but still be friends with them, I've tried not hanging out with her and that worked for a while, but she always invites me to do stuff with her so we can still be close friends.....any help?
2006-08-05 04:18:06 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm echoing benh316. Stay away! You have the right to remain silent and the right to say no. As a woman, I can tell you that she is probably calling you to do stuff with her just to reassure herself that she has still got you on a leash. I believe some people refer to it as being "whipped". Or else she is doing it out of pity, which is just sad.
I will warn you, when you start saying no she will probably act up and try harder to spend time with you. DO NOT mistake this for a rekindled love! For the sake of your sanity, stay away! Eventually, you will get to a point where it doesn't matter any more, then if saying close friends with her is that important to you, you can have another go at it, preferably when you already have another steady girlfriend.
Good luck.
2006-08-05 04:35:04 · answer #1 · answered by turbocharged 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U need to put space between the 2 of u. U said it ur self that it worked until she started inviting u places. U need to explain to her that u need time to get over what the 2 of u had before u can have anything new. Also, aren't u interested to know how it is that she's able to deal with being around u. Could it be that u r unknowingly, pacifying her need for u?
2006-08-05 12:15:23 · answer #2 · answered by Timber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're blessed to be around such a generous caring person, just get a new girl-friend but it's wise to continue hanging out with your friend on occasion because it looks like she's active and got things going on.
Good close friends can be rare, don't spoil this.
2006-08-05 11:25:11 · answer #3 · answered by sunshine25 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found it best to completely get out of touch with that person for a long while until you loose that attachment for them. Once this occurs, you can go back and be friends... or whatever
Just tell her that you need some time to yourself to figure things out before hanging out again. She'll get over it and you will too
2006-08-05 11:21:03 · answer #4 · answered by benh316 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck with that. Although, I suppose I have done it. It is easier with people you have a long history with. The more you have been through together and all. In the short term after the breakup (or when your crush is crushed, whatever it is), in my experience, it is best to KEEP YOUR DISTANCE. Don't see her. At all. Cut off contact. And then, maybe after some time you can be friends...and maybe not.
2006-08-05 11:21:53 · answer #5 · answered by skip 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes......if you are still so caught up with her then "being friends" will not work! You need to cut off all contact and move on. Eventually, the memory will fade and you will be open to new relationships. Again, as long as she is in your life.......yo will have a most difficult time moving on.
2006-08-05 11:22:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will find it very hard specially when you see her often. Something has to be forgoten, and her presence make it impossible for you to do it. try to distance from her for a while if you really wanted to get over her, i'm sure she'll understand it, that you need sometime to be by yourself. you and her can still be friends, but at the moment, you really need time to heal things over.
2006-08-05 11:29:46 · answer #7 · answered by Mhazeâ?¢ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to distance yourself from her. If you still have feelings for her and you are around her like that, you will continue to hurt. Say "No" as one of the posters before me said...you can even tell her the truth about why you are saying no if you want. You need to let go or risk continued emotional pain within yourself.
2006-08-05 11:24:15 · answer #8 · answered by Flyleaf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen mate....abt gettin over her .u can do unless and untill u really want to ,if u want to u can turn down her invitations....ask ur self first what do u want to do then ask her what does she want?try concentrating on ur family needs on what and where do u wanna be in the next 5 years from now or 2 years from now make a goal for urself work on it,,,,,listen to musicdo things which u never did b4......explore urself man ..and then maybe uwill get over her it all depends upon u
2006-08-05 11:23:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just focus on something or someone else. my brother started riding his bike a lot when his girlfriend broke up with him, that seems to have helped. take up a new hobby and hang out with your friends - not with you ex - alot more. btw, it's really hard to be friends after dating someone, might be better to drop the friendship. it'll hurt much less.
2006-08-05 11:22:21 · answer #10 · answered by marisha z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋