i mean shes 13 and im 15..she used to be all over me...and i asked her out and she REALLY backed off..its been about a month now and she hasnt given me an answer yet....her and her mom are REALLY close..and her mom says its just becuz me and her are such good friends ..that shes afraid if we ever broke up..it would seem really weird...but she did say she liked me..but she's just scared...i mean..what should i do?? and why would she have backed off like she did if she likes me??
2006-08-05 03:12:08 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sit down and have a talk with her, and tell her you really love her as a friend. Tell her she means so much to you and is so special that you really want to see if a relationship works. Tell her you're scared too about losing the friendship (this will make her think you're sweet an honest) but you two are too close to let a spoiled relationship ruin a great friendship. If she still backs off, then tell her thats cool, and you just value her friendship. If the latter happens, you may both be willing to take it to the next level when you're a bit older and more mature, with other relationships behind you.
Hope this helps - good luck
2006-08-05 03:18:00 · answer #1 · answered by Jigga 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She backed of because, like you said she feels like it will be weird if you guys broke up. My sugestion is that you guys give it a chance anyways. You know her better than i do so you will have to think of what to tell her. Best I can tell you to do is lavish her with compliments, and tell how you truly feel about her and ask her to give it a chance and if you guys break up there should be no reason why you can't still be the friends you were. You could say "We weren't meant to be in love just together as friends and things will be fine. But I will tell you now you will most assuredly will not be together forever. when i was your age I was in middle school and high school i must have had more than 8 or 9 girl friends.
2006-08-05 03:20:30 · answer #2 · answered by Joe Holloway 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she just had a big crush on you or thought she wanted to deepen the relationship, but backed away when you asked her out because she realized what could happen if you broke up, or what could happen since you're 2 years older than her, or any other consequences. Sometimes girls just flirt a lot because they think you're cute or funny or something, but when something comes up about a relationship, they get scared and back off for a number of reasons.
Good luck and I hope I've helped!
2006-08-05 03:17:53 · answer #3 · answered by Oneofthesedays 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is simple and her mom is right, she's scared of losing you, probably. If your "the boy next door" she could have been exploring, but when you asked her out she realized you weren't playing. Remember, boyfriends come and go, but a really good friend is there forever. What should you do? Ask her to hang out as friends. Let her know that you care about her. If it was meant to be, she'll see you as more. Relax, too.
2006-08-05 03:22:44 · answer #4 · answered by penagian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happens alot. It is hard for best friends to start a relationship because its human nature to be afraid to lose what you have. Give it some time and see how things work out. If it was meant to happen it will happen, if not, well it won't. Plus, you guys are still young. Be good friends for a while. Whenever you guys are hitting highschool then give it a try.
2006-08-05 03:17:17 · answer #5 · answered by Justin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you confronted her, it surprised her & she didn't know how to react, she she backed off.
Tell her if she's so scared, to get over you, & just be friends.
Or tell her, hey..lets give it a shot, & if it's too weird, you two can just go back to being friends.
Many people stay friends after they've broken up, I understand why she would be scared though..you never know.
If she doesn't give you much of a response, back off. she'll come around sooner or later.
2006-08-05 03:22:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's either one of 2 situations: either she likes you and she's scared of getting hurt and/or ruining your friendship, or she doesn't like you and she is trying not to hurt your feelings. Either way, the solution to your problem is easy: Realize that you do not have any control over her; back off, and let it play out. If she likes you, she will come to you; if not, you can still be friends.
2006-08-05 03:18:11 · answer #7 · answered by Jake S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion she just wants 2 be friends with you, shes probably scared to have a boyfriend .shes prolly 2 immature to be in a relationship right now. I think she only knows how to flirt, dont give it anymore time, i means shes only 13 you could find some1 better =)
2006-08-05 03:20:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,its clear that she considers you a very good friend and doesn't want to lose your friendship but she knows that in a relationship,tiffs are possible and it can harm your friendship and thats the only thing thats keeping her away.......if you are very sure of your love and her,go ahead and talk to her about this and make her feel comfortable and secured.assure her and get her to have confidence in you by your strong and true feelings towards her.....
or else i suggest theres is nothing better than friendship ever......even if you get into a relationship,make sure that you are best of friends and only than you can succeed as best and ideal partner....
good luck!!
2006-08-05 03:19:01 · answer #9 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give her a little bit more time i mean y'all r really good friends like her mom said just wait for a little while longer she will come around.
2006-08-05 03:17:34 · answer #10 · answered by scorpioskew92 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋