I am 50, & so is she. 25yrs earlier we had a seriuos love affair. Somehow or the other the affair did not mature into marriage. As her family thought it was high time for her to marry, and I was not ready,beacause of financial reasons. Her family arranged her marriage and she left with husband to another country. She did not leave contact numbers,or her address. Now she is meeting me whenever she comes to meet her mom. She tells me that she still loves me. I am still single, she is not proposing divorce with her hsuband because of her children.She brings up old memories,I dont know what she is looking for. I want to know if anbody can suggest what she is looking for in me,and what i should do?
2006-08-05 04:28:01 · 13 answers · asked by babla_cal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Might it be that she still loves you. Those relationships could be really strong, especially when parents get involved and when being with someone is forbidden. It's nice that you saw her again and that she told you after so many years how she feels for you. It's nice that you both have memories. But she isn't really interested in you as she doesn't wish to leave her husband to be with you. Might it be that she's only looking for refreshment of her marriage and you're quite suitable for that. On the other hand, she has arranged her life quite well: she has husband, children and you (as a potential lover) and you're single and didn't have her address and phone numbers. I think you shouldn't start anything with her, no matter how you like her because you might get hurt in the end. If she really loves you, she'll leave her husband and won't let you be hurt.
2006-08-05 04:53:47 · answer #1 · answered by Psychologist 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All she is looking for is a booty call then. If she can't come to tell her husband that she is still in love with you then something is seriously wrong my friend. You need to move on with your life and let by gones be by gones. It's no need in wasting time on someone who is already taken. And if she really loved you like you said she did she would have gotten the courage to tell her family when they arranged her marriage that she loved you and that she was gonna wait for you no matter how long it took. So honey don't waste your time on her because she is not worth it. You don't want to be a homewrecker. Look at what she is doing and imagine how her kids would feel if their mommy and daddy broke up . I wouldn't be telling you if I didn't already know.
2006-08-05 04:36:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-11 07:16:14 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it is difficult but do NOT expect any love affair or marriage.Having a love affair with a married person can be dangerous and heart-breaking. It is better that you back out now than to do anything wrong and suffer.
Try not to think about her and if you just cannot control yourself, try not to meet here.
DO ANYTHING BUT DO NOT TAKE ANY STEP WHICH COMES OUT OF EMOTION RATHER THAN LOGIC.
All this might sound rough but I think this is right.
2006-08-05 04:37:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anshu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm sounds like she may just be looking for a little spark in her life... Remebering old times and how good we felt isn't unusual... At her age her kids should be old enough to handle a divorce.. It's up to you man.. Want to risk getting in the middle of something that can turn nasty very quick go for it...
2006-08-05 04:33:44 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one can never forget his/her.it may be tht she still likes u.but u must nt say anything.she has kids n a husband ur one mistake can screw up her whole life.if she is wrong some where u must correct her.if u love her then do good for her. simply meetin to her is nt a trouble bt mak eur in tension clear to her.speak up ur mind if necessary....
2006-08-05 04:36:09 · answer #6 · answered by pri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is confused and regrets the time she lost with you and what could of been. She doesn't want to leave her husband because of the guilt and she loves her children so much to put her through that. She will have to decide if she wants to be happy for herself or for others. Sometimes it's tough to decide if you want to please others more than please yourself becuase you don't want to hurt anyone. I'm in the same boat. :)
2006-08-05 04:33:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
EX SEX is the best.
It is a middle age "bootycall". Jump on it!!
She probably has an arrangement with her husband.
Don't fool yourself and think she will leave him though, she probably has this arrangement with other men too.
2006-08-05 04:36:18 · answer #8 · answered by Tyler Durdin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she will not get divoriced then eveyone gets hurt in the end,walk away run while you still have nothing invested
2006-08-05 04:39:02 · answer #9 · answered by pycosal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well at the end of the day if she really loves you she will end it with her husband. if she can cheat on him can she not do the same to you?
2006-08-05 04:35:27 · answer #10 · answered by sweetlikehoney_73 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋