I am a recovering addict, Next monthprovided one day at a time i will have 2 yrs clean and sober,and yet my children who are now young adults them selves still dont talk to me it hurts so bad .. however with all that i put them through,I know it will take time ,but how much time???
2006-08-05 04:38:41 · 7 answers · asked by red velvet 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Depends how much you put them thru. maybe never!
2006-08-05 04:43:19 · answer #1 · answered by Wounded duckmate 6 · 4⤊ 5⤋
You sound like a wonderful person and you accomplished so very much so now you need to go a step further and make your life happy for you. When your children see that evenutally they will come around. I know you probably want to beg them to come and be close to you but you need to do the opposite even if it hurts you. It will be only temperary and before you know it they will be back in your life and at the same time you will be enjoying your own life. All the very best to you.
2006-08-05 11:45:38 · answer #2 · answered by chere t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how long it will take. Try writing them a letter apologizing, telling them you love them and letting them know it will be 2 years clean and sober next month. Even if they don't come around right away, you will have made that step.
Congratulations on all that you have accomplished. That is great. Two years will turn into three, then four and your life will be great.
God Bless You.
2006-08-05 11:44:39 · answer #3 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there's any easy answer to that question, but I would advise you to be very patient. Don't try to force your children into accepting you back into their lives or you'll only push them away further. Just make sure they know you love them and want to make peace, but leave it at that. I'm sure they've been through a great deal of pain due to your addiction, and you need to be completely selfless and let them come around in their own time.
2006-08-05 11:44:28 · answer #4 · answered by partlycloudy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That isn't anything that anyone is going to be able to answer. Everyone heals and forgives at their own pace. It depends on how bad you hurt them. They may come around and talk to you again or they may never want to again.
Whatever you do, don't try and force them. It could make things worse.
Good Luck!
2006-08-05 11:47:09 · answer #5 · answered by Jen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They may never talk to you again... Im sure you put them thru alot and it is hard to get over it! how do they no that your not going to go right back to it and **** up there lives again? they dont and they are probably scared that you will **** off again!
No one ever things of what can happen when they start ****** up, no you no and no offence you probably deserve what they are doing to you because you did a hell of alot worse then they are
2006-08-05 11:56:50 · answer #6 · answered by Meriah C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I stopped drinking 8 years ago.Some of my "close" family are still not talking to me.Of course it might have nothing to do with my drinking days.
2006-08-05 11:43:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋