My son is three, and at a new daycare. He does great with peeing in the potty, but daily he seems to poop in his underwear. We have tried EVERYTHING we can think of, but he just won't poop in the potty except maybe once every 2 weeks. I'm ok with him taking his time, but the problem is that he has to be in daycare, and all daycares here require them to be potty trained at age 3. I'm concerned the daycare is going to have a real problem if he continues to poop in his underwear most days. I need advice... help! We just don't know what to do if they say he can't be in that class.
2006-08-05 04:04:00 · 14 answers · asked by libertyjill 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Have you tried being more firm with your expectations? You don't have to be mean per se, that's not what I'm sugguesting, but every time he poops in his underwear, have him take it to the toilet and flush it. Then tell him "This is where you need to go when you feel like you need to poop. Mommy expects you to go to the bathroom in the toilet because you're becoming a big boy, and you can't go to the bathroom in your underpants anymore."
Is he having trouble reaching the toilet or sitting comfortably? This could be a factor too.
2006-08-05 04:09:21 · answer #1 · answered by sovereign_carrie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do DO NOT put him back into pull-ups or even threaten it. He may be having problems with it being a new daycare. It could also be a privacy issue. As a daycare director and teacher I know that most daycares take all the children to the potty together and all the boys can see each other potty. He may be self-conscious about going in front of others. It may also be that he isn't being taken to the potty when he needs to go, (trust me it happens more than you think) Also if the teacher is scolding him b/c he has accidents that could make it worse. I know you are told that NEVER happens but it does. Ask him if he gets in trouble by the teacher for pooping in his pants. He shouldn't be getting in trouble b/c at that age sometimes things happen. At my daycare I wouldn't kick him out b/c he poops in his pants. That is still potty trained just having accidents. There has to be leniency. Our potty training policy is they must be able to go most of the time and NOT wear diapers or pull-ups above 2 yrs old. I say give it time, work with him and explain to him that he needs to go poop in the potty so that you will be very happy when you pick him up. Good Luck.
2006-08-05 11:58:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are paying the daycare good money to take care of your child.
They should know that only about half of all three year olds are toilet trained, and that boys usually take longer than girls. If they do not recognize this fact then there may also be other things they should know but do not!
Several people have suggested ways to *make* your son toilet train. Those thing only work if he is READY, and you cannot make him ready on command. In fact, the more you push, the more he Will resist, and then you could have a REAL problem. (Ask me how I know this! LOL)
There are a couple of things you can do:
- find another daycare
- tell the daycare that he is trained but sometimes has accidents (ALL kids have them!)
- find a way to stay home for a while longer....maybe open your own home-daycare!
2006-08-05 17:39:47 · answer #3 · answered by granny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your son is 3 years old, he should be potty trained by now!
Here's what worked for my daughter.. was almost 2 years old. My daughter refused to poop in the toilet as well. Encourage him, talk to him,and explain to him it will be fine...I begin to make sure the cover of the toilet was clean, place a paper towel over it and lay m&ms down..Each time she tried, or succed, I'll reward her by giving her an m&m. I made it a game, AND we even made up our own silly little song.
DO NOT give into him by allowing him to go in his underwear. By you not being consistent with him has prolonged the process of him being potty trained and may cause a problem with the day care, if it continues. Unfortunately, the child is the one that has to suffer. Be consistent and do not give in to him..Allow him to go in tiolet..If he refuses to, don't reward him..
FYI..if your son is peeing in the tiolet without any problem..There's no reason why he can't poop in the tiolet. It would be different if he wasn't going at all. Again, he's 3 and should be completely potty trained by now. Don't imped his progress by regressing back to pull-ups be consistent!
I agree with Samuella Bur...
2006-08-05 10:40:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good toilet training starts at home. He must start to be accustomed to the bathroom at daycare (and other public places for that matter). Believe it or not, most parents are really not comfortable with their child's bathroom practices 'til age 5. So at age 3, the teaching process is still workable and attainable. Be comforted in knowing that all kids are different and all kids are the same. As a parent, you will learn their early social insecurities from events like these. Your child will be fine!
2006-08-05 04:12:18 · answer #5 · answered by MJFProd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know daycares have their policies but you may want to look for one that's more understanding. Lots of kids are trained by age three but not 100% accident free.
As far as his bowel habits, watch his intake of cheese and other things that may make him constipated. Set up a reward system for days he's accident free. Like take him to the park on the way home or let him earn points toward something bigger.
2006-08-05 04:48:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My kids had a serious issue with this too in day care...the problem for them was privacy. I"m assuming the potty area is viewable by a CCTV meaning there is either a short curtain that an adult can see over or a door that is left open. I fully understand the need for these measures to protect our children from being violated but my children couldn't make themself 'go' when everyone could see. Peeing was fast and since they are boys, their backs were to the class. Actually sitting on the potty left them open and embarassed.
We combatted this problem by talking with the teacher and having her to take them potty at nap time when the other kids were laying down (or waking my kids up early to go) and the teacher would stand outside the curtain with her back to them to offer that since of privacy that they are used to at home.
This is my only solution to offer you, I hope it helps.
2006-08-05 04:27:08 · answer #7 · answered by Amy B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, my mom has worked in a daycare all my life, so i picked up a few ways of teaching and disciplining and all...well have you tried threatining to put him in a diaper? like tell him..."you need to go poop on the potty like a big boy! if you dont, then i will start putting you in a diaper like a baby....do you want to be like a baby?" just threaten him a little...get him worried that he may have to wear a diaper...but always follow through with your consequences 4 him...never say youll do something, then turn around and dont do it...otherwise he will learnto walk all over you...
good luck
2006-08-05 04:16:42 · answer #8 · answered by i will be your friend! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should try switching back to pull-ups for a while and if not ask him to tell the preschool teacher when he needs to go the the bathroom. She can help him get to the bathroom on time. Soon he'll be doing it himself. Before you do this though make an arrangement with the teacher. Good luck!
2006-08-05 06:12:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Throw the diapers away.... My son was once totally educated at two years considering I would not permit him have a diaper. I placed him on the bathroom till he pooped. Maybe a few of it was once just a little little bit of success, however no longer having diapers within the apartment does not supply him a purpose to make use of them. Eventually he'll pass, and pass on the bathroom and notice it's not so unhealthy.
2016-08-28 12:19:27 · answer #10 · answered by willsey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋