
2006-08-05 05:31:01 · answer #7 · answered by truly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"act stank". I never heard that before.
Are you sure she's jealous? I've heard people describe others as jealous because it makes them feel so superior. I don't know enough about your situation to really give you a good answer.
2006-08-05 05:23:42 · answer #8 · answered by kitten lover3 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she isnt. she is probably bitter that she had the same oppertunities once and now it will be harder for her to pull through.
if her husband lives with her he should play Mr. Mom an dlet her finish her studies, if he does, she shoudl move in with someone, like her parents or someone who is trustworther and then finish school. it isnt that hard. My mom quite school to get married to my biological father, after they divorced we moved in with my grandparents so she could go back to school. she finished and got a great job.
your friend is just upset that you are liveing the life that you both wanted while she is living the life you were both afraid to live.
talk to her aboutit, maybe it will help.
2006-08-05 05:23:51 · answer #9 · answered by Miss. Advice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is just what you said, she is jealous, but don't be upset with her but rather find things in her life to discuss that you would like to have to try and make her feel better or better yet see if there is something you can do to help her feel better about herself and her situation
2006-08-05 05:23:35 · answer #10 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋