I’m shy & been with only 1 man sexually so I have to ask for opinions as I don‘t have lots of experience. I had a recent major surgery & am confused by the way the doctor acted toward me; he leered at me sexually with his eyes. My question is “WHAT WERE HIS INTENTIONS & WHY DID HE DO THAT?” He turned his head toward me with a sexual look in his eyes. I didn’t look away as I was trying to figure out in my mind if he was actually looking at me that way. Then he turned his head all the way in toward mine even closer & stared ever more intensely sexually. Neither of us spoke when all this was happening. He was so tall & beautiful with golden blond hair that I couldn’t get myself to look away at first & it got so intense that finally I had to look away. I was shocked & began talking about treatment plan. He then tried to do it again a 2nd time. Because of this I thought he was interested in getting to know me & I was contemplating calling him for a date; but was appalled when I found out on web he was married, so I changed my mind. Was he making fun of me because I’m shy, or was he making a pass at me, or did he feel sorry for me because I looked so ugly after my surgery (pale/weak), or does he just simply think he’s god’s gift to women, or is he just simply being a tease? The day before I was uninhibited due to the morphine & I hugged him because he brought me good news; the hug was slightly longer than what was appropriate, & he hugged me tightly, but I initiated it. I’m 9 years older than him. I’ve been troubled about the leering. I traveled all the way to Austin for my surgery since they had special facilities there dealing with my condition. If I ever need help again I won’t feel comfortable going to him because he leered. He also doesn’t like answering medical questions. However, the surgery went well (he has fellowship training) & haven’t had problems since.
2006-08-05 03:13:09 · 5 answers · asked by J 5 in Health ➔ Other - Health
i think he was making a pass...
avoid him.
2006-08-05 03:47:22 · answer #1 · answered by olga z 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hey, you cannot know what the doc has in mind till you actually ask him ,so no point rewinding old tape!If he did leer which is what you seem to feel.. cant have been unless you are worth leering so stop getting a complex!!
Anyways ethics wise married/ not, docs aren't supposed to have any relationship with the patients they are treating.[i didn't formulate the ethics law ok ;)]
Frankly speaking you need a doctor who treats you well and you can be comfortable with. Go get your surgery/ medical work done if he's a good doc at the best facility center(that is his profession).As far as the rest is concerned let it be outside doctor patient circle!
2006-08-05 03:51:54 · answer #2 · answered by jina 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your decision to not see him again is fine. If the man is married and truly leered at you in a provocative way then he is taking advantage of his professional privilege and this should not be tolerated. Perhaps you misread him and he was just displaying professional empathy and looking at you carefully as manner of examination of his finished work. Best thing to do is let it go and if you seek a meaningful relationship with a man find someone who is unattached who has similar values as you.
2006-08-05 03:38:34 · answer #3 · answered by SunFun 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think of you could desire to tell him enormously plenty precisely what you in basic terms reported related to the cases in the previous you lost charm in basic terms slightly once you had him as your boyfriend.. yet now you like him better than ever and you dont think of it is going to ensue returned .. it is going to be ment to be in case you adult males save atrtacting one yet another.
2016-11-03 22:52:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got a crush on him.Simple as that! don't worry about it.
2006-08-05 03:17:15 · answer #5 · answered by up urs 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋