Show you back in return, especially family members?
2006-08-05 04:24:36 · 6 answers · asked by stargazer 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Why do they expect from you things they themselves would not do?
2006-08-05 04:25:18 · update #1
You go on loving and respecting them. They have to be very selfish and self centered not to return the same to you. You do what makes you come out #1. It is there choice to accept your generosity.
There are many people in this world that don't know how to love others. Even if it is family.
The best thing that you can give away and it doesn't cost anything is a smile. When you smile, that smile says so many things. Good things. So try just smiling at them and stop going out of your way to ones that are so self indulged.
I can tell by your question, you have a lot of love to give. Remember it is their choice to accept that love. If they wouldn't or can't except your love, they are the ones with the problems.
Thank you for your question and you have a great day.
2006-08-05 04:39:28 · answer #1 · answered by whenwhalesfly 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, I think we are now living in the times where compassion, kindness, respect and love for our fellowman is no longer important. Most seem to be living in their "egos" where it's all about them, their wants and needs..they don't seem to care about the feelings of others.
There are days when one wonders how we got to this point, what happened to humanity, good decent values and principles. Sad state our world is in today..
I also think disrespect, rudeness and selfishness makes a strong statement about the lack of character in those who treat others this way. I try to depersonalize and detach from those kinds of people, assuring myself that it's their problem and just being thankful I'm not like them. By not responding or reacting, we are not participating in or validating their actions.
Toxic energy emanating from these types of people is very unhealthy - just feel sorry or sad for them and move on to a happier environment.
2006-08-05 11:50:56 · answer #2 · answered by cracker 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people see kindness as a weakness. Sad, but true.
Since I've got older, I've pulled waaaaay back with being nice to people. I am nice but I don't bust a gut until they've earned it with me.
Since I've cooled off to a couple of really mean people in my life, they've been a lot nicer to me. Weird or what? Being soft, I feel like just going back to my old doormat self. I like to be nice, life's too short and all that. But I find with certain people you just have to be on your guard all the time. It's just the way they are. You show a chink in your armour and they're straight in there.
This is how I deal with people I HAVE to see (like mother in law). Nasty friends of mine I can just drop.
2006-08-05 11:34:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe they themselves are selfish and disrespectful!
and like "pyocsal" said the find kindness as a weakness
2006-08-05 11:30:08 · answer #4 · answered by ξℓ Çђαηφσ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just hanging with the wrong people or, what you think is respect and and love is different from what they think is respect and love........you need to have a heart to heart!
2006-08-05 11:28:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
some see kindness as weakness.
2006-08-05 11:27:53 · answer #6 · answered by pycosal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋