i am in love with a girl who does not love me?

Question

i told her the way i feel abt her and she told me to get over her cuz she doesnt like me...i tried doing that but it didnt work cuz whenever i do that ma heart aches a lot(i even tried hating her...that plan backfired)i really care 4 her i wanna make her happy and pls dont tell me that there are other gurls...trust me i dont feel this way to any other gurl.and dont tell me that i will 4get her eventually cuz my heart wont allow me 2 do that...now i dread to wonder what wud happen if i wont able to get over her at all...and i know love cant be forced...i cant move on without her i just cant.plss help me

Answer 1

look DONT FORGET ABOUT HER.one thing i have learnt about love is never give up .
love is being patient.if you love her you will be able to wait till next century.PLS CHOOSE MY ANSWER AS BEST ANSWER

Answer 2

Twice, I've fallen madly in love with a girl who didn't return my feelings. In each case, the infatuation dragged on for a loooong time, breaking my heart repeatedly and leaving me with nothing to show for my efforts but misery. Meanwhile, I missed out on a lot of opportunities with girls who WERE interested in me because I was so hung up on one person.

Do you want this to be you?

The best thing for you to do right now is to cut yourself off from this girl in the same way you'd cut yourself off from a chemical addiction. Avoid situations where you're around her, and when you are around her, don't pay any attention to her. Focus on hobbies, friends, books -- anything other than thinking about her. In time, you'll come to see that she isn't really ALL THAT and you'll find yourself developing feelings for other girls again.

Sometimes a girl WILL change her mind, but you can't make that happen by continuously pressuring her. If she SAID she didn't want a relationship with you, then you have to respect her wishes, otherwise you'll just become a source of irritation. Maybe, after some time apart, she'll look at you with fresh eyes. Or maybe she won't. Or maybe you'll both find that you can have a good friendship. Whatever way it goes, right now, you need to put your unhealthy obsession aside and do other things with your time.

Answer 3

Such is life in the world of adolescent romance. Move on. I know that sounds harsh, but kids as young as you, (the way you write suggests you are only 13 or 14) have LOTS of time to find the perfect girl.

The teen years are full of ups and downs and you are just in one of those down periods. It will pass. School starts soon. You'll have new classmates, new teachers, new schedule. And maybe there will be a new cute girl who finds your smile irresistable....something like that could happen when you least expect it.

And you will survive many more breakups before you find the perfect woman to share your adult life with.

But right now you need to concentrate on doing well in school, learning a solid trade or getting your college degree.

One girl rejecting you will not destroy you. You will survive!

Answer 4

I don't understand what you want people to answer... You have basically left only "Keeping stalking her like a psycho until the police are called" as the only answer available.
If she doesn't feel it, she doesn't feel it. In that case, you aren't in love. Love is two people caring for each other. You are obsessed. That will never get you anywhere.
You can act like an idiot around her if you want to completely drive her away. Or as I "suggested" earlier, stalk her until you are arrested... OR, you could take the advice you have already received (based on what you don't want to hear), and try to get on with your life. You may never get over her, but you need to get past her.

Answer 5

It's going to take time.
Be happy atleast she was honest with you, thought it was blunt..it's better than her leading you on.
You never completely get over anyone you truely love, so expect there to be some emotion left for her.
think bout how she doesn't like you, & there will never be anyhting between you two. It hurts like hell, but for some reason..it helps.

& the truth is, you will move on for the most part, it never seems like it'll happen, but it really does. Just calm down & get on with your life, it will all fade slowly.

Sadly, there's not much else you can do.

Answer 6

love is a thing of the heart and can't be force.If by words you can't win her then use your conduct by caring more than usual.Buy her present(gifts) And lastly, try all you could to be a really friend to her with time she will start to love you.But sweetheart, the Truth you don't want to hear, which is true is that she may have found her own true love in someone else which she will not want to risk by playing double game.If at end your words, conduct, friendship and gifts could not win her then leave let her go if she is yours she will come back to you.Remember the sayings "if you catch a butterfly leave it let go, if it is yours it will come back to you, but if it didn't come back then know that it is not yours"

Answer 7

Seriously let her go. Why would you want someone who does not feel the same about you?? What, do you want a crap relationship??And the more you pester her with how you feel the more annoyed she will feel towards you. Collect what pride you have left, find a hobby, take a holiday or something to take your mind off her. Your sounding obsessed and thats not good for you or her.

Answer 8

i've been in kinda the same situation. And after a while i begun to understand that there are other girls out there. Then i begun to look for a girl and found a good now, and after that i felt great that i got over that girl and meet a new one

Answer 9

are u sure you love her? infatuation has some of the same signs

Answer 10

u might want to just forget about it.. life is hard sometimes