What if time out only makes tantrums worse, ignoring her dosen't work?

Question

She is agreat kid other than these tamtrums that have started over the past few months. She is kind of spoiled, but she is one of 4 kids and no one eles acts like this because thier spoiled.

Answer 1

For this kid, any kind of attention is better than none. Hey, if she has to have a tantrum to get it, she will. What you need to do is remove her from the rest of the family, into her room, shut the door. There is no one there to give her any reinforcement is she is alone there by depriving her of the attention. Read Dr. Phil; he has some great advice for kids like this. OH...spoiled kids are nothing to brag about.

Answer 2

You are the parent of 4 children, and you should already know that things require different stratagies between the different children. You need to remember that you are the parent here, and not a friend when it comes time to use discipline. Your child has learned through her behavior and your actions that when the tantrums get worse, you give in. Bad thing to teach her!!! You have to leave her there to scream. Parents today are afraid to use a swat on the butt, and I don't mean beat the child, just get their attention. It sounds to me that that is what you need to do in this case. You seem to forget, that parents are not perfect either, but at the same time you should have learned that with the other 3 children, spoiling them is an even bigger mistake.
You have actually created the problem moreso than the child has. You reward her when she has a tantrum, and then spoil her more when she is good. You don't say anything about teaching her that there is a cause and effect to life. You need to show her that when she acts in an improper manor, that she will be disciplined in some form, and then stick to it and don't give in.
The way you are doing it now is you tell her if she misbehaves, she will be punished, and when the punishment begins she has learned that a tantrum will allow her to escape the punishment. In turn she has leared that she always gets what she wants even when she has been misbehaving.
Later in life your daughter will be the little girl that that everybody will grow to dislike, and you are creating that. Time to make her lovable again, and stop the bratty behavior. You are the parent here, and it is time to take that position. Stop trying to be her freind and stop worrying about hurting her feelings.

Answer 3

I have the same problem with my 4-year old son...and, trust me, spanking DOES NOT work! He just laughs when I spank him.

I wish I had some advise for you...I've started taking my son to a counselor to help us work through this. (His tantrums have been getting worse over the last year.)

Good Luck!

Answer 4

hm..I THINK SHE NEEDS ATTENTION AND DISCIPLINE AT THE SAME TIME!

IF SHE MISBEHAVE BE FIRM YET LOVING

BE FIRM YET UNDERSTANDING.

YOU HAVE TO FOLLOW THROUGH WITH YOUR DISCIPLINE.
MAKE SURE SHE IS NOT HUNGRY TIRED AND BORED...GIVE HER HUGS AND KISSES.

IF SHE IS THE THIRD CHILD SHE MIGHT HAVE A HARDER TIME BECAUSE THE TWO OLDER KIDS PLAY AND SHE IS STUCK WITH THE BABY! etc etc..many factors.
MY 7 YEARS OLD HE NEEDS LOTS OF ATTENTION..HE GETS BORED EASILY AND NEEDS ATTENTION...MAKE SURE SHE IS BUSY AND THE OTHER KIDS ARE NOT BOTHERING HER TOO...MAYBE SHE NEEDS FRIENDS...??
MY SON PLAYS WITH FRIENDS EVERYDAY SO HE IS NOT BORED AND ANGRY! IF SHE IS BORED THEN SPANKING AND TIMEOUT WONT WORK!

FIND WAYS TO AMUSE HER MAYBE SEND HER TO GRANDPARENTS COUSINS ..TAKE THEM TO THE BEACH PICNIC PERHAPS! GO TO PLAY GROUND TOGETHER>>>AVOID BOREDOM WITH KIDS !! have plans to do things everyday.....go to ...wading pools ..CHECK OUT VARIETY OF ACTIVITIES...rent movies....put sprinkler outside etc etc.....have fun!

Answer 5

You need to spank the child then. As long as you are not abusing her and she knows what you are spanking her for then you have nothing to worry about at all.