Do you think the attraction can develop? Are those the best kinds or relationships rather than those in which there is immediate attraction?
2006-08-05 04:21:07 · 32 answers · asked by kookyloo123 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If there is immediate chemistry and physical attraction.....literally run the other way......because he is more likely the person you WANT him to be. You will almost assuredly end up disappointed and hurt. I speak from experience on that one. About a year ago I started dating again. I dated two men who I knew there was no chemistry......I shared laughs and great conversations with each of them. It gave me better insight as to what I want and what I don't. Yes, I do believe an attraction can develop over time but I also think chemistry is felt right away.......it either is or isn't, from the get go. Certainly go out and have fun and experience as much dating as possible. On a side note, be sure to set your personal space boundries and date around but don't sleep around. Good Luck!
2006-08-05 04:40:07 · answer #1 · answered by Janet 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would go out with the person only if they knew that the attraction was not mutual and they were ok with it. Attraction can develop by getting to know the other person. They can become very strong over time.
2006-08-05 04:27:31 · answer #2 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like the person and they are fun to be with, there is nothing wrong with going out. When you each pay your own way and you can enjoy the company then, fine. However, don't think for one minute that you should be using someone to pay for everything since that is hurtful, leading them on and causes someone to feel bad when it is all said and done. Get the rules right up front and just be a kind, considerate person......give what you expect from someone else.
2006-08-05 04:27:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if you're not attracted to them there must be something about them that makes you wanna consider dating them. I don't see any problem with going out with them based on that, you may develop an attraction or just decide to become real goods friends.
2006-08-05 04:26:10 · answer #4 · answered by crazypinkcraze 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you took some time to get to know him, you might develop something longlasting.
When we're very attracted to a person, we don't bother getting to know them too well, we're too busy trying to jump their bones and after that gets a little old a few days weeks months (depending on how good it is), we often find that we don't like who they are as a person.
When you get to know someone and like them for who they are, you might just have a really good relationship. And you know the guys who are not that hot are sometimes a LOT better in bed. (just experience)
2006-08-05 04:30:04 · answer #5 · answered by mariana m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that she thought that attraction may develop over time, but after accepting my invitations and advances for two years, and even sharing her bed with me three times... well, she hurt me. Probably she didn't mean to. If attraction can be learned it didn't work this time.
2006-08-05 04:27:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating is for finding out about a person, time to decide if you want to be friends, or more than that...Always go slowly no one says you have to decide within 5 minutes, 5 days or even 5 months whether or not you want to spend your life with this one person. If the feelings grow, great, if not, maybe you'll just have a good friend! (and that's nothing to sneeze at!!)
2006-08-05 04:28:45 · answer #7 · answered by Happy Hag 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think attraction can develop however it must be someone who is not completely against your sexual nature.
example i dated a bodybuilder and model after 1 month i had no attraction at all.
another guy who was not ugly but just your average Joe in the looks department i turned him after 1st date physically he was not my type at all. after we stayed friends and hung out often." I fell in love with him."
I prefer tall dark and handsome but someone with the right character can definatly be more appealing than Mr. goodlooking
2006-08-05 04:32:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont believe that it can devolp. You must have some sort of an intial attraction to draw you to them. If you dont then you really are not going to be focusing on anything that they say or do. You are only going to be thinking of when is this date going to end, it would not be right for you to give the indication that you are interested if you are not and they truly are. Unfair to yourself and them.
2006-08-05 04:26:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can't answer the 2nd part of your question, as to what's "best"...but I'll tell you that the man I will love for the rest of my life, i was not attracted to at first glance. He has moved on, deciding that I wasn't "the one" but the truth remains that he was the very best i ever had, and I will forever compare men to him. They say that beauty is in the eye of the beholder.....if you behold someone, the beauty will be revealed to you. THAT is guaranteed.
2006-08-05 04:25:54 · answer #10 · answered by Stormy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋