what do you when your brother goes to iraq and dies how would you deal with something like that?

Question

my brother went to iraq in may and he was under fire and couldn't get out and him and three of the guys in the platoon died

Answer 1

First I would like to say I am sorry you have to go through this. What you are doing here on line is exactly what you should be doing, talking about him. The love you felt for your brother doesn't stop because he's passed on. Believe me the memories you have will get you through. The ache in your heart will lessen in time.
I'm not sure of your age but at my age I've lost more family and friends than I wish to count. They live on through me and my memories.
Now that we have been at War for so long, and lost so many of our young Women and Men, every Service member I meet I shake their hands and Thank Them for their willingness to sacrifice their lives for us. That's what your Brother did. Wish I could have thanked him but I can't so I will thank you and your parents for his sacrifice.
Prayer helps. I will say a small prayer for you, your brother and his team members who died serving their country.

Answer 2

I'm so very sad for your loss. Your brother was a very brave person. The way I understand it, is some people have a calling to do this kind of work. It's like they feel it's their fate. They understand they might die. They understand their family will miss them if they do. If I were in your situation, I would really think long and hard about how you think your brother would want you to conduct yourself in public, when you talk about it to other people, the media, etc., and do that. Then, when you are all alone with your thoughts, your family, your closest friends, do whatever you want. Get counseling if your grief doesn't subside a bit in a few months--and don't feel guilty the first time you let yourself laugh or smile. Your brother would want you to laugh and smile. You can't shut down your feelings of loss, of betrayal, of anger just because maybe your brother wouldn't have wanted you to feel that way. You feel the way you feel because you do. But honor him and his memory by not letting anyone but your closest friends and family in on your true feelings (if, indeed they are even different). And remember, you will see him again one day and, if you try really hard, you can feel him with you right now. Look for signs and tiny messages from him. Songs on the radio, things in nature. He's with you.

Answer 3

First, let me tell you how sorry I am for you loss. Nobody can tell you how to deal with that though. Each person is different. Just be proud of him and know that he died honorably. He had to be very brave to join the military and that's a very respectable thing to do. I'm sure he believed in what he was doing and knew the risks. It never makes it any easier though. If you feel you need to talk about it, seek out a religious official of your faith or go to a grief counselor. They can be of great help.

I wish you and your family all the best. Be proud and know he's an honorable man that served his country well. We'll pray for you to get through this trying time. God Bless!!

Answer 4

U should have stopped him . but any way go on with ur life and start to aware people about the danger and the risk of going to Iraq u may save some lives .
to be honest with u I am from the middle east i am not feeling very sorry cuz ur brother may have killed alot of innocent lives in Iraq.
I need u to know that the defeat of the US army is coming so soon if not today it's tomorrow so do what u can to save the American lives if u care about them!!
Go Iraqi Resistance...

Answer 5

You have my sympathy. I mean that sincerely. I have lost many good friends in Viet Nam, in Kuwait and in Iraq. While I was in Viet Nam, my best friend was standing beside me, less than a foot away. When the sniper got him in the head, I had his blood and brains all over me. I hurt from that for years. I believe that your brother died for something he believed in, and he died with honor. The greatest dishonor to him and all the others who have died would be to just walk out before the job is done, like we did in Viet Nam. All of those who died in Viet Nam died for no reason because we just walked away without a victory. Don't let that happen to your brother

Answer 6

I'm sorry for your loss. Honor his memory. Keep protestors from intruding on his memorial and remember they went over to make a difference...and they've done that. I'm so sorry to hear about your brother.

and Brave Heart I wonder if you would speak so freely when Saddam was in power...or are you the fortunate to have not had innocent relatives killed. Further more it is not your place to judge Americans killing innocent civilians...your insurgents kill plenty of IRAQI CIVILIANS on their own. Your own people. Wake up and look around at the facts. And you can thank those US soldiers that you can speak up without being beheaded or treated like livestock.

Answer 7

Just be proud of the fact that he died doing something he beleived in. He died protecting your rights as well as mine. I have nothing but the utmost most respect for every soldier who ever served in any conflict. And if their lives were taken during their service then I can only fist thank them for what they did for us and pray that their families understand and accept what has happened. I am so sorry for your loss, I was in Desert Storm and watched a friend of mine get killed. It is not easy to deal with until you think about what they died for. Your brother died protecting the American way of life and is a hero for giving his life in honor of our flag.

Answer 8

I'm so sorry. Thank you to your brother and your family. I guess all you can do is have pride in him, and know he was fighting for something he believed in. It will take a long time, but eventually the memories you have will be sweet and not hurt as much. Talk to people about him if you feel like it. Cry when you need to. Don't keep it all inside.

Answer 9

I was there and before we left the one thing that I remember about going is that death is part of my job recieving it was the last thing that i would want for my brothers or myself. He and the others died in the most honorable way, in the pursuit of a goal and i'm sure that if he could come back he would and do it all over again.

Answer 10

I always hated when people told me they were sorry for my loss... but you're in my thoughts. Remember the good times, remember the past. I am a strong believer in when your time is up, it's your time to go whenever you're called. Take pride in the fact that he was doing something he wanted to do, and that he was defending our country. I know that seems kind of selfish in a way, because it's not fair that your brother had to be the one to die... but he's a hero. Time heals all... You'll never forget him and you'll never truly get over it, but in time you will be healed and able to remember the good instead of grieving. Try talking to a family member... talk about him - share stories... That always helped me.