im young,intelligent and pretty,im educated,strong-minded,white and muslim. i fall in love to a 17 years older blak man who is not rich, and hav a 7 years old daughter from a x-girlfriend.he is african american and i never hav been in the USA. he is much taller then me, and dont know my native language,so i hav to speak english wit him,but my english isnt fluent. he is a good man,and want to marry me. he comes from Harlem and had a bad bakground,but i love him.we text,email,chat wit eachother everyday. am i an idiot??
2006-08-05 03:49:27 · 9 answers · asked by she-ra 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i hv no child,im 22. i fall in love to his heart, i like his ideas, and his voice turns me on. he isa big blak man,and i like that. he is positive to me..YES,we met online,and thats y we both dont trust eachother 100%. we both r not weak-minded ppl, but love happen. Everything at him attracted me. i want only him. we know each other since Dec-2005. he sent me a few pics of his child. he send me pics of his house. i dont think he lies. he was honest and told me his bad bakground also. he got a passport for me,and all he need is a ticket for comming to me. he is saving money now, but i wont giv in since he really is wit me. he dont know my culture,but its ok. the max.time he can stay here is 2weeks. i want to marry,but HE must want it first (in person). then i will live wit him in usa,and continue my education in usa,he will help.
2006-08-05 04:31:26 · update #1
oh god, i really dont know wat to do .thats will a great decision..wat when he act me as a queen,and then turn to a monstere.wat when he lock me and let dogs eat me...i dont trust men,i trust noone. when i go to usa,i want my native TV programms,wat when he dont giv me wat i want.. and wat when he cheat me? wat when i lose my mind there,because im soo lonely.. i REALLY love him,and he loves me too,wat when i one day say i did a mistake. sometimes it scared him,that i wont love him romantically,he will come next week to me,and im half way around the world far from him.. wat when i born a Blak baby,and divorce him.i dont want to become a single white wit a blak baby. and i dont want to lose him.. wat should i do? he is still saving money.the ticket costs 1000-1200dolar.. when he come to me should i just give in to him. i need to hug him.
2006-08-09 08:08:32 · update #2
Look Honey, What you are calling as love could be attraction, infactuation etc but for sure it's not love. Both of you have drastically different backgrounds and I personally will not suggest you to get into this relationship further.
You can be in love with a person but once you the harsh realities of life will come and knock at your door, poor love will jump out of the window.
Be practical and sensible..... Don't trust me and consult your mentor or somebody senior whom you can trust.
2006-08-05 03:59:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart. Always keep in mind that being a muslim in a country that has no love lost for the muslim religion will be an issue you will have to deal with. The culture in America is truly different than where you are from. It is extremely fast, and if you have a hard time dealing with living in the fast lane all the time, you need to think about this. Americans live a real fast life. If you really love this man and you really think you can adjust to all the changes I say give it a try. But remember it will be extremely hard for both of you. Think about this and if you decide you can deal with everything give it a chance.
2006-08-05 03:57:10 · answer #2 · answered by Rooster 1972 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your not an idiot, your just confused about life. It should tell you some thing he has a child by an ex-girlfriend. He got a woman pregnant an did not marry her why should he get married to anyone. If it was from an ex-wife that would change to whole deal. Plus how much love could there be to some one you have not seen in person. My vote would be that you find someone that has not any children out of wedlock.
2006-08-05 03:59:25 · answer #3 · answered by harrellberryhill 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say continue to tread cautiously.....stay alert and look for red flags (things that could be of concern to you). If you're in love you're in love, but up and moving can be difficult especially going to another country. Be careful 17yrs difference is quite a gap, but that decision is up to you and what you want out of life......how does your family feel about it???
2006-08-05 04:44:42 · answer #4 · answered by cub6ib9 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur not an idoit. i once fell in love with a manwho was 15 years older then me and i loved him soo much. i married him but i did divirce him but dont ask for other peoples advice because they could be wrong
2006-08-05 04:00:45 · answer #5 · answered by misssmoothforever 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No if you love him and he loves you then he will make things work out for the both of you.
2006-08-05 03:55:16 · answer #6 · answered by DiamondXxx 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
control
2015-03-14 00:08:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she want u only n d bed n enjoy that thing...
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2006-08-05 03:53:40 · answer #8 · answered by aurelio h 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pretty much. Sorry.
2006-08-05 03:54:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm
Idiot is a good word
2006-08-05 03:53:08 · answer #10 · answered by snow l 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋