There is this colleague of mine, who I happen to be attracted to and I strong desire her but I do not want to ask her out and probably end up jopardising what the relationship that wehave now.
2006-08-05 03:49:48 · 11 answers · asked by Dele D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
there really is no way. if you're asking someone out then you're obviously attracted to them in some way or another.
2006-08-05 03:54:50 · answer #1 · answered by cindos_69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, the best advice is don't do it. Inter-office relationships are frowned upon by most companies for good reason. But to answer your question, try inviting her out with a group of people from your job. However, if you really want to date her, why would you not want to "give away your affection towards her"? Isn't that the point of asking someone out?
2006-08-05 04:08:59 · answer #2 · answered by dave_g_28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would she go out on a date with you if you are not showing affection for her????? Either ask her out or don't but stop dwelling on it because that in itself will jeapordize your working relationship. My opinion is that it is never a good idea to date a co-worker. It has the potiential of not only harming the working relationship but causing a distraction from being able to do your best at work.
2006-08-05 03:53:29 · answer #3 · answered by onejazzyjul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on what kind of relationship that you have with this person if you don't have any except work then I think that i would go ahead and ask her to hang out well say go to get something to eat or watch a movie or something that she might be interested in also. Find something that you both have in common, and go from there.
2006-08-05 03:57:27 · answer #4 · answered by babybare2526 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her if she'd like to do lunch one day. When you get there casually bring up how and why you are attracted t her, and then be silent and let her react to it, if she feels the same then ask her out to dinner or a day trip somewhere to get to know her better. It can't hurt to at least get it off your chest, the worst she can say is no but you won't be hurting your professional relationship.
2006-08-05 03:54:18 · answer #5 · answered by snowflake9540 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
work dating is tricky but easy to address you need to approach her in a neutral environment so in the break room or water cooler area before lunch ask her if she would like to join you for lunch [ no big deal right just two people having lunch that work together] then go have lunch and talk to her and get to know her and see if she has a b-freind what she is like ect. then that will give to a opportunity to ask her out
2006-08-05 04:08:27 · answer #6 · answered by nsxplus1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I wouldn't ruin the relationship that you have right now just to satisfy that taste of desire. Think it through! You guys work together. If something goes wrong, you can't just stop seeing her since you work with her you'd have to see her daily. I prefer to keep business and pleasure separate, so at least you have something to look forward to when you leave your job... but that's just me... Think about it logically... and you'll have your answer.
2006-08-05 03:54:40 · answer #7 · answered by The_Charming_jt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say hey you want to go to a movie tonight. If your worried she might think anything else say "Just Friends". Then she will know your just wanting to have a good time not get with her.
2006-08-05 03:53:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her out to lunch. Do it casually and relate it to work, like saying, "You did such a good job on that project, let me take you out to lunch." Or "Let's discuss that more over lunch, my treat." That's a good start. Good luck.
2006-08-05 03:54:06 · answer #9 · answered by Kiki Joy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
casually walk up to her and lick your lips and make kissy faces....
no, casually walk up to her at lunch time and say "hey i'm going to....(insert nice resturant she would like)....for lunch today, would you care to join me?
subtle, but she won't know it's suppose to be a date...but even if she says no then at least you have opened up lines of social communication
2006-08-05 03:55:16 · answer #10 · answered by RomanGOD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋